Bao Yongting, a reporter of the Oriental Network, reported on May 18: On May 16, the host Chen Luyu brought his new book "Or Believe" to the Shanghai CrUs Times Square store of Sisyphus Bookstore, and held a dialogue with writer and curator Zhu Yujie on topics of common concern to young people, including age anxiety, workplace survival, and social fear.
"Life doesn't come with a tool book like a refrigerator or a washing machine, and as long as you do it, you can work." Chen Luyu said that the meaning of the book lies in encouragement, support and warmth. It is not like a reference book, readers may feel momentarily full of courage when reading, but when solving problems, it is still how to do, "the answer of life, time will give you".
At the event site, Chen Luyu shared his opportunity to write the book "Or Believe". "Or to Believe" originated from an audio column of "Encounter Lu Xiaochu", in which Lu Yu received many young people's questions: Is it too stressful in a big city to go back to his hometown? How do people with social phobia socialize? How do women face the anxiety of age? Can't afford to get married by parents, do you want to marry someone you don't love for stability? I haven't been happy for too long, what should I do? ...... In the face of questions, she took the initiative to share her growth story and life experience. In the many question responses, she selected the most representative 55 cases, repeatedly revised, polished, and integrated into this book "Still believe".
Chen Luyu said that when answering questions, he could see the reader's anxiety at that moment. "I found that young people of the same age in different generations have several types of difficulties in their lives, including emotions, academics, and retention after graduation." She also mentioned that there is no big truth in the book, but some small stories worth playing. In the question and answer with the questioner, not only more and more open to themselves, but also more and more release of themselves, become brave and spontaneous, and get more and more strength to move forward.
Women's age anxiety is a hot topic in the current society. Women of different ages have worries about getting older, about looks, about careers, about health, about death. In Chen Luyu's view, time flows naturally, and the scenery along the way of course changes, and the reason is understood, but occasionally there is panic. The crux of the matter is that I am still not firm enough. Twenty, thirty, forty years old, different stages of women have their own evaluation system, to forty years old, if they no longer meet a certain standard of twenty or thirty years old, it is natural.
In the book, Chen Luyu mentions that even though he has interviewed more than 10,000 people, he still describes himself as a "thorough introvert" and social phobia. Chen Luyu believes that everyone is divided into working states and life states, and he also clearly distinguishes the boundaries between the two states. As a host, there is less need to mobilize your social skills in the work mode. She said that there is often a so-called label to reinforce a stereotype. "On the one hand, we will label ourselves this way, and at the same time, we must consciously think, in fact, everyone in life will have a certain resistance and fear of socialization at a certain time, but that does not mean that we lack this ability." 」
Regardless of age or gender, Chen Luyu believes that people now need to have two qualities: one is economic independence, and the other is the ability to think independently. "I have always felt that when I start working after graduating from college, I should be financially independent and allow myself to have a relatively dignified and subsistence life. Because only after financial independence can you talk about using the money you earn to support my dreams. "A lot of people have said that our perception of the world is second-hand." The more you are in an environment with a particularly rich selection possibility, the more you need to be able to see, to choose, to analyze, and to have the ability to think independently. ”