Ai Fukuhara and Jiang Hongjie are officially divorced - after the news came out, compared with the voice of "congratulations to Xiao Ai" on Weibo, in Japan, Ai Fukuhara was still subject to "national trial".
From a woman who once dreamed of being a "husband and son" to having the courage to end a marriage that was disrespected and lost herself, Ai Fukuhara completed her self-awakening and growth as a woman, but as a Japanese woman, she paid a huge price for it.
Ven | Lexie
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"Even if your husband has problems, you have to be a good wife"
At the beginning of this year, the Japanese media took the lead in exposing some details in the marriage between Ai Fukuhara and Jiang Hongjie -
For example, Jiang Hongjie's mother called Ai Fukuhara "Golden Rooster Mother" (meaning cash cow); Jiang Hongjie asked Ai Fukuhara to dress conservatively when she went out, but still after Fukuhara Ai went to see a dentist, she said to her wife, "You look like a prostitute with your mouth open." ”
According to the Japanese media "Weekly Wenchun", Jiang Hongjie ignored Fukuhara's feelings before the wedding, directly refused to attend on the grounds of shoulder pain, and even blamed her for sabotaging the wedding atmosphere because she was crying.
For Love Sauce, Disney used to be her dream, and her wedding was also held in Disney.
A large number of facts show that Fukuhara Ai suffered serious mental violence during marriage, and her marriage to Jiang Hongjie was far less happy than they appeared externally.
But even if this information is first reported, in Japan, the media criticism of Jiang Hongjie's family is limited to giving them a name - the monster family.
In early March, the Japanese media "Female SEVEN" reported that Ai Fukuhara and her male friend "Shohei Yokohama Otani" behaved intimately on the streets of Japan, and then Japanese netizens and Japanese media launched a concentrated crusade against Ai Fukuhara.
They almost one-sidedly besieged Ai Fukuhara, criticizing her for ignoring her children and going out with her "boyfriend" without formal divorce. In the eyes of Japanese netizens, compared with the "verbal violence" and "mental violence" carried out by Jiang Hongjie's family, Fukuhara Ai's outing with men is much more terrible.
"What would a husband think if he brought a man he didn't know to his own home and lived in it?" That national crying ghost kissed her husband repeatedly in the show, who would have thought that she would have cheated on that day? ”
"Even if the husband has problems, during this period, Fukuhara Ai should also abide by her obligations as a wife."
"Ai Fukuhara, you are more than 30 years old a 'person', you have a husband and 2 children, although the husband may not be as good as you think, but you still have children." 」
On March 4, Ai Fukuhara wrote a handwritten letter apologizing to the public. In that letter, Ai Fukuhara first explained that she had made her husband, children, and family in Taiwan feel uneasy about her, and they were worried. He also explained that when he and "Shohei Yokohama Otani" went out, whether in the hotel or at their own home, the two did not live in the same room.
However, the effect of this apology letter is very small, compared to Ai Fukuhara's explanation, the Japanese public who has not received a real hammer still believes that Ai Fukuhara must have cheated. Another Japanese netizen commented, "Ai Fukuhara has become worthless because of the scandal." ”
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The cause has been cold in an all-round way, and the crusade has never stopped
Caught in the whirlpool of denigration and resistance by the Japanese masses, Fukuhara Ai's personal work and career have been cold.
According to the Japanese media "Weekly New Wave", after the beginning of March, the entertainment program that Ai Fukuhara participated in was notified of the suspension of recording, and as a former table tennis player, she had planned to participate in the commentary work related to the Tokyo Olympic Games, but unfortunately, this series of work will be temporarily shelved.
On the first day of commentary, I sent a weibo, which showed how much I liked this job
Ai Fukuhara's personal career was also forced to slow down.
According to Flash, Ai Fukuhara founded the company omusubi in January to manage her career in Japan and do some sports activities for children and elderly wheelchair patients, but it was soon discovered that the company's mailbox was covered with tape and the doorbell was unanswered.
Omusubi issued an apology statement, mentioning that it was very sorry for the trouble caused to everyone
Once, Ai Fukuhara also planned to open a kindergarten in Japan, but now, she has been criticized by Japanese netizens: "Who dares to give a child to such a person?" ”
Even in his hometown, Ai Fukuhara was not tolerated.
Originally from Sendai, Japan, Ai Fukuhara has been a goodwill ambassador for tourism in her hometown for the past decade, attracting visitors from Chinese mainland and Taiwan. This year, sendai City Hall was scheduled to show a video of Ai Fukuhara cheering for her hometown during its commemoration of the 311 earthquake. But with the exposure of the marriage incident, the local staff in charge of holding the event said that they "don't know whether to broadcast it or not." On the day of the event, it is true that this image with Ai Fukuhara was not played, and at the same time, the video that has been uploaded on the official website of Sendai City has long been removed from the shelves, for fear of having something to do with Ai Fukuhara who is caught in the scandal.
At that time, Toshio Ishikawa, a well-known Japanese journalist, analyzed that if Ai Fukuhara let go of all this and did not divorce him, it would be difficult to continue to work in Japan, because she would be regarded as a ruthless mother who divorced by "giving up child custody".
At the same time as the career was suspended, the Japanese public's "trial" of Ai Fukuhara continued.
The Japanese media "Weekly Women PRIME" surveyed 1,000 housewives and came up with a list of "unscrupulous artists". Ai Fukuhara topped the "BuLun Artists" list.
In second place on this list is the mixed-race actress Becky. In January 2016, Becky was exposed to her relationship with the lead singer of the rock band "Extremely Despicable Girl", and published intimate photos and chat records of the two. The man was married at the time, and Becky continued to maintain the relationship knowing that she was a third party. But in this relationship, the married male lead singer suffered far less attacks than Becky.
The next few are all stars caught up in the cheating scandal. On this list, Ai Fukuhara surpassed the second place by 100 votes to become the "champion".
Among them, it is worth mentioning that Japanese housewives over the age of 60 have the most fierce criticism of Ai Fukuhara, among which the most representative comment is:
"I can't imagine that a genius girl is such a frivolous woman."
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In Japan, "the man who cheated is reliable and capable"?
Compared with Fukuhara Ai, Jiang Hongjie, the abuser in marriage, the situation is much better.
After the two of them reported a marriage change, Jiang Hongjie first said that the two children and Fukuhara's beloved mother were still in Taiwan to be taken care of by himself and his family, and then he also took the family to personally send his mother-in-law, Chiyo Fukuhara, to the airport.
Afterwards, Jiang Hongjie also posted a photo of his mother-in-law on the INS and sighed: "Before leaving, I talked a lot, helpless, unwilling, but always have to separate, to hear that you return to your hometown mood is more responsible, but I hope you can always be safe and healthy, as happy and happy as when you were in Taiwan." ”
Jiang Hongjie took a family to send Fukuhara's mother to the airport.
The Japanese media "FRIDAY" weekly quickly reported on the matter, with the headline "Fukuhara Love Husband's 'Airport Propaganda' Favorability Soaring, Whether It Affects Divorce" - in this way, Jiang Hongjie's family successfully washed away the title of "monster family" and won a wave of sympathy from netizens.
Instead, Ai Fukuhara did not show up at the Airport in Japan at the time, but was picked up by her brother for her mother, and she was criticized for "not being too ruthless" for this.
In Taiwan, the Taiwanese media, which regards Jiang Hongjie as his own, have also unanimously aimed their guns at Ai Fukuhara, while Jiang Hongjie, who once denounced his wife as a "prostitute," has been portrayed as a complete "victim."
Therefore, the bad sister can't help but want to further explore - in the current Japanese society, what kind of existence is a woman?
Director Ryo Takeuchi, the director who filmed the Ai Fukuhara documentary, once pointed out on Weibo that the Japanese have always been stricter about cheating on girls than boys. There is even an old Japanese saying – "Floating 気は男の甲菲 sex (a man who cheats is reliable and capable)." ”
Japanese Yahoo, directly asserted that Fukuhara ai was not on the street with his friends this time.
Even if the so-called "Fukuhara love cheating" is still speculation, japanese netizens have shown no mercy on her crusade, and if the same thing happens to Japanese men, the whole society is much more tolerant.
First of all, if a boy cheats, few people will care that he "doesn't care about the child". Ryo Takeuchi said, "The Japanese social philosophy is that even if both husband and wife are working, it is the wife's job to manage the children. Fundamentally, this is a kind of "gender-based moral double standard."
As for why the Japanese firmly believe that Fukuhara loves to cheat, the specific reason is enough to see the imprisonment and discipline of women in Japanese society.
Mom Gaku, a female Youtube blogger from Taiwan, approached her Japanese husband and asked him to analyze the differences between Taiwanese girls and Japanese girls. Her husband said that in Japan, even couples will be separated from each other when walking on the road. Immediately after, the film uses the photo of Ai Fukuhara and "Shohei Yokohama Otani" as an example, the distance between the two people is within 15 centimeters, so the blogger asserts that "this is completely the distance in love".
In this regard, some netizens can't help but sigh: "No matter how strong the wind of equal rights for men and women is, it seems that it cannot blow Japan and Taiwan." ”
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The awakening and growth of Ai Fukuhara
In fact, whether it is a Japanese media or a Japanese netizen, when they learned that Fukuhara Ai and Jiang Hongjie were in love, their attitude was the same - the two were not originally matched.
Jiang Hongjie's skills and popularity are far less than Fukuhara Ai, and his ability to make money is not worth mentioning.
According to Japanese media reports in earlier years, in 2007, Ai Fukuhara's annual advertising endorsement fee could reach 80 million yen (about 5.31 million yuan at the exchange rate at the time), while Jiang Hongjie's annual income was only 4 million yen (about 263,000 yuan).
After they were together, Jiang Hongjie was often exposed by the "Weekly Wenchun" that the practice was not hard, and he was often lazy. At the beginning, the Okinawa table tennis team "Ryukyu Future Suns" and the sponsor accepted Jiang Hongjie because he was "Fukuhara Ai's husband" and may be able to bring some contributions to the team league. As a result, Jiang Hongjie was very lazy in the process of practicing, often not participating in training on the grounds that Ai Fukuhara was pregnant, and in the 2018 season, his performance in doubles was 1 win and 5 losses, and in 2019, he rarely even participated in the competition.
During the game, Jiang Hongjie was abused by Ma Long.
But even so, in the Japanese public perception, Ai Fukuhara still needs to be a "good wife" who is completely subservient to her husband.
On April 12, 2019, at the opening ceremony of the University of Tokyo, Ms. Chizuru Ueno, a women's scholar and professor emeritus of the University of Tokyo, delivered a speech to the freshmen of The University of Tokyo. In her speech, she pointed out that -
In Japan, girls are expected to be "cute" from an early age. Being persuaded and forced to become "cute" is a common phenomenon that is difficult to get rid of in contemporary Japan, and it is also the survival dilemma that women who live there need to face every day.
In Japanese, there is a word for "Yamato", which is used to describe the "ideal woman" in Japanese culture. They are expected to be gentle, virtuous, considerate and quiet housewives, a term that, in the view of Japanese cultural scholars, means that a woman can perfectly perform housework and child-rearing while maintaining perfect beauty and youth.
Ai Fukuhara also grew up in such a patriarchal culture and was deeply influenced.
Before going to the reality show, she had not even been to a nightclub, she had not taken a plane before knowing Jiang Hongjie, and her youth was used to play ball.
Ai Fukuhara once had a brief love affair with Japanese tennis player Kei Nishikori, and the two quickly made headlines in the Japanese media. But at the time, people, including Fukuhara's father Takehiko Fukuhara, reacted fiercely to this: "Countless examples have proved that love has an impact on competition, and she may have been temporarily confused by Kei Nishikori." In desperation, Ai Fukuhara, who was just in love, had to stand up and apologize and said that he would definitely play the ball well. After the matter calmed down, fukuhara ai and Nishikori Kei's love affair naturally came to an end quickly.
Ai Fukuhara and tennis player Kei Nishikori on a street date.
After getting married, in an interview with the Japanese media, Ai Fukuhara described his "ideal life" this way: "My biggest dream is to cook every day, wait at home for my husband to come home, and ask him, do you want to eat first or take a shower first?" For her husband, who is training and competing around the world, he cooks at home, accompanies the children, and when the husband arrives home, he takes off his shoes and changes clothes. ”
In fact, she did the same. However, unlike many Japanese women, she is Ai Fukuhara, a female athlete who once had a brilliant career.
From the age of 5, she won the children's division of the Japan National Table Tennis Championships for three consecutive years. After entering the national team at the age of 12, she was the youngest athlete in the history of the World Table Tennis Championships to reach the top 8. At the 2012 London Olympics, Ai Fukuhara led the Japanese women's team to a silver medal, which was also the first Olympic medal won by the Japanese table tennis team since 1988.
Most of the people who can achieve outstanding results in competitive sports have a strong personality and competitive spirit, even if they are also imprisoned and disciplined by traditional patriarchal thinking in life, but Ai Fukuhara finally made a completely different choice from traditional Japanese women.
Not long ago, the Japanese media "Weekly New Wave" pointed out a way to "stop the bleeding in time" to Ai Fukuhara in a report. The experience of Japanese female singer Makoto Goto was taken as a sample that Ai Fukuhara should learn.
Goto Masaki confessed to apologizing as soon as he cheated on him, and left the public eye to go behind the scenes. A year after the incident, he returned to perform with the members of AKB48 through a music program, and now his acting work is still stable, and more importantly, Goto Makoto, who has also suffered verbal and mental violence in marriage, has not divorced her husband.
But this was clearly not the life That Ai Fukuhara wanted.
Although she was also brainwashed by Yamato and regarded "Sagami Godson" as her ideal in life, in the end, Ai Fukuhara decided to end her unhappy marriage and leave her husband who did not respect herself - she made life choices that were loyal to herself, and also completed her self-awakening and growth as a woman.
Chizuru Ueno pointed out in the book "Misogyny" that in the current Japanese society, if women want to get rid of the traditional status quo of being bound and restricted by husband power and patriarchy, they can only refuse to become mothers and daughters.
In front of the public, "good" and "cute" used to be Fukuhara Ai's most distinctive personal labels, but this time, as a Japanese woman, she made the most rebellious and self-imposed choice, and paid a huge price for it.
The Japanese public's "encirclement and suppression" of Fukuhara Ai is still continuing, but Fukuhara Ai's own choice of life has finally officially begun, for the future, the bad sister wants to borrow Fukuhara Ai's former coach and her friend Tang Yuanyuan wrote a Weibo comment to her -
Love, congratulations, come on!
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