Haruki Murakami said: Death is not the opposite of life, but eternal existence as a part of life.
Death, what kind of people to talk about most appropriately?
Undoubtedly, it should be an old man, and it is an old man who does not come much. Because the old man at this moment has already developed a strong sense of farewell, he will add a transcendent thought to life.
At the end of the movement of life, how will you think about death?
The book "Meet Tuesday" gives the answer: learn to die, learn to live.
Meet Tuesday tells the story of Professor Morrie, who is terminally ill, and every Tuesday gives his students, Mitch Arboam, the book's author, a final lesson that lasts fourteen weeks. After the death of the professor, the author delivered the lecture notes for publication, entitled "Meet Tuesday", and as soon as the book was published, it caused a sensation throughout the United States, ranking on the American book best-seller list for forty-four consecutive weeks, and the Douban score was as high as 8.4.
In the book, Professor Morrie expounds on his 3 views on death. For death, if we can be as calm as Professor Morrie, then we can cope with the most difficult things in life.
In "Norwegian Forest", the young Naoko dies of cancer, and Watanabe is plunged into endless mourning and is unable to extricate himself. Naoko's friend then said this to him:
"If you have a trauma-like feeling about Naoko's death, then leave this trauma for later life, to experience it for the rest of your life." If you can learn anything, learn from it. Therefore, although you may feel uncomfortable, you still have to be strong, mature a little more, and become an adult. ”
Brush away the dust of the appearance, and you can see the true meaning of life. When you realize what death is, you see things differently—learning to die, learning to live.
There is too much emphasis on the value of youth, and Professor Morrie does not accept this value, because youth can also be a distress, and young people are still shallow in experience and have a limited understanding of life. Young people will be confused, troubled, confused, and even want to commit suicide when the pressure is high...
The elderly have rich life experience and generally do not commit suicide easily. Aging is not decay, it is maturity. Being close to death isn't necessarily a bad thing, and when you realize that fact, it also has a very positive side, and you'll live better because of it.
But we always hear the old people around us say, "I really envy you young people." But I've never heard anyone say, "I'm glad I'm old." ”
Faced with such a problem, Professor Morrie explained in a sentence. This is because the lives of these elderly people are not fulfilling and meaningless. Because once people find the meaning of life, they don't want to go back to the past. That's when you want to move forward, you want to see more, you want to do more, you want to experience things that you haven't experienced. When I was a child, I was happy to be a child; when I became a bad old man, I was happy to be a smart old man.
If a person is always unwilling to accept death, then he will never be happy, because after all, man is going to die. Accept the status quo and enjoy yourself.
I saw a very touching story on Zhihu. At the age of 28, she was diagnosed with cancer, but she didn't give up on herself. On the contrary, she feels that she is very lucky, has read many books, has been to many places, has talked about sweet love, has long-like hobbies, has a family that loves her, and has several very good friends.
She said:
"Being sick is a bad thing, but I think it's much better to be sick than an accident, and death is a very common thing." Driving will accidentally get into a car accident, swimming in the river will accidentally drown, and if you catch a fire, you will accidentally die. I'm still lucky, at least I can say goodbye. I feel that my life is wonderful, the life I am about to face is a gift from God, and I don't care when death comes. I just want to live in the moment, in this moment. ”
After all, man is going to die, this is a law of nature, and it cannot be violated. All we can do is optimistically accept what nature has given us.
People who have read "Alive", when lamenting the impermanence of fate, have the greatest sympathy for the various sufferings experienced by Fugui.
"Alive" tells the tragic life experience of rural people Fugui. His father was killed by him, his mother also died of illness in poverty, his wife Jiazhen died of hypochondriasis, and the son died of too much blood to save the county magistrate's wife; daughter Fengxia died on the operating table due to heavy bleeding after giving birth to a baby boy; son-in-law Erxi was killed by two rows of cement boards due to a crane error; grandson bitterroot was too hungry to eat beans and died.
In this way, life is torn apart by death and tearing. In the end, only Fugui and an old cow were left to live together, but the old man was still alive, as if he was more free and strong than ever.
What is the hardest thing in life?
Talk to life in peace. To be precise, in the face of death, I really understand how to make peace with life.
After experiencing the successive deaths of relatives and facing countless deaths, Fugui is still struggling to live alone. What is the meaning of living, know how to make peace with life in the face of death. Fugui understood this, so he knew that he should continue to live.
Speaking peace is not a retreat to mediocrity, but a supreme state, and Professor Morrie's realm often gives people joy. Talking about cremation after death, Professor Morrie admonished, "Don't burn me overboard." "Instantly turn serious topics into lighthearted and playful.
Professor Morrie's condition was deteriorating, he couldn't take care of himself when urinating, and someone had to take the bottle for him to go smoothly. Most of us are embarrassed by this, especially at the age of professors. But professors are different from us.
When familiar colleagues came to see him, he would say to them, "Listen, I'm going to pee." Can you hold the bottle for me? Are you okay? ”
Usually colleagues can do this, and even colleagues themselves are surprised.
Speaking in harmony with life, the professor felt the joy of relying on others. When others help the professor turn over, wipe his face or massage his legs, and apply him a cream to prevent sores, he feels a treat. He would close his eyes and revel in it, and everything would seem habitual.
The professor said it was like going back to infancy. Someone bathes you, someone hugs you, someone scrubs for you. The professor enjoyed it.
This mentality of peace with life is enough to resolve all the tragedies of life, and if a person hates life and fears death, he will not feel happy. Because death always comes, and you are afraid of it, but you can't refuse it, will there still be happiness?
There is a line in "Dream Quest" that people die twice, the first is biological death, and the second time is the last person who remembers you to forget you.
Another name for the film is Coco. Coco is the name of the protagonist Mig's great-grandmother, who has a father, Ecktor, who is deeply in love with her. In order to pursue his musical dreams, Ector abandoned his wife and daughter and friends and left, but when Hector wanted to return to the family, he was unfortunately killed by a friend, coco waited for his father Ector for 90 years, she was waiting for his father to give her an explanation, "Where did he go?" ”。
There is such a thought-provoking scene in the film. When Ector takes Mig to piggy to borrow a guitar, piggy is about to die, and Mig does not understand why the dead will die again, and a sad-faced Ecoto tells Mig:
"Because the story of the deceased is written by the living, if the living person no longer remembers that there was you in this world, then you will disappear, this is the ultimate death." 」
Exto fears the "ultimate death" because the only daughter who remembers him, Coco, is about to die, and when no one in the world remembers him, he will disappear without a trace in the world of the dead.
David Eagleman wrote in the "List of Lives" that a person must die three times in his lifetime.
For the first time, when your heart stops and your breath dies, you are biologically declared dead.
The second time, when you are buried, people dressed in black attend your funeral, they declare that you no longer exist in this society, and you quietly leave.
The third time, the last person in the world to remember you, forgot you, and you really died. The whole universe will no longer have anything to do with you.
At the end of the movie, Great-Grandmother Coco, in the sound of Mig's piano, once again remembers her father Ector, who is about to die out, and Ector senses it at the same time at the other end, so he regains his life.
Jobs once said, "Death is the greatest invention of life." ”
It teaches us: "Death ends life, but it cannot end emotional connection." ”
Death is a kind of nature, and man always feels that he is higher than nature, but in fact he is only a part of nature. We are not above nature. There is life and death.
In the rainforests of South America, there is a tribe called Disana, who believes that the world is a constant energy body that flows through all things. Thus, the birth of one life leads to the end of another, and just as every death brings with it another. The energy of the world is thus balanced.
When they went out hunting, the Dissana knew that the animals they had killed would leave a cave in the soul well, which would be filled by the soul of the dead Disana hunter. If no one dies, no birds and fish are born. We are all creatures in the same forest. We have to compensate as much as we get.
That's fair.
But we have reciprocal, and this is where humans differ from plants and animals.
Professor Morrie believes that as long as we love each other and cherish it in our hearts, we will not truly die even if we die. The love you created is still there. All the memories remain. You are still alive – living in the hearts of everyone you have touched and caressed.
There are so many incredibly close people who are integrated into our lives. Love is an eternal feeling, even if you leave the world, you live in people's hearts.
On a Saturday morning, Professor Morrie left this world peacefully. He was buried in a beautiful place with trees, grass, slopes... As the course continued, the professor lay quietly with his eyes closed, the student came, and the professor had already instructed: You say, I listen. Talk about the recent troublesome questions, but the answer is up to you to find.
Chandler writes in The Long Farewell: "You know, the end of the story doesn't matter, the only thing that life ensures is death. So we'd better not let that ending take away the light of the story. ”
None of us can erase the traces of our lives, nor can we live again.
Fate succumbs to countless tribulations, but only one will endanger itself, and that is death. However, face death calmly, make peace with life, and remember those we love. If you learn to die, you learn to live.
Life, as long as you make the most of it, it is long-lasting. - Senegga