See the cover of the book. My baby in my family liked it very much, and immediately took it and wanted to see it.
The title of the book is "Anxiety is an Elephant, How to Eat It In One Bite", and the cover is also a cute elephant.
In fact, when we are anxious all day, our mood may plummet, in fact, anxiety is one of the emotions that has accompanied us since the birth of human beings. If we really understand it, read it, it's not that scary. Just like the title of this book, no matter how great the anxiety, as long as we can sort out our thinking, can face it, and can completely digest this emotion.
The author of this book is Ms. Zhang Xinyue, Zhang Xinyue has written many books, has positive energy in the workplace, learns to speak, interactive dialogue and so on. She is also a well-known researcher in psychology. In everyone's evaluation, she has always been a person who is smart, gentle and confident, giving people a positive energy.
The books written by such people must also have different colors.
In the past 30 years, the development of network technology has become more and more rapid, and the Internet has condensed our entire society into smaller and smaller. Everyone is filled with a lot of information every day, and if this information is not screened, it will occupy our entire lives and fill our hearts with garbage!
In the past, there was a word called inner volume, chicken baby, and now a very popular word is called anti-inner volume. This reflects our inner desire for a happy life, a peaceful life.
I am a person who has no pursuit, but I will not stop learning, as long as I have nothing to do in the air, I will feel that life is like a backwater, life has no direction. I will continue to attend various training courses to make myself deliberately learn.
This is actually a manifestation of anxiety. Because in this process, I did not immerse myself in learning, but only did superficial work. It's good to be done after the course, and you won't go deep into it and do extra exercises.
This is actually a pretend effort. And this kind of pretend effort will consume a lot of my energy. But it didn't bring me peace of mind or bring about a qualitative mutation in my life.
There are many people whose anxieties may be different from mine. They will be anxious about their body shape and see the circle of friends fitness. Dancing makes you feel anxious.
Or for children, they think that other people's children can play the piano, can speak English and can do two skills, and their own children will not even hold the pen posture and others will not tell a complete story clearly. It will create a kind of anxiety and will give the child to enroll in various tutoring classes in extra time. Some people are more obsessed with cars and houses, want to live in big houses, want to drive sports cars, want to buy designer bags, and then save money. Produce anxiety.
Zhang Xinyue said that everyone has an elephant in their hearts. Anxiety is a natural reaction that arises when our inner balance is broken.
It is also very scary if people do not have anxiety, because anxiety has a good side to a certain extent, and it can make people stay alert in a timely manner in a changing situation. It can help us adjust our inner state, be able to adapt to the environment, and solve problems.
But if it lasts too long, the anxiety will become more and more serious. Thus affecting normal social life, it will cause psychological diseases. Globally, the lifetime prevalence of anxiety disorders is 5% to 25%, which is also a very high proportion.
When anxiety is severe, it becomes depression.
People around me have suffered from depression before. We will enlighten him, you want to open a little, but in fact, depression is not just thinking through, he also wants to be happy himself. It's a witty response of the brain, and he can't produce the factor of happiness.
In fact, anxiety is also like this, you blindly tell yourself to be happy, want to open a little, does not have a great effect, the first step we still have to understand.
What is anxiety?
"Anxiety is an elephant, how to eat it in one bite" said that only by truly understanding him can you face the fear in your heart. Only then will we be able to find ways to resolve anxiety.
Anxiety can have a series of chain reactions, the most common is procrastination, children are bored with school, adults do not want to go to work, physical problems colds, fevers, high fevers and so on. At this time, we need to open our hearts and truly face anxiety.
But a lot of anxiety, we are not so easy to say, then we need to find the right way.
I still remember a movie that Gu Tianle and Yang Qianwei acted in together, which was "Dry Firewood And Fire" a long time ago.
In the film, Miriam Yang is a very optimistic professional woman, but her anxiety is also very large, such as wanting to be beautiful, but wearing glasses is not good-looking, and wanting to find a handsome boyfriend. But there are no good candidates around, and they are often beaten by their superiors and excluded by colleagues.
Faced with the unsatisfactory situation in life, one of the ways she thought of was to fill a clean glass bottle with water.
Then he said all his unhappiness to the bottle, and when he was finished, he poured all the water in the bottle outside the window. Then put the bottle in its original place. In this way, Yang Qianwei, who was unhappy just now, will immediately become an optimistic and positive little girl.
In the book "Anxiety is an Elephant, How to Eat It In One Bite", Zhang Xinyue also introduces a unique method. This is also introduced in many books, that is, writing.
There is a book called "Spiritual Writing", which means the same thing, and here, Zhang Xinyue defines it as self-writing.
We all come from a nine-year compulsory education, so when you think of writing, you may think of writing essays when you were a child, and you will have fear in your heart.
But actually writing is not so difficult. Self-written, it is still very different from writing essays. Write independently, completely arranged by yourself, regardless of the title format, font, how you want to write.
And writing is just a conversation between yourself and your own mind. It doesn't take a lot of writing talent and talent. You just have to read. Even pinyin can be written.
And now there are many tools to choose from, previously only pen and paper, now on mobile phones, laptops can be.
Zhang Xinyue said that your writing instrument will become your most loyal partner and closest confidant. Yes, there are a lot of things we can't tell outsiders that we can do with writing tools.
In self-written writing, there is no need for very strict requirements, and it needs very flowery rhetoric. You just have to write down your inner thoughts, your inner anxieties, in their entirety, even if they don't go well.
It's a conversation with yourself. You can objectively understand this matter as a third party in your writing. In writing, restore your sense of control and autonomy, and be able to understand where your anxiety is, where is the solution, and where is the way out? That's what self-writing is all about.
The author Zhang Xinyue also had five years of free time, in order to accompany his daughter. But in these five years, she did not give up writing, she wrote more than 1 million words, but also through writing, has been further grown.
As stated in the book "Anxiety is an Elephant, How to Eat It In One Bite", keeping a paper distance from life, facing anxiety, pressing the pause button, you can solve the problem together.
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