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<h1 class="pgc-h-decimal" data-index="01" > introduction</h1>
Since January this year, couples who apply for divorce will face a "divorce cooling-off period", which means that divorce registration can be withdrawn within 30 days after filing a divorce. Since the implementation of the new regulations, some couples have indeed repaired their marital relationships in this month, and the rate of impulsive divorce has declined. We can't help but sigh that today's young people are a bit hasty about getting married and divorcing.
Now many college students are directly arranged by their families after graduation, marriage, and children, and the lack of free love may be one of the reasons for the high divorce rate now. This makes some people can't help but yearn for the love of students in the Republic of China - equality between men and women, the pursuit of freedom, is this really the case? Can marriage and love in the Republic of China escape the spell of "reality"?
<h1 class="pgc-h-decimal" data-index="02" > school has become a place for students to pursue love freedom</h1>
In the 1920s and 1930s, students were exposed to new ideas in the West, and the concept of democratic equality abroad gradually became popular in the hearts of the people, which was also reflected in their choice of love and marriage, and the school provided a convenient place for exchanges between men and women.
In the early years of the Republic of China, women were given the right to education
We know that women in ancient China did not have the right to go to school, and it was the norm of their lives that the door did not go out and the second door did not go, and women naturally lost the initiative in choosing a mate. Since 1897, when Jing Yuanshan founded China's first women's school, the Chinese Women's School, more and more women have been able to enter the school, and the implementation of co-educational schools in the 1920s has made it possible for young men and women to communicate.
Under the baptism of modern marriage concepts, students are attracted by their equal and respectful gender relations, free and inclusive love choices, spontaneously hold free marriage speeches, take the lead in holding civilized weddings, and even secretly marry students to declare war on the traditional system.
The relationship between men and women is a private matter between individuals and is not a matter of interference by the State and society, and the Marriage Law implements absolute equality between men and women, gives women the greatest degree of freedom, and makes the rights and duties of men and women equal.
After the May Fourth Movement, co-educational schools became a trend
This is an article published in the "New Youth", which clearly puts out the slogans of "equality between men and women" and "liberation of women". Under the influence of this public opinion propaganda, more and more women have submitted articles to magazines to talk about marriage and emotional problems, which has created a social environment for students to boldly pursue love freedom to a certain extent.
<h1 class="pgc-h-decimal" data-index="03" > marriage is not for the sake of succession, but for personal happiness</h1>
In feudal society, the purpose of marriage was to pass on the generations, and the happiness of the individual was not considered at all. Male and female students in the Republic of China are different, and they consider choosing a "spiritual partner" when they get married, rather than simply "having children". For example, a survey conducted by Xu Chaoqun on Chengdu university and middle school students in the 1930s showed that the first purpose of marriage between boys and girls was to "seek spiritual comfort."
There were even advertisements for marriage in the newspapers
We know that in ancient times, marriages were "the order of parents and the words of a matchmaker", and both parties to marriage did not even see each other before becoming relatives. This way of choosing a mate was abandoned by students in the Republic of China, and they advocated choosing the marriage partner by themselves, or retreating to the second place to consult with their parents, which reflected the students' pursuit of personal will.
So what are the specific criteria for students to choose a mate? In terms of age, both men and women take 25 years as the best age for marriage, which is biased towards the marriage model of "men and women"; in terms of occupational requirements, boys have no requirements for women's occupations, and girls want their husbands to engage in a stable and decent job; both men and women want to marry the object to have a certain degree of knowledge and good health.
It can be seen that the concept of mate selection of young men and women in the Republic of China is very close to now, and students are eager to find a "soul mate".
<h1 class="pgc-h-decimal" data-index="04" > society and schools to "strictly prevent" contact between male and female students</h1>
It is reasonable that schools should be the best place for students to fall in love freely, but is this really the case?
Not really. At that time, the society generally believed that the love of middle school students hindered their academic and physical health, and they were eager to implement the boys' and girls' school systems, but since May Fourth, co-educational schools have become an irreversible social trend, and society has begun to "strictly prevent and block" the normal interaction between students.
This point coincides with the current attitude, which is "strictly forbidden to fall in love early", but the attitude can be much stricter than now. At that time, some parents heard that there was a culture of free love in a certain school, and they preferred to interrupt their children's studies.
At the beginning, a small number of female students, drunk on Europeanization, advocated free marriage, and occasionally lost their footing, so they did not regret themselves and were debauched.
Arranged marriages were not uncommon during the Republic of China
Parents hold such an attitude, in order to recruit students and base themselves on society, schools have to make concessions to public opinion and take preventive measures against contact between male and female students. For example, the private Daxia University has a rule: male students cannot enter the female dormitory. However, in view of the longing between men and women, a special day is set up every year as a dormitory open day. So before the opening day, there was a spectacle of girls cleaning and decorating the dormitories for several days in a row, and boys looking forward to it. Although it is an interesting talk, it is evident that it is difficult for boys and girls to communicate normally.
In fact, even if schools let go of such restrictions, it is difficult for boys and girls to break through their inner barriers. The Republic of China is in an era of alternating the old and the new, and even the student groups who are at the forefront of contacting new ideas are difficult to completely break free from the shackles of traditional concepts, after all, there are many people who are now pedantic and outdated.
Boys are afraid to express their normal admiration for girls, even if they express boldly, most girls' first reaction will be "why am I alone" panic psychology, and even some female classmates will publish the boy's friendship letter in the newspaper. Boys can not fully respect girls, girls are too wary, resulting in male and female students to show a cautious attitude, and even a state of "old and dead do not interact".
It can be said that the harshness of the social environment and the conservatism of students' hearts have seriously affected the normal interaction between men and women, even if some students dare to freely love and combine, in the end, many of them still cannot escape the curse of "reality" and succumb to the oppression of traditional family and social opinion.
<h1 class="pgc-h-decimal" data-index="05" > conclusion</h1>
In the Republic of China, the general marriageable age was between 17 and 20 years old, which was exactly the age at which students were studying. However, as mentioned above, the restrictions of the public opinion environment, the school's precautions, and the conservative thinking have all led to the inability of the school to provide students with a free place for love.
In essence, this is also a close-up of the social characteristics of the alternating old and new in the Republic of China, and this dislocation between the "new" and the "old" has led to the stigmatization of love that should have been sacred and free. And most of the students who dared to declare war on the old system ended up facing two kinds of ends: either using their insistence to make their parents compromise, which of course was a minority, or bowing their heads in front of the old system, and being arranged to get married, run away from home, or even martyrdom.
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Chen Shan's "Investigation of young students' view of mate selection in the Republic of China Period"
Wang Yinhuan, "On the Practical Dilemma of Students' Free Love in the Republic of China Period"