Beijing, March 23 (Reporter Ren Siyu) Many people are familiar with Chen Luyu, starting from the "Lu Yu Has a Date" hosted by her, she is amiable in the program, there is no sense of distance, lu Yu in the eyes of friends, there are some contradictions in the overlap: life looks very casual, but has always had its own rhythm, there is a very firm self-identity.
Recently, at the launch of Chen Luyu's new book "Still Want to Believe", Lu Yu chatted with the host Yang Lan, actor Ke Lan, and Chen Ming, a teacher and debater at Wuhan University, and discussed topics such as self-discipline, workplace, and age anxiety with readers. Lu Yu also personally refuted rumors about her "only eating three grains of rice", "all of which were harmed by these friends such as Ke Lan and Wen Tao." Obviously, this is impossible."
Chen Luyu. Photo courtesy of the new classic culture.
Don't doubt yourself
In the BBC documentary "Impressions of the Baroness", Maggie Smith, a British national treasure actress in her eighties, was asked a question: "What would it be if I said a word to my younger self?" ”
She replied, "When in doubt, don't." Lu Yu was deeply moved by this sentence and took it as the English name of the new book.
If you throw this question to Lu Yu, she will say to her 20-year-old self: "I think you look quite cute, you don't have to worry about round face." ”
At that time, Lu Yu had just started an internship at the TV station, and Yang Lan and other hosts were already famous, and she would often care about her face, "This seems to be a very inconspicuous little thing, but I think this is the problem that every girl will have about appearance in the process of growing up." ”
But not long ago, she saw those old photos when she was recording the show, and suddenly felt very cute, if she knew this, she would be more comfortable and enjoy the present. "So the same reasoning is evident, I think in 20 years to look back at today's self, will also feel very good."
Photo courtesy of the new classic culture.
These mental processes about growing up were also written into her new book "Still Want to Believe".
In an audio program called "Encounter lu xiaochu", many young people asked Lu Yu: Can I live alone? How do people with social phobia socialize? Which is your favorite or good at career? How do women face the anxiety of age? Want to marry someone you don't love for stability?
In the face of these confusions, Lu Yu took the initiative to share her own growth story and life experience, she talked about her childhood past, talked about her friends, and also talked about all kinds of interviewees, there is not much big truth in the book, it is some small stories worth playing.
For the anxiety of young people at present, Lu Yu said that young people at different times will encounter the same problems, and when the ability is not enough to carry dreams, that collision will produce an anxiety. And people in this era will have more ways to express their anxieties and share their anxieties with others, so the response will be greater. "The process of human growth is to constantly solve problems, and then encounter new problems, this is life."
The so-called "jianghu rumors" are not true
At the event site, the guests gave two very important suggestions to newcomers in the workplace: self-discipline and persistence. Lu Yu once said, "I have encountered many such cruel characters along the way, all of whom are gods and men, and they are extremely disciplined. By the standards of my different periods, they are also extremely good. Of course, they are not only excellent because of self-discipline, but one of the costs of excellence must be self-discipline. ”
Speaking of self-discipline, Ke Lan was deeply impressed by Lu Yu's insistence on being thin many years ago, teasing that she always ate a few rice when she ate, and Lu Yu also told a very funny experience:
Once, in a bookstore, she was lining up to buy a book when she suddenly heard two salesmen talking about "You know what? Chen Luyu only eats 3 grains of rice a day", the two sang a harmony, and even to the details of eating only 1 grain per meal, Lu Yu, who was wearing a mask, almost swiped his credit card to "expose" himself.
Lu Yu laughed and said that the rumors of no more than double-digit rice grains on the rivers and lakes were "harmed" by these friends such as Ke Lan and Wen Tao, and it was obvious that this could not happen. "If that's the case, it would be nice to find a day every year to eat all the rice for a year, but what is the hard work of each meal of rice grains?"
"Still want to believe" stereoscopic cover. Photo courtesy of the new classic culture.
Yang Lan said that Lu Yu's particularly cute place is that she has never been upright, and has always been able to be herself very authentically, in the eyes of friends, Lu Yu has a faint alienation temperament, and at the same time has a real and grounded observation of life.
At the event site, several guests shared their feelings during the epidemic, such as Yang Lan's daughter staying up late to secretly make her a birthday cake, which moved her to tears, Lu Yu also talked about her own changes, after experiencing the epidemic, those fragments of life that would have been ignored before, warm and kindwill will make people deeply moved.
There is no anxiety about age
From 2002 to the present, "Lu Yu has a covenant" has gone through nearly twenty years, in Lu Yu's view, that is, "the time and place are favorable, the outside allows you to do it, you have been doing it, if the external conditions are not available, it is meaningless to insist." ”
In addition to more than 10,000 interviewees, she also had some regrets about not being interviewed. Lu Yu confessed that he has always admired legendary women and is very curious about them, "I have always wondered what I would ask if I could interview Diana? I also particularly like Sanmao and Zhang Ailing, including Momoe Yamaguchi. If given the chance, one of the questions I'd love to ask is do you ever regret it? Especially after they made a particularly critical decision in life, have they ever regretted it? ”
In the new book "Still Believe", Lu Yu received a lot of questions about women and age, and she had to rethink these questions because she did not care and was not bound.
At the event site, Yang Lan asked a question that many women in her interviews will ask: Would you like to go back to 18 years old? She said she was confused about what to do and what kind of life she wanted, but she didn't want to go back to that anxious era.
Lu Yu said that he did not want to go back to the past not because of anxiety, but because he did not have control over fate at that time. She once met an entertainment journalist in her sixties abroad, "and she made me understand that if you want, you can still do what others think is a young person's industry when you want."
To admit that getting old must not be a particularly pleasant process, but different ages will encounter different scenery, in Lu Yu's view, the age number has nothing to do with themselves, the so-called post-70s, post-80s, post-90s, in fact, artificially added labels, this boundary is not important, should not be bound.
In the book, she writes very frankly that she will be 50 years old when the new book is published. At the time of writing that article, Lu Yu's team was planning a show called "20, 30, 40", and she often joked that this show could not be done if she did not do it again, because she had already passed the 40 option.
She remembers an interview with Qin Yi once, and the 95-year-old Qin Yi looked like she was 60 years old, or even better, "After the interview, I felt more firmly that age is a number and doesn't say anything." When others ask how old are you? When you can reply, 'I'm 90,' it's a really cool thing. I'm looking forward to that moment." (End)
Source: China News Network