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Divorced women easy to find? Or is it easy to find divorced men? It turns out that the person who doesn't have children is easier to find.
There are many such scenes in real life: the girl tells her parents that she has found a divorced man as a boyfriend, the parents are stunned when they hear it, and the girl tells the parents that they have children to be the stepmother, and the parents will absolutely object. We are selfish at some point and can choose to raise our own children, but when the stepmother or stepfather is mostly reluctant.
This is also why some people will say "between husband and wife, or the original match is good"? Because your original wife is the biological mother of your child, and you are the biological father of the child, and the child is related to you by blood, in theory you are better able to unite.
In fact, divorced women are not difficult to find, but divorced women with children will be relatively difficult to find, after all, children involved will have more complex relationships.
Mido is divorced, she has two children, one with her ex-husband, and then when Mido fell in love, her boyfriend refused to accept the child, her boyfriend said: "I am unmarried and do not have children of my own, and if you have children, you have to contact your ex-husband." "Mido's love ends without a problem, of course, she will not give up her child, between love and children, Mido also chooses children first."
And divorced men with children are also difficult to find, who would want to become a stepmother without marriage, unless they are very rich men. Rich men, some girls may go to be stepmothers for material things, and men without money still want to marry a celestial fairy, which is daydreaming.
For men and women, who is the loss of divorce? Obviously, whoever makes the biggest mistake loses the most.
It is not a good situation for children to have a complete marriage relationship, a complete family, and the result is that it is uncontrollable because of the mistakes of one person.
We all need to manage our marriage relationships well, rather than changing people and getting married again.
02.
Rong Rong is a second-child mother, she dabao was three years old and just went to kindergarten, and the second treasure is only four months. After having a second child, Rong Rong's life is very busy, she has to take her own children at night, and she is extremely tired. Her husband, on the other hand, ended up idle, just a hand-throwing treasurer, doing nothing.
Once Rong Rong was very tired, she was busy bathing Erbao, but Dabao called out to her mother, and her husband was still playing games in the study. Rong Rong was extremely angry, and suddenly unplugged her husband's power supply.
The husband was very angry and began to scold Rong Rong for neurosis.
"I'm neurotic, I'm very busy, what are you doing, don't you want to live?" Rong Rong was like a shrew, pointing at her husband's nose and scolding.
"Don't want to live, yes, don't want to get over our divorce, one child, separate the family."
"You're wrong, I don't want a single child, two children give it to you, I can do it so fiercely." The little one is only 4 months, the big one just went to kindergarten, you go to find a stepmother for them, see who dares to marry you? I'm not so stupid, I want children, if I really have two children, how can I marry out, but you have to carry two drag oil bottles. ”
divorce? Divorce is definitely not a bargain for a family of four. If you think about it, if the wife doesn't want children and the children belong to the husband, then who would want to be a stepmother for two children, unless you are very rich.
A divorced man with children wants to marry a wife and has to make a harem nanny, unless the man is very rich, why should a girl be willing to marry him?
Divorced, if one is with the mother and one with the father, the two children have deep feelings, and there is a connection between them, the wife and husband cannot be separated.
Divorce is not a very cost-effective thing at any time, unless your partner in the marriage is really scummy.
Divorced men with two children are even more difficult to find a wife, unless they are also divorced women and form a more complex family.
03.
Husband listened to Rong Rong's analysis, of course, he is not willing to divorce, he is not stupid, Rong Rong is a child's mother how to say that she will take the child well, if she is divorced and remarried, can she guarantee that the next wife will be good to the child? Either way, it's about spending time and energy, complicating what you have, and then starting all over again.
The husband realized his problem, and he hugged Rong Rong and said:
"I was wrong, the four of us are a community, children and daughters are complete, what else am I not satisfied?" I'm certainly willing to raise my own kids, and I know that there's no second person who is better suited to be a mom than you, and no one is more suitable than me to be a dad to a child. The two of us divorced and then looking for it is not a good way, and it is even worse for the children. ”
After the husband realized his problem, he began to help Rong Rong take on the heavy responsibility of raising children.
At night, the husband took the big treasure to sleep, Rong Rong was only responsible for taking care of the second treasure, and on the weekend, the husband took care of the second treasure, and Rong Rong slept.
When the husband spends a lot of thought on taking care of the children, he is more aware of the importance of a complete family, and the money he earns must be spent on his own children, how can he be willing to spend it for outsiders?
In fact, the breakdown of extramarital relationships is not a good thing, husband and wife are still the original good, because you are the father and mother of the child, the relationship you face will be relatively simple, and you are also the most one-minded.
If you divorce, it will make the marriage relationship, family relationship, parent-child relationship, very complicated, and it will be difficult for the second marriage to be single-minded, and there will be many estrangements.
My advice is that men must take good care of their families, rather than half-heartedly toss their own homes to the ground; women should also take care of their own families, rather than falling in love with others and forgetting Ben.
Only if the husband and wife go hand in hand, the family will be good.
Today's topic: Would you marry a divorced man with two children? Welcome to leave a message.
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★ Author: YIBAO; emotional original author, writing about the warm emotional affairs of this world.