I began to want to know about the Taiwanese writer Huang Chunming, starting with a letter he wrote to his son who hanged himself a year ago after he withdrew from various auras.
"Guojun does not come back to eat"
Guojun, I know you don't come back for dinner, I'll eat first,
Mom always said wait a minute, wait a long time, she won't eat,
That bag of rice has been eaten for a long time, and there are still so many, and there are some more weevils.
Mom knows you don't come back for dinner, she doesn't want to cook,
She and Datong Electric Pot also forgot, how much rice to add how much water?
I didn't know until today that my mother was born to cook for you.
Now you don't come back for dinner, mom has nothing to do,
Mom didn't want to do anything, not even eat.
Guojun, it's been a year, and you haven't come back for dinner
I've fried rice noodles at home a few times to invite your friends
Some of your friends came, but Yuan Zhesheng, like you, didn't go home for dinner
We know you don't come back for dinner; we didn't wait for you, and we deliberately didn't talk about you.
But your seat is always there.
This heartbreaking letter has saved countless young lives that want to take their own lives.
How easy it is to die, a person can die for thousands of years, while the time of living is only a hundred years, and the time to accompany his parents is even less.
The thickness of the love is as thick as a hundred centuries
Huang Chunming began his career of independent struggle at an early age, working as a primary school teacher, apprentice, signal soldier, editor, bento box seller, and tv documentary.
His personal life experience allowed him to break free from the paleness and loneliness of modernism. Behind the witty dialogue of the "little people" at the bottom of his society, people can never forget a string of tears swirling in their hearts.
Through the words, you can feel that he is a very warm person. He has two children, the eldest is called Guozhen and the second is called Guojun. And Huang Chunming was very free about their education.
Many modern parents only care about their children's studies and ignore other life experiences, and Huang Chunming can be said to be the opposite.
A national jun homework to achieve more than 11 points. Huang Chunming said to the teacher, "Although homework is very important, the child's sleep is also quite important, more than 10 o'clock I will ask him to go to sleep, if the homework is not done well, please forgive me." ”
For authority and so-called right and wrong, Huang Chunming has his own insight.
At that time, guojun was in the third grade of primary school, and Huang Chunming asked him, "Is it okay for dad to take you on a trip around the island?" "Okay, let's go for the summer." "By the summer, everyone was out, but now there is no one." "How can that be, I'm going to go to class." "We take sick leave." "Isn't that lying to our teacher?" "It's okay to do a good job and deceive people."
Under this kind of education, Huang Guojun has a unique world view at a very young age. As I grew up, I had a transparent part of the view of the world.
In fact, parents are always prone to make a mistake: they always want to live themselves through their children, and forget to enjoy the fun of being a parent.
Many parent-child relationships are tense because parents treat their children as projections of their own wishes and "manage" their children as their own careers.
We must understand that the child is an independent individual, and the parents themselves should live their own independent lives.
Huang Chunming himself is a wonderful naughty boy, and Huang Guojun also belongs to the self-learning genius, although he did not go to college according to his father's expectations, he also succeeded in self-study.
Talented father and son, feelings, relationship is very special.
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Huang Chunming once asked Guojun: "Why don't you go to work?" Guojun asked, "If I were disabled, would you raise me?" Huang Chunming said yes, and GuoJun replied, "That's right, not to mention that I am not yet disabled." ”
It is through this stage that father and son are different externally and internally, and establish a more intimate relationship. It is also because of this that others will not associate with Huang Chunming at all while watching Huang Guojun's novels.
The father made his son's artistic path.
Huang Chunming once said in the preface to Huang Guojun's new book that his son was more devoted to novels than himself, and was worried that he would be martyred for novels in the future.
He is undoubtedly a father who respects and cherishes the independent personality of his children, and if the children are just ordinary ordinary people, everything should be very happy.
Genius and madness are only a line apart, and Huang Guojun's articles often spread a melancholy atmosphere, and many readers think that his works are "bitter and mixed with black humor."
Many people lament that "talent is sometimes not necessarily a fortunate thing" when the father-son relationship between the two is so short.... In fact, results are not necessarily the only measure of educational success.
Huang Chunming is a good father, and Guo Jun, if he sees the letter written by his father to himself, may regret his original choice.
Whether a child becomes a genius or a mediocre person. But understand that life belongs not only to one person, but to all those who love you.