At 3am I was pushed down on the couch by him.....
Today's story is heavier, before appreciating, Qi Fan would like to ask everyone, have you ever had the most unbearable pain? What does it look like?
For most girls, the unbearable pain may be that when the menstrual holiday comes, the endless pain in the abdomen is like a dagger that is inserted repeatedly and repeatedly, and the knife is constantly stirred, until the pain temporarily fades, and after a short break, it will repeat the infinite cycle according to this. This is accompanied by constant dizziness and vomiting. Maybe that's why most girls become irritable and irritable during menstruation.
But today's story is a kind of pain of being hit by a double blow, the pain of breaking your fingers and cracking your ribs!
He was a Dodge, and I met him in college, and yes, on campus where love was all over the place, and I fell in love with him.
Under his endless tricks, I fell deeply.
He's on the basketball team, he's a clean guy, and like a lot of girls, I love watching guys play basketball on the basketball court. Like many girls, I like the confidence boys feel when they pick up the ball and go to the basket.
That day, as usual, I was watching them play basketball when he walked over.
The afterglow of the setting sun shone on him, and at that moment, as if the world was only me and him, just like that, we exchanged WeChat with each other.
Not long after we were together, although he usually had a little temper with me, but it was not normal for couples to quarrel with each other, and our feelings were still stable, and the days were still quite ritualistic.
After graduation, I didn't even think about it, so I took the hukou book and rushed into the Civil Affairs Bureau with Dodge. He became the first person in the dormitory to enter the palace of marriage.
What I just didn't expect was that the boy who had sworn to be good to me for the rest of his life would become so fast, even so terrifying.
After getting married, he began to lose his temper with me more and more frequently, and even abused me.
Your ears are deaf, shout at you a few times you can't hear!
What are you wearing! Try it again in this way!
What's so good about a friend dinner that you want to eat with other men? How can you be so slutty!
........
I really couldn't stand it that day, so I yelled at him twice, who knows, after drinking wine, he slapped me hard with his backhand.
In an instant, it was pitch black and his head was buzzing.
Before I could react to the heat on my face, he pushed him against the wall with his neck.
I struggled hard, trying to snap his hand away with my fingernails. Stimulated by alcohol and pain, he frantically grabbed the little thumb of my left hand with his other hand and slammed it down.
He was like a blood-sucking demon, and the more fierce I screamed, the more excited he became, the harder he tried harder, harder and harder.....
"Click" – the broken tendon of his little finger gave him a temporary return to a hint of sobriety.
On the way to the hospital, he kept confessing to me, saying that he loved me very much, but only after drinking alcohol, his emotions were out of control, and he was overwhelmed by alcohol, he would do this kind of animalistic thing. Tell me that my grandparents are gone, and that he is the only one left (his parents divorced when he was a child and was brought up by his grandparents).
At that time I really sympathized with him, and under his begging, I softened my heart and chose to forgive him.
But later I learned that the original domestic violence was really only zero times and countless times.
Evil is like this, after getting a little acquiescence from the victim in one temptation after another, it begins to slowly run rampant.
Now think about it, if you had known this earlier, maybe you wouldn't have been treated inhumanely again.
After that day, he picked me up every day to and from work and didn't get drunk. Except for working hours is to stay with me. At one point, I had hope in my heart that he had really changed.
But how can I forget that the country is easy to change, the nature is difficult to move, and the dog can never change the truth of eating shit!
All the calm is nothing more than a prelude to the storm.
He began to become suspicious, and while I was in the shower, he began to check my phone, chat history, and report to him in real time no matter what I was eating or doing.
Such a strong desire for control overwhelmed me. Sometimes I wonder if I have forgiven people and things that should not be forgiven, and only then have I given the green light to hurt...
I just got back from overtime that day and opened a 99+ dialog box and replied, "At the elevator door." ”
Suddenly, the voice of the 301 male resident next door came from the ear, "You also worked overtime until such a late hour." ”
Out of politeness, I smiled at him, "Ah... That's right. ”
Who knows, this scene happened to be seen by him, when he got home, he directly pushed me down on the sofa without saying a word, and did not believe the beginning and end of the things I said to him, that is, he broke his mouth and scolded, "You bitch, all day long thinking of seducing men, as far as your virtue is concerned, I want you." ”
I didn't want to argue with him, but I didn't think I was wrong, so I said impatiently, "Believe it or not."
Unexpectedly, this sentence completely angered Lin Yi, who grabbed my hair, dragged me to the ground, punched and kicked me, and kept scolding in his mouth: "You slut, call you a slut, tell you not to face." ”
When I woke up again, my chest hurt and Ached – two ribs in my left chest were fractured.
At that moment, I really realized that domestic violence is from scratch, accompanied by the process of escalating violence.
How could it possibly disappear?
I think I must take up the weapon of the law to escape from the existing predicament, even if it is a rotten wound of a maggot, as long as I pinch the knife and gun, amputate the bad limb, remove the bone and heal the wound, I can regain the freedom of life.
On the day of the divorce, Lin Yi was still crying to me about his crimes, trying to get my forgiveness before the trial.
Ridiculous! Forgive him? And then let him hurt me again?
In the face of the living room domestic violence video, the hospital's medical records and injury identification, the police police records, in front of these evidences, I finally divorced this 24k pure scum.
On the day I got out of court, the sky was blue, very blue, very blue...........
Seeing this, I don't know if you have anything you want to say? Let's start with that!
In fact, from the moment I started, I felt that everything should not have room for maneuver.
All soft-heartedness in the face of such a statement as "emotional out of control" will only allow violence to grow wantonly.
Qi Fan firmly believes that blindly forbearance, withdrawal, and lowering the bottom line will only make domestic violence endless.
You might contradict me,
What if you have a divorced child, and do you want him to grow up in a single-parent family?
Relatives and friends around me, even my parents advised me that it was so easy for a woman to remarry.
He was usually very nice to me and he promised it would be the last time.
But I would like to say that if you don't divorce your children immediately after being beaten once, do you have to wait to be beaten to death by your husband?
Of course, it is easy for them to persuade you to forgive, just move their mouths, but whose fist is hit on, and who is the last pain?
Isn't the sugar-coated cannonball the usual retention drama of domestic violence men? Make your heart soft and then pua you again.
You must know that all evil is caused by character, and even if the disguise is good, it is difficult to change people's character.
Violence is endless, so don't try it with your body easily.
For domestic violence around you or around you, please be sure to be brave enough to stand up and say "no".
Finally, the story is someone else's, and you are welcome to write to me privately,
Sharing it, of course, is also hoping to share a kind of power, because there is some confrontation, and we always need to be "together".
Regarding "domestic violence", this is the end of it. Our expressions will not stop, nor will our discussions stop.