Nowadays, people are no longer as discolored about homosexuality as they used to be.
On various social media, there are even many gay bloggers who confidently share their emotional lives.
Among the stars, gay artists are no longer as they used to be, regarded as outliers, and considered mental illness.
In just two or three decades, people's concepts have undergone such a big change, which is inseparable from the development of society.
But there are also some people, in the voice of doubt, silently insisting on their own choices, changing the views of everyone bit by bit.
Among these pioneers, the most representative is Li Yinhe.
In the eyes of the general public, her most famous identity is the widow of the late writer Wang Xiaobo.
Her gentle appearance and slightly chubby figure did not look much different from that of ordinary women. In her profession, however, she can be said to be a true fighter.
Single-handedly, she initiated a shift in China's perception of the gay community and X culture.
What is the charm of this "unassuming" woman?
Let her be with an equally unassuming man, because of their love for each other, wenqing regarded as an idol.
Why have you been scolded for decades because of your work and lovers?
In 1952, Li Yinhe was born into a family of intellectuals.
Before she was born, her parents had already given birth to two daughters, and after her, there was a younger brother.
The two older sisters have the surname of their father, and she and her brother have the surname of their mother.
At that time, the "three antis and five antis" movement was in full swing in China, so her parents named her "Li San Anti".
It was not until she was 7 years old, for various reasons, that she changed her name to Li Yinhe.
Fortunately, in the era of material abundance, her parents were tolerant and open, giving her enough freedom and love from an early age.
In his childhood memories, Li Yinhe was most impressed by the fact that his parents would always listen to the radio together and then discuss the news with each other, and there were few times when the two people had different opinions.
Influenced by his parents, Li Yinhe has felt since he was a child that two people in marriage are equal, and they must have common topics and respect each other.
In the special years, after only one year of junior high school, Li Yinhe was arranged to go to the mountains and go to the countryside. She stayed in the Inner Mongolia Construction Corps for three years, and went to the countryside of Shanxi for another year to do heavy physical agricultural work.
Although she is at the same age, she has a gray face. At that time, there were no conditions and no intention of dressing up, but no matter where he was, he studied and read books.
She did not plan for the future too far, but she always kept in mind her parents' education: to save time, not to waste time.
Until 1973, the Workers' and Peasants' And soldiers' university began to enroll students.
Because of her hard work and hard work, plus she was sent down in her father's hometown, she was recommended by her fellow villagers and had a place to go to college.
Originally staying up late to prepare for the exam, she found that the results at that time were not important, and even "handing in the white paper" was regarded as a feat.
In 1974, at the age of 22, Li Yinhe was admitted to the history department of Shanxi University.
Li Yinhe, who had entered the university in a daze, was like a fish finally swimming into the pond.
Other students have no intention of studying, they are busy pulling gangs and factions, planning that after graduation, they can return to their hometown to help each other "climb up".
Li Yinhe plunged headlong into the study, not willing to waste a minute or a second. On days when she wasn't in class, she spent time in the library.
She searched the World Literature List and read all the literary masterpieces she could find. She found that in those world famous books, how can they all write about love?
Gradually, these books loosened the soil in her heart, and her desire for love began to sprout.
Classmates laughed at her like a tireless learning machine, and she was a little upset. How can a young girl of her own age be said to be a machine? How hard to hear.
During college, Li Yinhe fell in love, and she fell in love with a big handsome guy who was 1 meter 8 tall and had a sword eyebrow.
She took the initiative to show her kindness to the other party, and after the two were together, Li Yinhe thought of each other all the time.
She could see him shining in the crowd at a glance, but the other party felt that Li Yinhe was full of "petty bourgeois feelings".
Because the difference in concepts was too great, Li Yinhe was dumped, and she was once in pain to cut her arm with a knife, only thinking of suppressing the pain in her heart with physical pain.
This first love, which was almost a single love, made Li Yinhe once painful, and it is still difficult to forget decades later.
Three years later, Li Yinhe graduated from college and she was assigned to work for Guangming Daily.
Although he was only in his early twenties, Li Yinhe showed outstanding talent. She not only became editor-in-chief of the newspaper, but also published articles in the People's Daily.
Because the saying "Great men are great because you kneel and look at him." Overnight, she became a youth idol and received letters from fans across the country.
People marveled at her talent, and she was admired by everyone.
For a while, Friends around Li Yinhe were reading a handwritten novel "Green Haired Water Monster".
She had heard that the author was a worker working in a semiconductor factory, and that those who had read the novel were full of praise.
Li Yinhe was also curious to borrow and look at it, and this look seemed to blow a warm wind deep inside. Stirring up waves, all the time rippling, how can not stop.
She vaguely felt that sooner or later something would happen to this author.
When she learned that this author was the son of the logician Wang Fangming, she and her friends found an excuse to ask questions and visited them.
She wanted to see who the author who had tickled her heart was.
It was only when she saw Wang Xiaobo come out of the room that she almost heard the sound of her own heartbreak, he was also too ugly!
"Not only is it ugly, but it also has a fierce look in it."
It was okay not to see her, and I saw her completely cut off my thoughts.
Unexpectedly, a few days later, Wang Xiaobo came to Guangming Daily to find her by returning the book. He didn't mind Li Yinhe's coldness at all, and he had a bright smile on his face.
Chatting and chatting, Wang Xiaobo suddenly asked her: "Do you have a boyfriend?" ”
Li Yinhe froze for a moment and answered honestly, "No." ”
"Then what do you think of me?" Wang Xiaobo's blunt confession caught Li Yinhe off guard.
After that, Wang Xiaobo's admiration for Li Yinhe was like a downpour, all sprinkled on the letter paper made of staves.
"Your name is beautiful, really, your name alone is enough for me to love for a lifetime."
The endless and sincere love letters completely touched Li Yinhe, and they were together.
However, when Li Yinhe rushed to see Her parents with Wang Xiaobo, her mother's face immediately darkened as soon as she saw Wang Xiaobo.
"I think he's not orthodox and too outrageous."
In fact, the real reason is that she thinks Wang Xiaobo is too ugly. Compared with Li Yinhe's previous boyfriend, it is even more impossible to see.
Thinking about it, Li Yinhe also felt that he was too bad, so he gently broke up with Wang Xiaobo and gave him two movie tickets.
"We can be very good friends in the future."
Refusing to stop Wang Xiaobo, he returned the movie ticket and wrote letters to Li Yinhe one after another, and Li Yinhe ignored him.
Wang Xiaobo could only borrow wine to pour sorrow, and the letters were still one after another.
"If you want to, I'll love you forever." If you don't want to, I'll miss each other forever. ”
Li Yinhe continued to ignore him, and Wang Xiaobo was so angry that he wrote another letter: "You go to the reptile hall of the zoo to see, am I even more ugly than them?" ”
"You're not so good-looking, let's even out."
The last sentence of the letter amused Li Yinhe, and the two of them finally reconciled.
When they met again, no one could separate them, and the spark of passionate love exploded in a split between the two of them.
In 1980, Wang Xiaobo, who was still in college, secretly married Li Yinhe with a license.
He wanted to be with Li Yinhe all his life, and he didn't want to wait for a moment.
In the second year after marriage, Li Yinhe applied for the opportunity to go to the United States to study for a master's degree and a doctorate.
Wang Xiaobo wanted to follow immediately, but because of policy reasons, he stayed in China for two years before successfully applying to go to school in the United States.
Two poor students, all living in the United States on a scholarship of 400 yuan a month by Li Yinhe. But that time was the happiest memory of their lives.
The young couple planned a trip around the United States, but they had no money. So the two ran to the car rental company and applied for a free delivery service.
Delivering a car is about helping customers drive their car from the East Coast back to the West Coast, or vice versa.
The two families took tents, cooking utensils and ingredients, drove all the way, played all the way, and traveled all over the United States.
Until 1988, the two returned home from studying in the United States. Li Yinhe was recruited to Peking University under Fei Xiaotong, and conducted postdoctoral research while becoming a professor.
Wang Xiaobo also entered Peking University to teach, and in his own words, he was just a lecturer who was a miscellaneous person.
After staying at Peking University for 3 years, he later went to teach at the National People's Congress, but it was all insignificant idle jobs.
Seeing that Li Yinhe's career was getting better and better, Wang Xiaobo seemed a little discouraged.
"My wife is a professor, and my bullshit isn't. Mourning middle age, probably like this. ”
It was not until 1991, when his novel "Golden Age" won the Lianhe Bao Novella Award, that Wang Xiaobo gradually regained his self-confidence.
Li Yinhe felt sorry for him, and also admired Wang Xiaobo's talent from the bottom of his heart. Ignoring the obstruction of outsiders, she encouraged Wang Xiaobo to resign his post and write wholeheartedly at home.
Later, when Li Yinhe broke the taboo and began to do homosexual research, Wang Xiaobo also stood up and fully supported it.
His support is not only verbal, but also in deeds.
At that time, very few people were willing to admit that they were gay, and many gay men refused to communicate with women.
In order to help Li Yinhe find a research sample, Wang Xiaobo deliberately found an informant to take him to the male public toilet.
As soon as Wang Xiaobo entered the toilet, the people in the compartment all looked out to look at him, and when they saw his appearance, they all retracted.
Wang Xiaobo did not know what was happening, and asked the informant: "What is going on?" ”
"I didn't like you!" The informant laughed.
With each other's support, Li Yinhe became the first female sociologist in China to study X and homosexuality. And Wang Xiaobo's works are also more and more wonderful to write, and they have been more and more recognized.
Just when life seemed to be improving, I did not expect the tragedy to follow.
In 1996, Li Yinhe was invited to Cambridge as a visiting scholar. Wang Xiaobo went to the airport to bid farewell, and the two were embarrassed to be too intimate in public.
Wang Xiaobo restrained the urge to kiss Li Yinhe, and only put his arm around her shoulder.
I didn't expect this difference, that is, the gap between life and death.
On April 10, 1997, at 11:00 p.m., Wang Xiaobo suddenly suffered a heart attack at home. After screaming a few times, he fell to the ground and never woke up again.
Li Yinhe, who was far away, learned of this news, and the entire portrait was stripped of his soul and sat paralyzed on the ground, unable to stand up for a long time.
Three months later, in Beijing's Xidan Mutton Hutong, Li Yinhe attended a gay party where she hoped to recognize some new research samples.
From the moment she entered the door, a pair of eyes never left her.
After more than twenty years, the hero has long stopped running taxis, but he still clearly remembers that Li Yinhe was wearing a black and white flower skirt at that time.
Her whole body was white, and her speech was soft, and the hero felt his heart beating faster.
After the party, he plucked up the courage to ask Li Yinhe for contact information.
The next day the two began dating, and then they fell in love, and lived together for more than twenty years.
The two did not deliberately hide it, but felt that private feelings did not need to be ostentatious. However, when Li Yinhe's new lover was noticed, it still caused an uproar.
In the eyes of outsiders, she and Wang Xiaobo are a fairy couple that no one can break up, but she actually found a new object, and she is still a 12-year-old woman who is a little bit of her!
The avant-garde and bold style has attracted countless insults to Li Yinhe, and coupled with the X content of her research, many people have scolded her for being unspondent.
Even in 2014, someone took a picture of her and threw feces in public, humiliating her.
Li Yinhe was not angry, and he did not flinch. She continued her research on the subject she was working on while writing a statement in response.
Her new lover is a hero, not gay. It's that the physiology is female, but the self-identity is the transgender person of the male.
She is not empathetic, she can just fall in love with others again, whether it is before Wang Xiaobo's birth or after birth.
In her eyes, the hero is a man.
He was able to fully understand her thoughts and even take good care of her in all aspects of life. In the more than 20 years with the hero, Li Yinhe has completely become a hand-throwing treasurer who does not want to do anything.
Li Yinhe and Wang Xiaobo did not want children, and the growth environment of the hero had a strong family affection that could not be dissolved.
In 2001, the two adopted a 5-month-old abandoned baby together, named Zhuangzhuang.
Although it was later discovered that the child's intellectual development was somewhat sluggish, they loved him as always.
Zhuang Zhuang was not used to the rules of the school, and they simply took it home to teach themselves. Zhuang Zhuang liked to draw, and Li Yinhe invited the teacher of the Academy of Fine Arts to give a lesson.
They don't expect to achieve much worldly success, as long as they live happily and enjoy the time they have with each other.
Li Yinhe, who is 69 years old this year, has long retired, but has not stopped the work at hand.
She and Zhuang Zhuang settled in Weihai, lived by the sea, and lived a simple and regular daily life. Get up at 5 a.m., write in the morning, read in the afternoon, and watch a movie in the evening.
Daxia travels between Beijing and Weihai every week, busy running the two-person company.
However, Li Yinhe felt that no matter where the hero was, he felt that the two people were old together and could not be separated.
Whether it is 20 or 30 years old, or almost 70 years old now, Li Yinhe has been enjoying her love and life freely.
She didn't feel anything special about herself, whether others attacked her or complimented her.
She just lived her happy look and said what she thought was right.
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Author: Yuanbao flavor square gun gun
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2. Triptych Life Weekly "Li Yinhe: Life is short, to love with interesting souls"
3. Beijing News Book Review Weekly "Li Yinhe and the mysterious partner behind her were interviewed by us together"
4, Vista looks at the world ""Little Girl" Li Yinhe: What the years leave behind, or love"