You know, after the child has the ability to live independently, he must be like a crow, learn to feed back, and do something meaningful to repay his parents.
But I don't know, when parents to their children "forage" has become the norm, no matter how old the parents are, they must take care of their children, and even as the topic of today's talk, parents work home during the Spring Festival, and turn in their salaries to have a good face.
Leading to "money becomes the basis of father-son love", parents have to look at the child's face without money, many people see this situation, they all say that such children are too desperate, how can filial piety be spoken of?
The Spring Festival is approaching, and employees from all over the world have taken holidays one after another.
Just yesterday, the neighbor Uncle Ding came home from working in other places, but after entering the house, he did not get a good look from his children, but was asked how much money he earned from part-time work. Then he also said: This year, the price of vegetables has risen, and the children's tuition fees have also risen by nearly half.
When Uncle Ding heard this, he realized that he had not "paid his salary" to his children. So he gave half of his salary to his children, and only then did he talk to Uncle Ding in a good voice.
Uncle Ding sighed: "Now money is the basis of father-son love, no money to go home to show you a face, even eat meat is embarrassed." "Is it that the children are too desperate and unfilial, or is Uncle Ding thinking too much?"
I believe that everyone should have heard the word "nibbling on the old people" before, and because of this, it will make it normal for parents to forage for their children.
Many parents should have enjoyed a blessed age after they had a hard time providing their children for the job, but because of their children's ignorance and lack of enterprising, they would reach out to their parents for money after work.
For example, parents pay for their children to buy a house, buy a car, start a family, raise a baby, repay a loan, etc., and they are already fifty or sixty years old, and they still have to work hard outside for their children. On the contrary, he did not get the respect of his children and kept blaming his parents.
Just like the neighbor Uncle Ding, obviously the child has become a family, he still has to go out to work, work in the harsh environment of the construction site, the wind and the sun, even if it is hard and tired, he must insist on working. In this way, when you go home, you have to see the child's face, which is really sad.
Cultivate the good habit of filial piety to children's parents
Parents should not take care of all the things of their children, but let their children have the space to play freely and do what they can independently, such as washing their own small clothes, helping parents take out garbage, cleaning up dishes and chopsticks, and so on.
Of course, these things need to be cultivated slowly, not can be promoted at a time, parents should cultivate more, encourage more, more guidance, so that children can develop good habits, from childhood to cultivate the sense of filial piety to the elders.
Let children understand from an early age that the elderly and the young are inferior
In the process of baby growth, parents should be on the same balance point as the child, do not spoil the child too much, do not educate the child as a leader, if you want to let the child be filial to the parents, you must first learn to respect the child.
Give children a certain independent space, and grow up under the guidance and help of their parents, not let the children feel that learning is for their parents, but let the children learn to be filial to their parents.
Set an example for your child
In fact, the reason why children will have unfilial behavior has a lot to do with parents, parents should think about a question, do they set a good example for their children, filial piety to the elderly?
When children are young, basically everything they do is to learn from their parents, and their words and deeds are also subtly affecting their children. If you are cold to the elderly, then the child will do the same to you when he grows up.
Let children understand the hard work of parenting
In the process of accompanying children's growth, we must let children know the hard work that parents have paid for this home and themselves.
Now many parents, especially the elderly to help take care of the children's families, children do not understand the hardships of parents, only know that food to open their mouths, clothes to reach out, so that children feel that parents do anything for themselves is taken for granted.
How can such a child grow up to be filial to his parents?
Therefore, parents must often communicate with their children about their daily work and income, so that they understand that money is not blown by the wind, but hard earned by parents, so that children can respect their parents from the psychology.
The reason why children grow up to appear unfilial behavior, in addition to the influence of the real society, the biggest reason is in the education from an early age, because of too much spoiling of children, resulting in children from an early age to think that it is reasonable to ask their parents.
Parents should do this for me, and develop a wrong idea for their children. Therefore, in terms of parenting, parents should learn to let their children do some things, do not do everything, and try to let their children do what they can do under the premise of help and guidance.