I recently saw a short video by Cao Bingkun that shows him from a dragon suit actor with only one blurred shot to 22 years as a director.
Unexpectedly, Cao Bingkun starred in so many popular film and television dramas, leaving an impressive impression such as Xie Ruolin in the spy war drama "Latent", and Li Jun in the movie "Animal World" and so on.
Curious to watch his debut film "As Long As You Live Better Than Me", which he directed and wrote, as a novice father, I was deeply touched.
The movie "As Long as You Live Better Than Me" tells a warm family story, and the narrative is handled very lightly by director Cao Bingkun, but the feelings are very heavy.
The events are simple, plain, and the emotions are very strong.
Cao Bingkun's father, Cao Dewang, was once an ambulance ambulance worker.
Six years ago, my wife was in a car accident, and although she survived the rescue, she became a vegetative person.
The wife was also pregnant, leaving a child left unattended.
Although the child was not Cao Dewang's own child, the new life was innocent.
Cao Dewang made a long ideological struggle in the face of this child, and finally decided to raise the child himself, instead of letting him be sent to a welfare home to be orphaned from birth, and named him Cao Sheng.
In order to take care of his children while working, Cao Dewang left the ambulance center to become a takeaway rider.
Although life is not rich, just like the sentence written at the end of the movie, "You are an ordinary person in the world, but you are a hero of me", he gave a new life a home with his own efforts.
Anyone with children can understand how hard and difficult it is for a single father to be a mother and a father. There is a funny meme on the Internet that "when there is no danger, the father is the most dangerous", mainly to ridicule the various confusing operations of the father with the baby.
But the way Cao Dewang educates his children in the movie is very admirable, and the premise of his relationship with his son is to respect the children and replace the strict discipline of tiger fathers with a friend-like cooperative relationship.
Since he is also a father, this way of education in the movie is worth learning and thinking about. This may be the ideal father-son model in director Cao Bingkun's mind.
When Xiao Cao grew up to be about seven or eight years old, Cao Dewang fell ill and did not have much time.
In order to smoothly arrange Xiao Caosheng to enter the welfare home before his death, Cao Dewang delivered takeaways while also going through cumbersome civil affairs procedures.
In the process of going through the formalities, since Cao Dewang was not Cao Sheng's biological father, the civil affairs department needed a death certificate of Cao Sheng's biological father, so the police left the phone number of Cao Sheng's biological father's first daughter (Lin Boyang) to Cao Dewang.
The girl is the equivalent of Cao Sheng's half-sister and a victim of a family breakdown.
After the girl and Cao Dewang had many contacts, not only did they inexplicably have a younger brother, but the three of them cooked, tested DNA, went to amusement parks, etc. to get along together, and gradually found the feeling of a long-lost home.
The sister would eventually go to the welfare home every weekend to pick up her brother for a reunion, because the two of them were the only relatives in the world.
This is the different impact of a happy family and a broken family on a person's life, and the original family is the most important innate factor that shapes a person in addition to genes.
Watching the whole film, the biggest question of the film is why the protagonist Cao Dewang has to take the initiative to take on the responsibility of raising this child, and what is his motivation?
At the end, it was understood that Cao Dewang's behavior proved the famous saying that "happy people use childhood to heal a lifetime, and unfortunate people use a lifetime to heal childhood."
In the movie, Cao Sheng's sister's life misdirection is caused by the breakdown of the family, and although Cao Sheng is not Cao Dewang's own child, he gives this child a warm home.
Not only that, Cao Dewang also silently "paved the way" for Cao Sheng's future life alone, allowing him to learn life skills such as cooking from an early age, which is very touching.
Cao Dewang's state of delivering takeaway while taking his child is reminiscent of the little girl who hid under the board of her parents' stall on the hot search last year. At that time, the headline of the news was "Life on the board, the future under the board", which was about a worker like Cao Dewang who worked for the future of life and his children at the same time.
This social news and the bridge section with children in this movie have resonated with many people, thinking about when I was a child, I was not often carried by my parents, who had to take care of themselves while struggling.
Cao Dewang's kind behavior and persistence are not meaningless, but have great significance.
The ending also gets an additional result, that is, Cao Dewang not only gave his son a home and a future, but also redeemed Cao Sheng's sister.
The sisters and brothers did not fall again because of the mistakes of the previous generation and the rupture of the original family, but had a brighter future.
From this point of view, Cao Dewang's kind deeds of raising Cao Sheng are more meaningful, and he can be called a great father by saving the future of his two children with his behavior that is not understood by outsiders and a sick body.
In the movie, Cao Bingkun's acting skills are still as stable as ever, especially to the last scene of Cao Dewang's life, Cao Bingkun completely relies on hunger to lose dozens of pounds, just to shoot a patient dying shot.
We can clearly see in the movie that Cao Dewang was fatter than when he later became a delivery man.
Cao Bingkun also experienced a process of first gaining weight to weight loss and then extreme weight loss behind the scenes, and paid a lot for this play.
In addition, the small actor who played Cao Sheng also performed very well, and the scene of finally blowing a whistle by the river to find his father was tearful.
This young actor was selected by Cao Bingkun's "one in a thousand miles" and has a strong adaptability to the role.
Finally, it is worth mentioning lin Boyang, the actor of the sister in the film.
Lin Boyang was originally a new "girl", and had roles in Zhang Yimou's new films "Sniper" and "Rock Solid". But with the change of "Sniper" and "Rock Solid" unscheduled, "As Long As You Live Better Than Me" became her first film to meet the audience.
To sum up, "As Long as You Live Better Than Me" is a very tear-inducing family love movie, parents with children will definitely feel empathy when they see it, and the children's education issues, formalities problems, middle-aged people's life dilemmas, and native family problems involved in the film are very heartfelt.
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