Someone said:
"Eat less salted fish and less dry mouth, more is better than less."
Eat less salted fish, you don't feel so thirsty;
Don't be nosy and you won't get into too much trouble.
The world is bustling, and each person tastes a taste.
Instead of using your kindness to bind others, it is better to guard the boundaries of people's relations with others, and to be alone with the light.
As the Song of Patience in the Cold Mountains says:
"Don't pay attention to other people's idle things, and laugh at people for their long and short words, why don't you forgive yourself."
No matter what the relationship is, don't forget to grasp the measure in your heart and don't disturb the mountains and rivers of others.
Less care about the family affairs of relatives is emotional intelligence
See a topic online:
"If I find out that my relatives are cheating and have children, should I tell his wife?"
Click in to see the answer below, it is all "should not".
It is the so-called "it is difficult for a clean official to break the family affairs."
Even if there is a relationship, the outsider is an outsider after all.
The right and wrong of other people's homes, the cutting is continuous, the rationalization is still chaotic, it is a confused account that is not clear, and it is not an outsider who can intervene.
Sometimes, "sweeping the snow in front of each house and taking care of the frost on the tiles of others" is not indifference, but kindness that is good for others and themselves.
The marital relationship of relatives should not be touched, and other family matters should be carefully considered.
Netizen Xiaoyue complained about his "enthusiastic" relatives in Tieba:
A rich relative, seeing that the market has been good recently, frequently visited the door and persuaded her husband to take out a loan to change houses.
The two always looked ashamed, indicating that they did not have enough money.
Although there are still savings, but also to spend on children's tuition, mortgage car loans, really can not afford the new house.
Relatives disagree:
"There's money borrowed everywhere!" Now the market is a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity, and there is no such opportunity to miss it! ”
After saying that, he looked around and frowned a few times:
"You see your broken house, two people live in a crowded, what should the child do when he grows up?"
The furniture is old and old, the entrance is a musty smell, do you live in a residential building, or a garbage dump? ”
At first, the husband and wife could also understand the kindness of relatives and cope with the past with a smile.
But over time, the family was disturbed by his overzealousness, and the inferiority and restlessness were disturbed, and the disgust gradually grew.
"Real relatives" became "passing plague gods".
"Others didn't ask and inquire, so why bother with it?"
Grateful "helpful" and was helpful;
Disgusting "zealousness" is called nosy.
People with high emotional intelligence understand that when getting along with their loved ones, they should take a measure, point to the end, see through and do not say broken, help others not to expose shortcomings.
Only in this way can the family be harmonious and warm and long-lasting.
To be less concerned about one's personal affairs is to cultivate oneself
There is a line in "Breakfast at Tiffany's":
"If we're going to be friends, we'll have to make a pact now, don't ask me about it."
No matter who you associate with, there are insurmountable boundaries.
Even close friends must know how to respect each other's private space.
In the movie "Bucket List", in order to help his friends relieve their hearts, Carter secretly colluded with the driver and arranged a meeting between Edward and his daughter.
When the car stopped in front of his daughter's house, Edward was furious and pointed at Carter and scolded:
"Don't think that if I tell you about myself, I agree with you interfering in my affairs."
Then, the two had a big fight and broke up.
So-called:
"Don't do anything about yourself, don't be opportunistic."
Even friends have different three views, different positions, and different pursuits in life.
Honey of A, arsenic of B.
Instead of pinning your vision to your friends, make appropriate suggestions and respect each other's direction.
Some people interfere with their friends' choices, and some people love to involve their friends' emotions.
A good intention is used in the wrong direction, and it is often reduced to "laborious and unflattering".
An anonymous netizen told her bad experience:
One night, the girlfriend cried and complained to the netizens, saying that she and her boyfriend broke up, how the boyfriend was not good to her, how to snub, how to tangle with other girls.
Netizens are warm-hearted, seeing good girlfriends crying pear blossoms with rain, eager to immediately hand split the scumbag man.
The next day, netizens tried to find the number, scolded the scumbag a dog bloody head, and felt that they were angry for their girlfriends.
As a result, a few days later, netizens walked on the road and met their girlfriends holding the scumbag's hand and coldly greeting her.
Then, the girlfriend turned her head and whispered to the scumbag:
"Look, it's her calling and scolding you."
Since that day, no one has seen it again, and netizens have interfered in friends' affairs.
Gu Shiyun:
"Closed door to the front month of the court, pay the plum blossoms to open their own."
If the other party does not ask you for help, you should not make your own decisions.
Otherwise, you will be overwhelmed by your friends, and after people reconcile, you will be superfluous.
Less care of friends' private affairs, do not mix with each other's love affairs, grasp the boundaries of getting along, leave room for friendship, is the best way to make friends, but also the top cultivation of adults.
To be less concerned about the idleness of others is wisdom
Zhang Jie, a colleague of the unit, is particularly nosy.
The roommate likes to skewer and eat barbecue, and she walks up to the front for a while:
"Eat less junk food, you will grow fat, and then eat the body sooner or later and get sick."
The female colleague changed into a new outfit, and she leaned over to look up and down:
"Oh, you're so dark, you look like a crow in this dress, it's not pretty."
The little young man gathered to chat, and she squeezed in to lean on the old and sell the old:
"Get married early and have a baby early, don't learn from some people, you will only make money, and no one wants it until you are old."
In this way, her own affairs, she has to manage, not her own affairs, she must even step in.
Not long after, she not only became the "enemy of the whole people", but her business level also plummeted, and she was almost dismissed by the leader.
There is a sentence in "The Long Farewell":
"Taking care of other people's business will only cause you to get a fishy body."
Everyone has their own way of life, nosy, not only disliked by others, their time and energy are also consumed on irrelevant trivialities.
In the end, interpersonal relationships are not good, and their own abilities are wasted.
As the proverb goes:
"Don't be nosy, take care of ourselves."
Zheng Banqiao wrote in "Gifts to The Father and Son":
Read more ancient books to open your eyes, and be less nosy to cultivate your spirit.
People who spend their time on trivial matters will also be stolen by idle trivia.
In the end, it is disgusting not to mention, it is also mediocre and do nothing, and it is too late to regret it.
And those who are truly wise know how to:
Be less nosy, focus on yourself, and persevere, in order to control the limited edition of life and live a wonderful hot self.
The Augmentation of the Sages says:
Seeing things Mo said, asking things do not know, idle things rest, nothing to return early.
Things are chaotic and human feelings are unpredictable.
A truly wise man never takes much care of things.
Less care of relatives and family affairs, is emotional intelligence, maintain a reasonable distance, in order to be close to each other, harmonious and harmonious; less care of friends' private affairs, is cultivation, get along with each other to be measured, in order to be able to look at each other and push the heart; less care of other people's idle affairs, is wisdom, in their position to seek their own position, can be fully engrossed, great ambition.
"There is nothing in the world, and the mediocre disturb themselves.
If there is no idleness in the mind, it is a person who is at ease. ”
May you live the rest of your life:
Do not think about others, do not care about people's grievances, do not think of people, and abandon the troubles of the world;
Gossip less, less care, less idleness, and a good time in life.
Encourage with the King.