Source l Reverse Liu (id: yuanyuankaoshi)
Why is he "kind" to give me advice, but I am not very happy?
The direct subordinate leaders are next to the subordinate workstations all day, dangling around.
Every now and then I would interrupt him and give him advice, saying, "You can't do it, you can't do that."
The voice is very loud, the tone is strong, and when it is urgent, it is shouted so that everyone hears: Why are you so stupid!
This is not advice, it is offensive, it refers to hand-to-hand.
When the university teacher was in class, she saw a girl wearing headphones to listen to the voice reply message and was very angry.
Coldly suggested to her that you should reply to the message simply go out and return.
After the girls were invited out of the classroom, the teacher was still angry, and angrily rebuked many female college students in the classroom for not having youth and vitality, "almost like those standing on the street" and "painting makeup like ghosts".
It's not criticism or advice, it's not really heart-wrenching, it's just a personal attack.
If you think this is not good, you will discuss things.
Rise to the level of personality, what is going on?
Leaders don't respect their subordinates, and teachers don't respect students.
The lack of advice that respects the premise, even if it is self-consciously well-intentioned, is arrogant, condescending, and offensive.
Jia Ling has been on a variety show before.
The program team pulled her aside for an interview and said with concern: Sister, has your mother passed away?
Jia Ling replied out of courtesy: Well, yes, what's wrong?
Program Group: When your mother passed away, were you uncomfortable?
Jia Ling replied: Your mother is dead, are you uncomfortable?
Every time I saw Jia Ling mention this, I was out of anger.
Is this a concern?
This is insulting.
Holding up a microphone and a camera, it's like holding a bun, waiting to dig up people's wounds and eat them with blood.
Gong Lijiao, the women's shot put champion at the Tokyo Olympics, was interviewed by reporters after the game.
As soon as the reporter came up, he said that Gong Lijiao left me with the impression of a female man.
Gong Lijiao explained: On the surface, female men, in fact, I am still relatively little girls.
The reporter and photographer were not satisfied with this answer, and took turns to ask:
So, what's next for the girl's life? (Implication: A life of only practicing shot put is not the life of a girl.) ）
To get married and have children, do you have a boyfriend now? What kind of one are you looking for?
Actually, I think you broke his wrist with him (boyfriend)...
Why, do female athletes have to be female men?
Is the most important thing in a girl's life is to get married and have children?
Shot put champion, do you have to break your boyfriend's wrist?
Gong Lijiao was also good-tempered enough, but only gently interrupted: I don't break my wrist, I am very gentle.
They didn't care at all about how Gong Lijiao won the gold medal, didn't care about the hard work behind the medal, didn't care about the honor it symbolized.
All I care about is what issues cater to prejudice and satisfy the curiosity.
Be melancholy, high above.
True concern is intolerance, respect, appreciation, respect.
It's not about digging into the roots, or throwing offending questions in the face of others one by one.
Weibo passed this video:
The idol male star walked demurely on the road, and a voice next to him called him, "Mother p".
Aidou ignored it and continued to move forward.
The voice was louder and more rampant, and then shouted, "Mother p"!
It's ridiculous.
Boys are well-dressed and good-looking, is it illegal?
There was also an accident with Douyin the other day.
A few little girls from Xingtai College took a video in the dormitory, and they were frantically complained about.
Netizens think they humorously name people: Xingtai Six Monsters, Xingtai Six Demons.
What to say: women are confident and the most beautiful, men are confident to be punched.
Filters are too much, right?
Isn't that what a normal normal girl looks like?
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These are not evaluations, just malicious and full of people grinding their teeth.
Maybe it's because life is not satisfactory, living in the mud.
So full of hostility, or mean and unreasonable, leaving mud everywhere to add to people's blockage.
Those who really listen to these words should be hurt.
Advice, care, evaluation.
If there is a loss of respect, no measure, and no separation from people and things themselves.
It's going to be very uncomfortable.
You may always:
In order to grow, harden the scalp, to absorb those arrogant suggestions;
Obstruct the face, in a polite manner, to respond to those harsh concerns;
Sensitively, take all malicious, bad words seriously.
But what I would say is:
Sometimes, your discomfort is not because you are doing it wrong.
It's just that the other party hasn't learned to talk well.
That's all.
Just because the mirror is dirty doesn't mean your face is dirty.
Source of this article: public number @ against Liu, author Liu Yuanyuan.
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