Family education is the most important of the three major forms of education in life, and will have an extremely important impact on individual life values and beliefs and codes of conduct. Family education is not a one-horse flat river, how should family education be implemented in a changing environment? How to judge the success of family education? These problems plague many families today.
The Japanese movie "Samurai's Household Account" depicts the protagonist Naoyuki Inoyama's almost paranoid seriousness and concentration on career and family finances, this simplicity and concentration is also reflected in family education, from the initial lack of understanding or even rebellion by the son, to the end of the film the son because of the father's family education to cultivate the excellent skills and simple, dedicated character and escaped the political disaster and was promoted, the hero's great wisdom in life is lamentable. And this kind of simple, focused attitude toward the world, and the firm belief of not being disturbed by external factors are precisely the new lessons that our people should make up for in family education.
China's real and systematic family education research is precisely after the founding of the People's Republic of China - after the establishment of the discipline of family education in the late 1980s, the current situation of family education has entered the scope of attention, thinking and research of Chinese scholars.
Many of the tragic consequences of advanced consumption are deplorable
To this day, we can often see some young people using various credit instruments to consume ahead of time, which ultimately brings about the tragic consequences of not being able to repay their debts. The author believes that the most important problem of family education in China at present is that there is no unified value orientation, lack of clear value guidance or can not be effectively led because the value description is too general and vague, so it is impossible to choose the appropriate educational content and methods, and ultimately it is impossible to implement effective family education to achieve the desired effect. The specific analysis is as follows:
The implementation of family education, first of all, need to have a clear value to lead, family education before the implementation should be clear what kind of offspring I want to cultivate, so that it has what kind of character, what kind of responsibility to fulfill, to have a clear expectation of the future image of children, or called the goal of family education, under the guidance of the goal, we have a specific training direction, in order to choose the appropriate educational content, choose effective methods for practical and effective family training.
However, at present, the value orientation of family education in China is mixed and inconsistent. There are many parents who cultivate their children to choose Mingzhe to protect themselves, and from an early age, they educate their children to observe the color of words and move at the right time, and they are called in line with society, but they ignore the cultivation of their children's core qualities, which ultimately leads to the confusion of their children's survival; some follow foreign family education methods and advocate natural education and free-range education methods; some choose to strictly abide by the ancient Chinese precepts, and guide their children to recite the "Three Character Sutra" and "Disciple Rules" from an early age, but because parents have a half-understanding of the ancient training culture, they cannot say or do what they can say, and they cannot truly implement the "sage training" ......
The conflict between Chinese and Western cultures and the fault line of traditional culture that our country is currently encountering is the cause of the diversification of family education value orientation, but the diversification of orientation itself is not a problem, the problem is that parents do not seek to understand the value, uncertain and self-lost, if parents do not have a firm value belief, often confused and confused, do not know what to do, whether it is invisible or intentional education guidance, will reveal their own lack of self-confidence, it is impossible to educate children to be able to be undistracted, safe and secure, Focus on your career and growth, so as to achieve inner peace and happiness in life. Therefore, the problem of Chinese family education is currently more important than the value confusion of Chinese parents.
The protagonist of the film, Naoyuki Inayama (hereinafter referred to as Naoyuki), grew up in a family of abacus samurai, and the son inherited his father's business as a "reckoner" in the domain, similar to today's accountant, the daily work is to calculate and keep accounts, in the eyes of others, the work is boring, but it is done by Naoyuki with great interest, when he encounters accounts that cannot be leveled, he can not drink or eat, and the reason is that even his father who works in the same environment is the same as Naoyuki's colleagues, thinking that he is an abacus nerd, and his attitude of over-focusing on work feels incredible. Compared with his colleagues who only regard abacus as a profession for a living, Zhizhi is more devoted, and it is this loyalty and concentration to work that makes him investigate all the way to the end and find out the truth of the matter after discovering that someone has privately deducted the disaster relief money for other purposes.
This almost paranoid earnestness led to him being suppressed by his superiors and hindering his career development. In such a situation, Naoyuki is still able to accept calmly and unaffected, and his strong heart is touching and thought-provoking, because he knows exactly what he should be loyal to, that is, loyal to his own values, loyal to his profession, and not foolish to someone in power or an elder.
It is precisely because Zhizhi has a firm belief in values that he will be at ease and indifferent when he is degraded. Since then, it is also because of Naoyuki's careful investigation and record of this incident that he has gained the trust and reuse of the lord of the domain. The film does not render, bland narrative, but brings the viewer into the event and puts himself in the shoes of imagining how he will choose, the protagonist's distraction and peace of mind make the confused audience in the present situation feel ashamed and shaken.
Zhizhi not only treats the work seriously and attentively, after taking over the family, found that the family account deficit, and then made a plan and decision to sort out the family accounts, solve the family's financial crisis, bluntly said that "the samurai family also has many bankruptcies due to poor management, the bankruptcy consequences are more serious, more humiliating", he disregarded the eyes of others to sell property to repay usury, led the family to save money and save expenses, and finally the accounts were paid off, and the family did not go bankrupt due to political changes, but developed smoothly.
Naoyuki uses professional vision and perseverance to deal with the family crisis, once again showing the clarity and firmness of the protagonist's value belief: not to temporarily enjoy and ruin the happiness and future of the entire family.
The simplicity and concentration of the protagonist in the film is also manifested in the film as whether on the night of his own wedding, or on the night when his parents died and should have been mourned, the protagonist used an abacus in the room to calculate the cost of the day's wedding or funeral, and the audience could not help but think that the straight was ruthless, but the film highlighted the protagonist's consistently flat and soft expression, a single, focused abacus behavior, and presented the audience with a pampered, seemingly plain but strong, firm image of a man and father.
The film is based on the narration of the protagonist Naoyuki Inayama's son, Naoyuki Inoyama (named Naoyoshi in the hour). In terms of the education of his son, the protagonist's calm expression is a collection of strictness and tenderness. Strictly manifested in the adherence to principles, love is not pampered, and the son is reflected in the guidance of the child's way of doing things and the education of character.
1. The portrayal of the father who adheres to principles is impressive
When Naruchi was four years old and was about to perform a hakama ceremony (the hakama ceremony was an important symbol of the birth of the eldest son of a samurai family, with strict specifications, and it cost a lot to do), Naoyuki found that the family had long been unable to make ends meet and fell into extreme embarrassment. Despite the incomprehension of parents and relatives and friends, Zhizhi insists on saving, which reflects the protagonist's persistence and firmness in principle.
In life, people often find various excuses for many things that seem reasonable, it is difficult to adhere to the principle, and the development of life is easy to deviate from the predetermined planning track, so that the result cannot be grasped. It is the protagonist's simple belief in life - for the long-term beauty of the family, so that the principle is well implemented and adhered to, this simplicity itself reflects the great wisdom of life.
Facing the problem itself requires courage and wisdom, many times people only for the pleasure of coveting, only for the current happiness, small wealth is safe, lack of long-term planning and development awareness of family development, the family's financial awareness is an important component of the awareness of life planning, management means the correct use of current resources under the guidance of clear goals, which means moderation, but because of human inertia and vanity, it is difficult to firmly implement, many people can not handle family problems well, but also because any link needs courage and wisdom, Whether to get by or prepare for the rain, whether to live for others or for yourself, whether to be lost in the pursuit of external objects, or to clearly and firmly adhere to their own beliefs without being affected, it takes courage and wisdom to make the right choice.
This simple and firm image of the protagonist as a father has a profound impact on the development of the son's life, and the child judges and accepts its influence from the behavior of the parents rather than the words, which makes the most powerful annotation to the protagonist's son who can later focus on the abacus career like the father, and realizes the inheritance of family culture and value beliefs.
2. The professional guidance and professional character cultivation of the son - wisdom and love in strictness
Regarding the guidance of children's careers and the cultivation of professional character, there are two descriptions in the film:
Naoyuki believes that his son should inherit his father's business, and from the age of four, Naoyoshi has taught him abacus, and handed over the accounting records of the daily expenses of the family to his son for inspection every night. After the investigation and punishment of the accounts are not right, patiently ask the reason, the son recalls and judges that it may be due to accidentally overturning the money bag during the day and losing four pieces of money, ignoring the heavy rain outside, ordering the child to find it back, the son can not find it in the rain, the distressed mother wants to secretly give the child money to give the child to the father, but the son refuses;
Another is to find that the accounts are not right after the son did the flat accounts, asked the reason, the answer was originally lost four pieces of money, and later picked up four pieces of money by the river, so that the gains and losses are equal, the accounts are balanced, and after zhizhi learned about it, he sternly told his son that "the money he picked up is his own behavior of a beggar", asking the son to return where he picked up from where he went, the son did not understand and resisted, but he insisted that the son repay the money immediately, the road was slippery in the dark, and the wife's worry and Naoyuki's sentence "If there is an accident, it is his fate" seems to be different, But it reflects the difference between father's love and mother's love. These two events are specific descriptions of the guidance of the son's character, which runs through the value orientation of The Straight Father.
As a result of Naoyuki's teaching, his son Chengzhi became an intern accountant at the age of 11, and although he was quite dismissive of his father's teachings at many times, he continued to engage in accounting all the way thereafter.
Later, under the vicissitudes of the political situation, Cheng Zhi did not expect that he escaped the catastrophe and was reused because of his superb abacus skills, and at this moment, Cheng Zhicai was grateful for his father's teachings and understood his father's good intentions in cultivating himself.
The Jews had strong beliefs and convictions, a very clear value orientation, and produced many excellent sons and daughters. Japan does not have a unified faith, but from the film we can glimpse the spirit of Bushido, such as "the sword is the life of the samurai, the abacus is the life of the abacus samurai", but not all samurai can be very clear and adhere to the belief of Bushido, just like Naoyuki's father and his superiors and colleagues in the film, they only regard abacus as their profession to make a living, and do not have the same concentration and love as Naoyuki.
Value comes from the individual's understanding of things and nature and life and human nature. Faith is the ultimate guidance of value, and if there is "faith" and then "looking up", looking up to it, and practicing it, in order to make the realization of value possible.
Due to the lack of faith and firm belief, the Chinese people are confused and confused in the pursuit of values, and it seems reasonable to be confused in family education, and they cannot show a firm belief in family education, and they show a lot of unconfidence in the career guidance of their children, and fewer and fewer children inherit their father's business, on the one hand, due to the father's unclear understanding of their own profession and their disapproval of their own profession, on the other hand, they often blame the reason on the changes in the external environment, but few people realize that it is the lack of wisdom in their own lives, "political changes are ruthless, and technology is eternal."
The film tells the story of the abacus warrior, and we see that the protagonist, with his exquisite skills and loyal attitude to his profession, can not only settle down, but also cultivate his family, and then contribute to the development of the national society.
Career planning should be a problem for everyone to think about
The film takes the audience on a new look at what a profession is and how it should be treated. The profession itself does not contain value, different occupations can not make people noble or low, what makes people distinguish between the attitude of the person who does this profession is the attitude towards the profession, and how its values and outlook on life are expressed through professional behavior.
All in all, the dilemma of family education needs to start from solving the problem of family beliefs and value beliefs, and only under the guidance of clear values can we cultivate individuals with distinct personalities and ideal personalities. How to identify and confirm firm value beliefs requires deeper wisdom in life.
This film reminds us of the ancient adage "great wisdom is foolish", a person's simple love and focus on life and occupation, seemingly dull, in fact, is not a kind of great wisdom in life.
(Text/Zhao Juan, end of full text)