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It is Kore-eda's "Deeper Than the Sea" | The reality of the heart: Adults rely on love alone is the marriage that cannot be lived and boiled things, and it will be cooled down before the so-called big instrument is late, but it is a euphemism for escapism

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"The Six Records of Fusheng" records the drifting half of Shen Fu and Chen Yun's wandering half life with prose touches, the days are clear and bitter, but the pain is happy, making the impossible possible, self-qinser and ming, sweet as a rapture, and has a different taste.

Remember Chen Yun's words: "Cloth vegetables and rice, cola for life, do not have to make a long trip to plan." ”

Even if you are meticulous in front of you, if you pan for gold in the sand, you can find a happy world in the fragile Gou and, just like the paradise of Tao Qian, there are no miscellaneous trees, the herbs are delicious, the fall is colorful, there is no disturbance and noise, there is only this to enjoy yourself, let alone poetry and far away.

Shen and his wife, materially scarce, but emotionally rich, support the two such as the immortal couple who does not eat fireworks in the world, walking on the thorns on the ground but having no regrets, in addition to their own stubbornness, there is also the love of green plum bamboo horses.

Love is a kind of strength, teaching people not to be afraid of wind and rain, like Dongpo holding a bamboo stick in his hand and stepping on a man's shoe, who is afraid? A cloud of smoke and rain is a life of peace.

Lin Yutang said that Chen Yun is the most lovely woman in the history of Chinese literature. The word "most" shows that women like Chen Yun are rare in the history of Chinese literature, and they are rare in actual life.

The same is the husband's inaction, the same is the reality of the shortage, it is Kore-eda and "Deeper Than the Sea" in the xiangzi give a different voice: "Adults can not live on love alone." A very realistic sentence, especially for those who are trapped in the world, is nothing less than a heart-wrenching fact.

Imitate "can xx be eaten as a meal?" "Can love be eaten as a meal?" Although cloth and vegetables can also withstand the cold and wrap their stomachs, Chen Yun and Xiangzi are in different times and countries, and the pursuit of self-reliance varies from person to person. Money is not a panacea, but no money is a panacea. In the final analysis, Chen Yun and his ilk are after all a minority, and more people pay attention to reality and live a secular life.

It is Kore-eda's "Deeper Than the Sea" | The reality of the heart: Adults rely on love alone is the marriage that cannot be lived and boiled things, and it will be cooled down before the so-called big instrument is late, but it is a euphemism for escapism

Not a family, not a door. Two people who are married, their interests and hobbies are sometimes surprisingly identical.

Chen Yun was intelligent since childhood, and when he first learned to speak, he could recite the "Pipa Line". When she grew up, she taught herself poetry, and because there was no teacher to guide her, the poems she wrote were scattered and scattered. Even so, Shen Fu praised the poems as "good sentences".

After marriage, the two of them took a summer vacation in my xuan, and also read books and commented on ancient poetry.

As for the "broken and fragmented compilations", Chen Yun sorted the incomplete books collected and bound them into volumes; the "abandoned collection of rewards" was made up by her making up the damaged calligraphy and paintings into a whole picture.

In terms of poetry, calligraphy and painting, Chen Yun and Shen Fu's habits are no different. The common language is the premise of the two people's secret affection, and it also strengthens Shen Fu's determination to "not marry a sister without a lady".

It is Kore-eda's "Deeper Than the Sea" | The reality of the heart: Adults rely on love alone is the marriage that cannot be lived and boiled things, and it will be cooled down before the so-called big instrument is late, but it is a euphemism for escapism

Naruko and Ryota also know and fall in love because of their common habits (or dreams), and then enter the palace of marriage.

Fifteen years ago, liangduo won the "Toshio Shimao Award" set up by the literary magazine for newcomers in the literary world for his novel "No Man's Table", which consolidated his identity as a novelist.

This honor has brought many careers to the peak, and some writing commissions have followed, but somehow, he just can't write it, which is tantamount to pouring cold water on the client who is full of expectations.

In addition, many of them offer courses in literary creation at universities, and Xiangzi met in literary creation classes. At that time, Arako was a college student, passionate about literature, determined to become a novelist in the future.

Many acquaintances with Xiangzi, there is no lack of chance, but it is also the inevitable that the two have the same ambition.

It is Kore-eda's "Deeper Than the Sea" | The reality of the heart: Adults rely on love alone is the marriage that cannot be lived and boiled things, and it will be cooled down before the so-called big instrument is late, but it is a euphemism for escapism

Ringer gave "Nobody's Table" affirmation and appreciation, and this attitude has never changed in 15 years. This is her praise for this novel, and it is also a positive evaluation of her many literary talents.

Naruko is not only beautiful as a flower, but also very perceptive, and the inspiration for writing novels is often beyond many imaginations.

One is a novelist who has just gained momentum and is full of confidence, the other is a female college student who combines beauty and talent, although there is an age gap (11-year-old age difference), the flame of love still mushrooms after the rain, from the initial cohabitation, to marriage, having children, the two people have completed the role transformation, from lovers to husband and wife.

After getting married, when Naruko came to live in her in-laws' house, she read one novel after another in her bedroom, and she never closed her eyes for a night.

It is not difficult to see that Liangduo and Xiangzi had a period of love after marriage.

Just as the popularity of many unnoticed literary prize winners is difficult to last, his marriage to Xiangzi has come to an end with his depravity.

It is Kore-eda's "Deeper Than the Sea" | The reality of the heart: Adults rely on love alone is the marriage that cannot be lived and boiled things, and it will be cooled down before the so-called big instrument is late, but it is a euphemism for escapism

Because he refused some invitations to write, many of them broke off contact with many publishing houses and had to make a living by offering courses in literary creation. But he couldn't teach, he never took any writing courses, and the number of suspensions, driven by his boredom, gradually increased, and there were fewer and fewer students attending classes, and unemployment came as scheduled.

Responsibility? There is no such thing, otherwise many people will not pick up the hobby of gambling from now on, go in and out of places such as Bai Qingge, bicycle racing tracks, lottery sales points, and fall deeper and deeper in the quagmire of gambling, unable to extricate themselves. Wages and joint savings between husband and wife all became his gambling funds, and even at one point he extended his claws to his son's academic insurance premiums.

Although Xiangzi has given many opportunities for rehabilitation, it is only in vain, and the identity of many gamblers is as usual, and there is no trace of remorse.

Naruko originally planned to continue her dream of being a novelist after the parenting was over, while working as a housewife. However, the embarrassing reality forced her to abandon this dream, go out to find a job, and do a job that she did not like - the real estate company employee, when facing customers, the smile on her face is only to get a commission after negotiating a business.

Raising a family, not only could not help, but it made it worse, so the two divorced.

As for the reason for the divorce, Naruko does not shy away from telling others that "it is because of money".

A marriage of talent and womanhood, because of a lot of unmotivated, vanished.

It is Kore-eda's "Deeper Than the Sea" | The reality of the heart: Adults rely on love alone is the marriage that cannot be lived and boiled things, and it will be cooled down before the so-called big instrument is late, but it is a euphemism for escapism

After the divorce, Naruko and her son Shingo live in a small apartment with a monthly rent of 50,000 yen, and it is still very difficult to maintain a normal life on her own income, so she is involved with a man named Fukusumi, not without financial considerations.

You know, Fukuju has an annual income of 15 million yen and lives in a commercial house that can raise its value, not a rental house.

Compared with a lot of muddled all day, Fukuju is pragmatic, has a plan for doing things, and even dates With Xiangzi, he will list the dating content in the text message in advance, although he lacks the fun and romance under the moon before the flower, but Xiangzi feels solid, which is enough.

There is a plot in which Fukuzumi finishes reading "NoBody's Table" and doesn't know what many of the people who wrote this novel want to express, which is very different from Arako's attitude towards this novel, and she can't agree with Fukuzumi's view.

It can be seen that Naruko and Fukuzumi have no common language in literature, it is difficult to resonate, and they cannot talk together, but this does not prevent her and Fukuzumi from continuing to go on.

Why?

As Xiangzi said, "Adults can't live on love alone", and there are realistic considerations. This is the realization she has gained from past broken marriages.

It is Kore-eda's "Deeper Than the Sea" | The reality of the heart: Adults rely on love alone is the marriage that cannot be lived and boiled things, and it will be cooled down before the so-called big instrument is late, but it is a euphemism for escapism

Many novels are known for their realistic themes, and some book reviews have said that "No Man's Table" "expresses the innermost emotions of human beings through many realistic topics". But in real life, the author of this novel has a tendency to deliberately escape from reality. The difference between words and actual life is nothing less than naked irony.

Unlike Fukuju pragmatic, there are many "retreats" that have been living in the imagination.

Mother Shuzi asked, "Why don't men cherish what is in front of them?" "I wanted to say it because the reality was too small, but I didn't say it.

Since reality is small, the imaginary world must be vast, at least many people think so.

It is Kore-eda's "Deeper Than the Sea" | The reality of the heart: Adults rely on love alone is the marriage that cannot be lived and boiled things, and it will be cooled down before the so-called big instrument is late, but it is a euphemism for escapism

He wanted to make his wealth snowball through gambling, but he lost every time.

For example, Ryodo received 100,000 yen from Mirai Ando, which was enough to pay his ex-wife's two months of alimony, but he was unwilling to bet 100,000 yen on a bicycle race on the grounds of "giving more love to his family", and the result was nothing.

For example, Ryota wanted to buy horse coupons, machida refused to carry it on the grounds that there was little gasoline left in the car, and Ryota said that after winning, he bought OPEC (OPEC) and gave it to him, but still lost.

Machida has said many times that gambling is not so easy to win money, but Ryoto seems to take this sentence as a side note, and goes farther and farther on the road of gambling, and can't stop at all.

Gambling has been, a lot has been losing money, and even owed four months of rent, the landlord from time to time to collect debts; food and beverage expenses are mostly paid by Machida, he just eats; walking home after work, seemingly low-carbon environmental protection, by the way exercise, in fact, he has no extra money to pay for the car.

It is Kore-eda's "Deeper Than the Sea" | The reality of the heart: Adults rely on love alone is the marriage that cannot be lived and boiled things, and it will be cooled down before the so-called big instrument is late, but it is a euphemism for escapism

Many are forty-six years old, still unable to make ends meet, life is tight, and it is inevitable to nibble on old age.

Not long after his father's funeral, he sneaked back to his parents' house and tried to steal his father's relics, the 3 million yen snow boat shaft, but did not find it, only an old camera and some lottery tickets.

Before leaving, Ryota gave her mother 100,000 yen that she had borrowed from Machida. It was the first time he had given his mother pocket money, but it wasn't his own.

There is an orange tree on the balcony of my mother's house, which was planted when I was in high school, and after many years, it has not blossomed and not borne fruit, like a lot of old and unsuccessful. But many people said that they were late in their achievements, and they did not know whether it was his words of consolation or their deception.

Since the advent of "No Man's Table", I have not written other novels in many 15 years, but I have had the impulse to create, but I can't continue to write.

The walls of the rental house are filled with colorful stickers with many wonderful sayings that I have heard from others, such as "What evil and what sins I have made, my life" as Said by Mirai Ando.

More than a hundred stickers were a great hope, and he imagined that one day he would mix these sentences together and compile them into a huge work, but he would only stop at fantasy, without the slightest trace of putting the imaginary story into writing.

It is Kore-eda's "Deeper Than the Sea" | The reality of the heart: Adults rely on love alone is the marriage that cannot be lived and boiled things, and it will be cooled down before the so-called big instrument is late, but it is a euphemism for escapism

Whether it is imagination or the self-proclaimed self-praise of the late stage, many people have been using this to escape reality.

In the face of small reality, all he had was a sense of powerlessness. He never reflects, so there will be no change in the sense of powerlessness of reality, only to anesthetize himself in gambling and imagination, and temporarily bid farewell to the reality that he cannot bear to look at directly, just in exchange for a moment of joy and peace of mind.

This is why, even though many gamblers have never won, they still feel alive enough in the process of gambling; this is also why even though their imaginations are full of nothingness and they can't always get their wishes, many of them are still addicted to it and don't want to wake up.

A lot of escapism, manifested in the lack of responsibility in family life, whether it is the role of husband or father, he is not qualified.

But he loved xiangzi and true enlightenment, and the love of his husband and the love of his father were not extinguished in him.

When Shuko asks if Ryoko has ever had a love deeper than the sea, the first thing that comes to his mind is Xiangzi; he tries to raise the money he needs to see True Enlightenment once a month, even if he starves, he will let True Enlightenment eat, which is undoubtedly fatherly love.

But if adults do not have a sense of responsibility and responsibility, they cannot live on love alone. This is confirmed by the divorce that Ryodo and Rakuko symbolized loss.

In the life of adults, love is indispensable, but there must also be support and effort to maintain love.

I hope that we will combine love and reality, and be a "layman" with love.

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