The recent drama famine, revisited is Kore-eda's "Deeper Than the Sea". This Japanese film released in 2016 has a Douban score of 8.8 points. Praised by netizens, "seemingly waveless fragments, behind which is the affection and humanity that come out of the story."
The protagonist of the film, Ryota Shinoda, is a writer who lives in poverty. For winning an award for one novel, he always hoped to create another "amazing work" to create a good story. In order to make a living, he worked in a private detective agency, earning a small amount of money, and most of it was poured into the casino. His wife divorced him and lived alone with her son, but many could not even pay the monthly maintenance, and repeatedly defaulted, and his wife was even more disappointed in him.
Only in the mother's place can you get a little satisfaction. No matter how much the mother squeezed him in her mouth, she was still proud of her son in front of outsiders. It is not so much that the mother is conniving at a lot, but rather an understanding, because many fathers are also such a "small boy". Both father and son have very good qualifications and talents, but the stubborn personality and overly idealistic mentality make them dare not face the problems in reality and do not want to grow up.
Immersed in the sense of "isolation from the world" of youth, can not extricate themselves, is it a blood of the original intention, or an irresponsible escape? People are middle-aged, and what they should face eventually need to face and make changes in order to break the cocoon and turn into butterflies.
I miss the teenager who just walked out of the school. Clear eyes, firm ideals, the day is always sunny. People are always very contradictory, on the one hand, anxious to grow up, eager for more freedom, a wider space; on the other hand, afraid of growing up, hate the pressure of nowhere to escape. People know after middle age that some things are not chosen at all. What's scarier than having nowhere to show your talent is actually the refusal to grow up.
Ryota Shinoda is very talented in literary creation and has always had an unswerving love. He did not admit that he worked in the detective agency because he was forced to make a living to feed himself, but to find inspiration for his work. In his view, great writers have only bred new works in tribulations.
However, he was not willing to be poor in his heart, after all, the years of literary creation were bitter and depressed. He hoped to get rich overnight, as if he had become famous overnight. Every bet is an unquenchable flame within. When Liangduo was watching the race at the race track, he saw that the seeded player he had chosen had fallen behind, and he couldn't help but rush to the edge of the fence and shout at the field, "Yoshida, give my grandfathers a little bit, you have to fight for it." This sentence also shouted out a lot of their own voices.
Although the reality is cold and cruel and lifeless, there are always some ideals and feelings, which cannot be touched but are endless. Whether it is a nostalgia for the praise of the past, or a stubborn resistance to the reality; whether it is the obsession of the teenager, or the low roar and unwillingness of the depressed life.
Many have always looked down on their father, thinking that he has no ability and is addicted to gambling. But isn't he a copy of his father? Although he witnessed his father's failure, Many walked forward step by step along his father's old road. Proud of his talent, he always complains about bad luck and tries to change his fortunes through lottery tickets and gambling, but he does not turn the tables against the wind. Even his son said he didn't want to be like his father when he grew up.
Although Liangduo showed disdain for his father, for example, when he saw a bunch of pawn tickets saved by his father, Liangduo did not patronize the pawnshop again and again, taking what his father left behind before his death and selling it.
When he and his son passed the octopus slide in the small garden, he mentioned that when he was a child, a typhoon struck, and his father took him into the slide to steal snacks. That night, the typhoon landed, and many followed the example of their fathers, taking their sons to explore the slides of their childhood late at night.
I want to get rid of the shadow of my childhood, but there are always some precious memories that I can't forget. The person who does not want to be the most affects themselves all the time. Blood is such a wonderful thing, whether you like it or not, it binds your loved ones tightly together.
Although his wife Xiangzi could not bear the hopeless marriage and left him, she still loved Xiangzi. He also knew that there was no way to recover a lost marriage with his current condition. He could only silently and secretly observe his wife. Seeing his wife marry a new family and prepare to start a new life, many moods were extremely depressed. He even tried to stir up his wife's plan through his son.
Once, Ryota and her female assistant were commissioned to perform surveillance work in the hotel. He asked the female assistant if all women would cut off the past after starting a new relationship. The female assistant said, "Women like oil painting, not watercolor." The new painting covers the previous painting, but the original painting is still in mind."
The irreparable ending in reality, the lack of a foundation of trust, it is difficult for two people to come together again. Because their "indisputable anger" hurts the lover's heart, but as long as the other party will not forget "me", the heart can be better or better.
There is always a kind of love, deeper than the sea. Of course, it is extremely lucky to gain it, but it will never fade from the heart. After the breakup, I can't say I love you anymore, but I can't say the words of blessing, and I'm afraid that with one mouth, you will really leave me.
Many times, we don't want to grow up and lie that we have forgotten time. The ideals of youth have not yet borne fruit, but in the trance they have entered middle age. Reality and imagination are always in great contrast, should we pretend to be strong, or should we admit our fate while being sad?
Many of my mother's families had an orange tree that he planted in high school and had long since ceased to bear fruit. But my mother was reluctant to throw it away and insisted on watering it every day. The caterpillar on the orange tree, one day born with blue wings and turned into a butterfly, the mother was overjoyed, and took a special photo. I think this is also the use of orange trees.
The director uses the analogy of the orange tree to show the world the mother's love for her son. Although Liangduo could not write novels and became a waste of firewood in the eyes of outsiders, he was still a good tree in his mother's place, worthy of her care and care.
The mother's love makes the son sad, and when he is about to give up on himself, there will always be someone who silently supports and encourages himself.
This is also the energy of loved ones. They always pretended not to care, and whenever we could not support the imminent fall, they desperately used their bodies to shield us from the cold and hard ground. And once we recover, we may be able to leave them in a dashing manner.
Liangduo is bent on pleasing his son, cherishes the once-a-month reunion, and especially wants to play a good father. He took his son to buy sneakers, and his son had sensibly chosen a pair of discounted shoes, but he saw his son's thoughts and insisted on buying his son the pair of Mizuno he liked.
However, after all, the pocket is shy, and these shoes are obviously a lot more expensive. With a plan in mind, he quietly scratched a little flaw on the side of the shoe and found the clerk to discount it. Also because I bought this new pair of shoes, at lunch, I only ordered burgers and fries for my son, but I didn't order my own.
It is said that the ideal is very full, and the reality is very bone. Pampering his son, he betrayed his father's "bold words".
A real teenager, as long as he has a gift, he will smile happily, so he will not care whether he has spent the last dollar. In the adult world, as long as there is a dollar left, it must be spent on the child, just in exchange for the happy smile on the child's face.
On the night of the typhoon, Many turned over to a brick platform hidden in the home. The next morning, he got an estimate from the pawnshop, which was expensive enough for him to pay his son's alimony for several months. Quite a lot of surprise, in order to be able to raise his head in front of his ex-wife, he was ready to cash out as a brick platform. However, when he heard that his father bought a lot of his first edition of the novel to give away, he had always been proud of his son, and he hesitated for a long time. In the end, he preserved the precious emotional memories between father and son.
But as a result, it is necessary to continue to owe alimony to the ex-wife. He could have regained his lost dignity, but many chose to give up. On the surface, nothing has changed, he still lives "humbly" in various relationships, but it seems that everything is different again, and he gives up only false dignity. True dignity can only be won by one's own efforts.
In fact, self-esteem and inferiority are not far apart. Because of our inferiority, we strive to maintain self-esteem, and because of self-esteem, we don't want outsiders to see that we also have a humble side.
People are middle-aged, have a lot more control, and face more helplessness. I really envy the wanton and free-spiritedness of my youth, and I can ignore the "being myself" of others. However, middle-aged people are blessed with too many labels, children, parents, only less themselves. The state of youthfulness, just think about it.
Life is hard, and it's the same for everyone. No one can live in a vacuum. Insisting on maintaining a "sense of youth", it is no wonder that life is always "typhoons coming" again and again.
If Ryoda in "Deeper Than the Sea" understands the feelings of his loved ones, then he should understand that his mother has her own dreams, but she will never be entangled in meaningless struggles. The mother's life is also stretched, and the little pension is always spent on the grandchildren. Even ice cream was reluctant to buy, just with a little drink, mixed with half a cup of boiled water, frozen in the refrigerator.
If he is considerate of his wife, he should understand that she has been waiting for him for many years to grow up. I thought that with children, everything would change, and I would be able to take on the responsibilities of my father, but this was just the wife's luxury. Divorced wives, re-entering another relationship, in fact, is not "impatient", but plucked up enough courage.
Willfulness is really just the power of teenagers. Only looking at their own thoughts, ignoring the observation of their loved ones, and are not qualified to ask others to understand themselves.
It is gratifying that the ideal can be successfully achieved, but if people are middle-aged and still have a long way to go, it is better to work around and achieve the ideal in another way. Just like Ryota Shinoda insisted for so many years and wanted to write another award-winning novel, but to no avail, in the end, he accepted the invitation to create a serial manga story.
In fact, Liangduo himself admits that literary works have become obsolete in recent years, and readers prefer to read light novels and popular novels. Then, the transformation of the creative direction is imperative.
It is as if in the past two years, the Internet content carrier has slowly changed, and the influence of video creation is likely to exceed that of graphic creation. Some past graphic writers have also slowly begun to enter the field of video, striving to fill the leisure time of the general public through simple and clear forms. Such a timely insight into market demand and make appropriate adjustments to the way of thinking is also a general trend of change.
We can't define Ryota Shinoda as a complete loser, but his decadent state of life is no longer adapted to the new environment of the moment. Flexibility is the beginning of a virtuous circle.
Rule One in The Twelve Laws of Life analyzes how to get out of the loser pattern. It proposes a concept: "The environment will change, you can also change, positive feedback ring can put you in jail, but also can make you positive forward." 」 ”
On that typhoon night, my mother chatted with Ryota, and she asked Ryota, "Sometimes I wonder why people can't live in the moment, always chasing something that has been lost, or something that can't be reached." Always like this, how can we talk about enjoying life? If you are not open-minded, you will never get true happiness. Life, in fact, is not so complicated. Very simple. ”
In fact, the so-called growth is to make a careful choice again and again. In his new book, Learning to Grow, Porridge Zololo mentions, "What is important about life? I think it's about making a choice. In fact, a person's life is composed of countless choices. A life of random choice is not worth living. Choice comes at a cost, any choice has a cost, an opportunity cost, because where there is a choice, there must be abandonment. ”
Ryota Shinoda did not cash out with his father's yantai, which was undoubtedly the beginning of his growth, because he made his first choice. Don't pin the hope of changing your life on the old things, or racing cars, lottery tickets, down-to-earth work is the meaning of growth.
If I have a choice, I also want to retain a full sense of youth and enjoy the ease and comfort of "not knowing the taste of sorrow". However, the fact that I have entered middle age will always make me lose some of the power to choose. There's nothing wrong with sticking to your ideals, but please arrange your life first and take care of your family and yourself. Learn to be considerate, learn to be flexible, learn to grow, just like that oil painting, may be covered with new paint, but the original painting has never been erased, still in the heart.