My daughter is in the sixth grade, and I no longer need to participate in the conception and polishing of the writing essay, but she herself has a big stroke of the pen and wants to write what she wants to write. It's not that the level of writing has improved, it's just the "war of independence" for adolescent children.
This also has the advantage that it is written from the heart!
The essay "Music Makes Life Better" was obviously off-topic, torn off and placed on the desk, and picked up when I was cleaning up my room.
Boy!
What's "beautiful"? It's like accusing me of a demon mother!
Strangely enough, I never said what "mom" said in this composition?! It is true that sometimes when she practices the piano, I will prompt her to play the wrong way many times, she will be very impatient, but where did she learn those harsh, low-level languages?
More importantly, I finally understood: why the wrong tone I often prompted could not be changed! I thought that if I didn't know how to play the piano, I still had to help her hear the wrong sound with my ears and eyes, how "exhausted"! However, the child thinks that it is "the ghost is not scattered" and has to waste so much extra energy to fight with me, so why should I be bitter?
So that night, when she started practicing, I didn't sit next to her as usual, but walked away to make tea by myself.
I saw her in the afterglow and aimed at me while deliberately playing the first time "like a dead body."
I didn't say anything, taking small sips of tea.
After playing it again, she turned her head and looked at me doubtfully, and after ten seconds she couldn't hold back and asked: Mom, how do you think I played?
I gracefully put down the teacup, stood up and smiled and said: I didn't pay attention to listening, I don't bother you ha, you think for yourself.
After saying that, I went to cook.
In the following practice time, she was self-conscious, focused and efficient. I don't have to "work hard", and she doesn't have to "fight against the old demon". It was so much fun! The inefficiency, frustration, and confrontation during long-term practice have been solved so easily!
I was determined to encourage her to write more about "demonized moms."
When she talked to her about the idea in the evening, she was embarrassed to say that the classmates would often communicate with their mothers' "ugly faces", so some of the words in the composition were something she learned.
But every time I said she was "wrong," she was really in the mood like a dumb bomb – she couldn't blow it up if she wanted to. Not only is there no motivation to correct it, but it is particularly bad to want to self-destruct!
Oh my God, what I thought was a righteous act could be so lethal!
Although it was a fact that the mispronunciation was played, and although the intention was to help her correct it quickly, the result was so counterproductive!
That's a terrible thing to say!
It seems that "outspokenness" needs to be beneficial in a suitable atmosphere and an open mind for children.
And when practicing, it is definitely not a good time.
"Reduce the practice to her own business, let her learn to talk to herself!" I said to myself.
The child also said that the recent composition style in the class is taking this "spit" route, which is the mainstream trend.
Thinking that I was just one of the many victims of the "current writing trend", I suddenly didn't mind so much.
Parents may wish to turn over their children's texts (if the children let them), and there may be unexpected "gains"!