Many people have fallen into the misunderstanding that as long as I work hard, I will definitely get a reward.
I was there before, and I only knew how to work hard every day. Even if you feel that there is a problem, you don't bother to think about it: as long as the kung fu is deep, the iron pestle is sharpened into a needle.
But the result?
The "needle" did not grind out, but he was tired of a disease, and his life was still difficult.
What went wrong?
It wasn't until I read the rockefeller counterattack story that I found the answer.
Who was Rockefeller?
American oil magnate, the world's first billionaire, and founder of the Rockefeller family.
If his value is equivalent to the present, it can be worth 3 Bill Gates, 7 Ma Yun... It is such a super rich man, but the beginning of life is as low as you can imagine:
From an early age, he has been dependent on his mother;
Forced by his father to earn money to support his family, he did not graduate from high school for two months;
Working in a dry goods store at the age of 16, earning a $5 a week...
From $5 to hundreds of millions of dollars in assets, how did Rockefeller do it?
In "38 Letters from Rockefeller to His Son", he found that he had mentioned that the real gap between the poor and the rich was not the so-called "hard work", but the "3 don'ts". He himself relied on these "3 don'ts" to master the code to get rich and finally achieve a counterattack.
If you are also worried about "boring hard work and no improvement", it is better to adjust your thinking according to today's content. Perhaps, soon there will be a change, more money will be made, and the days will be smoother and smoother.
Rockefeller had always treasured a photograph that even his own son rarely saw.
One day, Rockefeller Jr. saw the photograph and found that there was no father in it.
"Why would you want to keep a photo without yourself?" "Because I want to remember the scene when I took the picture."
It turned out that Rockefeller in middle school was very much looking forward to this group photo, and just as he was racking his brains to design his own action expressions, the photographer asked: "Can you let the student in the shabby dress leave?" ”
This is an unacceptable insult to a teenage child!
But Rockefeller was neither angry nor in tears on the spot. Instead, he clenched his fists in his heart and solemnly swore to himself: One day, I will become the richest person in the world! Please paint me a portrait of the world's most famous painter!
"If you think you have dignity, you have dignity!" --Rockefeller
Since then, no matter what kind of difficulties he encounters, Rockefeller can put down his face, accept insults, and treat them with a normal heart, and finally achieve a cause that "no one can match".
But that's not to say that you ignore everyone's criticism and blindly think, "I'm the best."
There is only a line between arrogance and self-confidence.
If the other party criticizes you at the same time, gives a specific reason, and is reasonable, then you may wish to accept it.
And if you are facing an unwarranted attack by the other party, please be sure to control your emotions, stay calm, and think in the long run.
For example, newly recruited college students, with low wages, can work overtime, work diligently, and are naturally easy to be favored by leaders.
As a result, those dirty and tiring things, corners and corners, it is the turn of the "old man" who "drags the family with the mouth".
"Look down on people, don't you?" "It's too much of a shame to do this!"
If you quarrel because of this, you will not do it, your face will be saved, but is it really beneficial to your future development?
I'm afraid it will only make your relationship with the leader more and more stiff, and no matter how much work you do, it will be in vain.
As the saying goes, if you can't bear it, you will be chaotic.
The second grandmother of the Bai family in "The Gate of the Big Mansion" swallowed her anger for more than ten years, begging her grandfather everywhere to tell her grandmother, only to put the Bai family back on the right track, and the Zhan Wangye who framed the Bai family at the beginning finally died on the road to the distribution frontier.
So, the next time you feel attacked and insulted, you might as well not be in a hurry to get angry.
Instead, think about it: If I am angry and counterattack now, can I let the other party never have a chance to insult me again?
If you can, do it!
If not, think "is there any other way?"
In short, you must make it easier for you to succeed because of your face and hurt your future.
"I don't live by god-given luck, but I have to plan my own luck." --Rockefeller
Many people are accustomed to attributing success or failure to "luck" - promotion is good luck; no promotion is bad luck.
In fact, in Rockefeller's view, there is no such thing as luck, and all luck is planned by himself.
For example, his oil business.
By the time Rockefeller entered, oil extraction was near saturation. He did not catch up with the wind, but because he planned a "merger operation" and created luck for himself, he became an "oil tycoon".
Rockefeller first thoroughly studied the current situation, assessed his own strength, and then selected a "base camp" and began to start with more than 20 local companies and talk about mergers one by one.
After his success, he quickly expanded his scope until he finally unified the oil industry, established the "Standard Oil Company", and had his own new order of industry.
Good planning, in any case, will succeed in influencing luck.
For example, you want to sit in the position of vice president of the company within 5 years.
Is it useful to burn incense by worshiping the Buddha every day and asking God to give him good luck?
It is better to think carefully about this goal and further refine it to what you should do every year, what you can do every month... And so on, to be more practical.
This is the luck of your own design!
When you follow the plan, step by step, you will find that more resources are approaching you, and there will be more and more opportunities. Maybe, in 5 years, your goal will already be achieved.
So, the next time you complain about your bad luck, ask yourself first:
What are my goals? What is the effect to be achieved?
What resources do I have? Like money, status, interpersonal relationships, ability, and so on.
Then, in response to the question of "what do I have, what is the difference", determine the action plan, so as to help yourself design "good luck"!
"Only by believing in yourself can you not be deceived." --Rockefeller
Everyone wants to face the world sincerely and kindly, but in the face of interests, these are often crushed.
Even oil tycoons are not immune.
When rockefeller bought the refinery, Rockefeller encountered many small companies on the verge of closure, and the entire plant was counted, and there were few pieces of equipment that could be obtained.
Seeing the pleading eyes of the small factory owner, Rockefeller simply followed the other party and signed the contract according to the original price.
But as a result, the other party turned his face when he got the money. They took Rockefeller's money, re-bought the equipment, then raised the price and demanded a renegotiation of the acquisition.
Suddenly, Rockefeller not only suffered financial losses, but also once again saw the greed of human nature.
Since then, Rockefeller has come up with the following 3 principles -
1. Only when it is beneficial and harmless to yourself, do you show your feelings.
2) I can let my opponent teach me, but I will never teach my opponent, no matter how much I know about that thing.
3) Beware of those who ask me to be honest, they are probably just trying to get good from me.
That is to say, if this matter does not involve interests, you can relax and talk with your friends; and once it involves interests, you may as well express less opinions and observe the attitude of the other party more. Especially when the other party is dating you and "needs your sincerity", there is a good chance that he is digging a pit for you.
To survive better and more successfully, please don't trust others.
Once you choose to believe, be prepared to be deceived.
If the other person attacks you in turn, you have to have a countermeasure to fight back, so as to protect yourself and the family you love.
"Fighting back against the enemy who is shooting me will never upset my conscience." --Rockefeller
Success does require effort, but it is certainly not blind effort.
After all, you'll never make money outside of your perception.
When you can look at insults in the long run, design your luck through careful planning, can not easily trust others, and take your fate into your own hands, your efforts will be more accurate, and it will be easier to go to the peak of life and live a good life!
So, today's 3 don't, have you learned?
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