I don't know if you have watched Xu Fan's "Everything About My Mother", which tells that Ji Peizhen, the mother played by Xu Fan, was diagnosed with advanced cancer at the time of retirement, and finally died in the company of her family after settling everyone in the family.
After watching the movie, I did cry, because the plot of this movie is set to make the audience cry. Two of the three treasures of Korean dramas "car accidents, cancer, and incurables" account for two.
But after crying, and thinking about it again, I just want to say, help! Now that it is 2021, why are you still kidnapping your mother with the feelings of the Virgin!
The family relationship in this film is very concise, centered on Ji Peizhen, with a mother-in-law with Alzheimer's disease, a rebellious daughter, and a younger brother who is idle all day and takes drugs and gambles. Oh, yes, and the pig teammate played by Xu Yajun, although he is not concerned about his family and family affairs, he is already the only relatively normal character in the whole drama.
After sorting out the relationship between the characters, let's talk in detail, how did the director let Xu Fan be a mother to all the people in this play?
Round1 Wife vs Husband
If you raise your husband as a son, don't blame him for calling you a mother
At the beginning of the movie, we see the wife in the kitchen, wiping the porridge spilled on the stove with a rag, frowning and saying to her husband:
"Turn off the fire when you hear the alarm, how hard it is to wipe this drop on the stove!"
But the husband, as if he had not heard, was completely unmoved, still drinking porridge slowly and leisurely, flipping through the newspaper. It seems that no matter how messed up he is around him, he can still live in his own poetry.
When her husband was preparing to go to work, the wife, while serving her demented mother-in-law, turned back to him and said:
"My little belly hurts."
However, as a doctor's husband, he only replied coldly: "Then go to the hospital to see." He turned and closed the door.
At the beginning of this 5-minute period, I don't see the responsibility and warmth that a husband should have. In the face of his wife's complaints, he chose me to habitually ignore; in the face of his wife's pain, he was even more indifferent than to ordinary patients.
In fact, there are many plots like this in the movie.
On the night he learned that his wife was terminally ill with cancer, the husband was alone on the dark balcony smoking a cigarette, while behind him, his demented old mother was smashing the persimmons that Pezhen had specially bought.
Immersed in his own world alone, he did not care about the chicken and dog fragments that were being staged behind him.
Round2 Mom vs Daughter
Stop whitewashing your desire for control in the name of "mom."
In the film, Zhang Jingyi plays a rebellious daughter Ji Xiaomei. To the mother is either sneering, or cross-brow cold.
I don't like to answer my mother's phone, I hate my mother coming to Beijing to see myself, and I can even drag my suitcase away at night without saying a word.
Because, mom's love really made her feel suffocated.
Early in the morning, I had a hard time finding a place on the subway where I could stand, and I received a death-threatening call from my mother:
"Didn't you sleep well yesterday?" Look at your dark circles. ”
"Why are you drinking coffee again?" How many times have I told you that it is not good to drink too much. ”
"Baby, when are you coming back for National Day this year?"
Then, without prior notice, he drove to the unit where his daughter worked, and while waiting for her daughter to leave work, she talked to her front desk colleagues and smiled.
Later, when Peizhen knew that her time was running out, she made up her mind that she must help her daughter solve her two major problems:
Work and love.
She went alone to the radio station where her daughter worked, and happened to see her daughter being abused by the director of the program group. She immediately stood up and gracefully split her head and covered her face at the big and small leaders of the scene, seeing who was afraid of whom.
After a burst of machine gun venting, a sentence of "Okay, I won't say it." You go ahead and record it, excuse me. "Pat your ass and go."
The daughter immediately received her mother's "loving encouragement", and resolutely gave the leader a blank eye, and then threw her hands away without turning her head back.
I just want to ask: Is this realistic? How many new people in the workplace will be wronged at work now, do they have to move their own mothers out? Is it possible that everyone has capital and can think of not doing it and not doing it?
Everyone is an adult, can you come up with a bit of an adult attitude to solve the problem?
After the work problem was solved, the mother finally began to brew her own ultimate trick to help her daughter recognize the scum of her boyfriend.
After letting her daughter see her "boyfriend" in person, who was actually the "father" in another happy family, her mother still felt uneasy. So he secretly ran out of the hospital, personally went to find the scumbag, pointed out everything, and cut off this unrequited love for his daughter.
But what she didn't know was that her daughter had already decided to break up with the scumbag in her heart. But when she learned that her mother had gone to find someone else, her daughter was completely furious:
"I swore not to argue with you, but why do you have to decide everything yourself?" Can't you cure your illness well? ”
Although I can experience a mother, I can never rest assured of my child's mood, but all mothers can not protect their children for a lifetime. There are setbacks they have to go through, and some beatings they have to endure.
If you blindly let your child live in your own control in the name of "mother", it will only make this parent-child relationship more and more distorted; it will only make the child want to break free from your cage more.
Round 3 Daughter-in-law vs Mother-in-law
Taking care is a love, don't take it as a duty
It may be that it is not enough to have a husband who is not careful, and the rebellious daughter is not poor enough, so the director has arranged a demented mother-in-law.
And this demented mother-in-law, no one is in trouble, not even her own son, all the food and drink Lasa is on her daughter-in-law.
It is said that "there is no filial piety at the head of the bed for a long time", but it does not exist in this movie. As a daughter-in-law, ten years is like a day, without complaint. Even in the terminal stage of cancer, she dragged her increasingly deteriorating body, ready to go home to live the last days, and took care of the old lady who was a hundred times better than her every day.
As she herself said:
"I've been married for thirty years, and sometimes I really can't tell if you're a mom or a mother-in-law."
The most ironic thing is that at the end of the movie, Peizhen has died, and then Xiaomei, as a granddaughter, takes over the baton of taking care of her grandmother and begins to imitate her mother's appearance, feeding her grandmother bite by bite.
After kidnapping my mother for a lifetime with the idea of the Three Principles and Five Constants, will I continue to kidnap my daughter?
In the whole movie, I don't see what my husband, as a son, did to his elderly sick mother, and the only time he played it was when the old mother fell ill and began to throw persimmons at home, shouting at the old mother:
"What are you doing?" What else do you want? ”
In this family, anyone can be willful, anyone can vent, but she can't.
Round 4 sister vs younger brother
How long will Voldemort's thoughts bind his sister?
Originally, life was enough dog blood, but there was also a younger brother who took drugs and gambled, and did not learn any techniques. Five big and three thick, or called Page? OMG, when I watched the movie, I heard others call him "Page", I felt extra out of the picture.
Okay, back to the point. Paige was sent to the detention center by her sister because of drug abuse, so she has always held a grudge against her sister. But the sister not only did not give up on him, but also went to his house every three or five minutes to send warmth, comforting the sister-in-law to understand Page, which probably means that:
Although he smoked and drank, did not earn money well, and gambled with loan sharks, he had a good heart and was a good person in his bones.
I just want to say: why should women be embarrassed by women.
At the end of the movie, the sister's nature as Voldemort was completely exposed, and after the house money sold in his hometown had repaid part of the loan shark to his brother, the rest of the money was all put in the bank card and given to Page!!!
Seeing this, I finally understood the look in my brother-in-law's eyes when he saw Page enter the house.
Ji Peizhen, a woman, legally has only one daughter, but in life, she is 4 people as a mother. She was honest, careful, and painstakingly living in the skin of life. A cancer brought all this to an abrupt end, after she left, her husband picked up the scalpel again, the daughter found the job of his choice, and the younger brother also changed his heart and became a new person.
To this day, when we make movies with family stories, we still use bitter love scenes to earn the tears of the audience, and the mother should be a sad image of sacrificing herself, and constantly squeezing herself in exchange for the happiness of her family. It seems that only such a mother is worthy of praise and praise.
I look forward to the day when our conscious Chinese mothers will be able to live for themselves and love themselves well!