As the saying goes, "Straight people are disliked", and it is true that straight people are not welcome on any occasion, because these people do not "speak" and always say the best things in the worst way. In fact, we still have many misunderstandings about the word "Gengzhi", because the "Gengzhi" that we usually hate is only a fake Gengzhi, not a real Gengzhi. What's going on here? If you want to know, let Xiaobian reveal the secret for you:
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Have you ever experienced the following? In public, when you gush out your opinions, someone contradicts you and exposes your private secrets to your face; in a pleasant atmosphere, someone makes an inappropriate noise or makes some indecent demands. The above people who destroy the atmosphere are actually what we usually call "straight" people. As the saying goes, "say good things smoothly, Geng Zhi is annoying", Geng Zhi people will always regardless of the occasion, time, and character of "which pot does not open which pot", which will really make the people present extremely embarrassed.
Some people think that Geng Zhi is an advantage, at least it can prove that this person will not bend over backwards and is a very good person to get along with. In fact, if you have this kind of thinking, it is absolutely wrong, why? Because the Geng Zhi you see is actually not really Straight and fake Geng Zhi, to put it mildly, it is "no heart" or "lack of heart and eyes". Geng Zhi is not blindly denying other people's views and taking pride in them, nor is it to be sarcastic and ridiculed by the other party and gain his own sense of accomplishment and satisfaction.
Kong Rong made the story of Pear known to everyone, but the end of Kong Rong is rarely known, Kong Rong later became the Taishou of Beihai, but was killed by the famous adulterous male Cao Cao. I believe that many people will hate Cao Cao's fierce heart and lament the tragic urge of Kong Rong's fate, in fact, you don't have to complain about Kong Rong, because Kong Rong's ending is completely "made" by himself.
Kong Rong has always been known for his "Geng Zhi" and often relies on his own talents to ridicule others. Cao Cao had declared prohibition in the army, but Kong Rong was fond of alcohol and dissatisfied with the prohibition, and since then he has openly confronted Cao Cao many times. In the twelfth year of Jian'an, that is, in 207 AD, Cao Cao ordered the dispatch of troops to the north to attack Wuhuan, to which Kong Rong ridiculed him: "The great general (Cao Cao) went on an expedition, depression overseas, in the past, He was cautious not to pay tribute to Mu Kuya, Ding Zero stole Su Wu's cattle and sheep, and he could fight them all at the same time!" The implication is to mock Cao Cao's poor soldiers.
After Cao Cao defeated Yuan Shao at the Battle of Guandu, he took Yuan Shao's daughter-in-law Zhen Ji captive and wanted to give her to his son Cao Zhi. But Cao Cao was born with a good temperament, and seeing that Zhen Ji was as beautiful as a flower, he immediately wanted to keep her by his side and enjoy it. Kong Rong ridiculed this, comparing Cao Cao to an ancient tyrant who specialized in robbing his son and daughter-in-law of the scandal. This remark greatly annoyed Cao Cao, and he immediately instructed The Chancellor to conspire to sacrifice wine to Lu Chu and play Kong Rong on charges of "recruiting disciples", "attempting to misbehave", "slandering the imperial court", and "disobeying Chao Yi", and executing Kong Rong and linking him to his entire family. Kong Rong's "Gengzhi" mouth harmed his own family, and he paid a painful price for his fake Gengzhi.
In the Jiajing Dynasty of the Ming Dynasty, there was a courtier named Xia Yan, who had always been honest and stubborn, and even quarreled with the Jiajing Emperor in the court many times, which made the emperor himself resentful. Xia Yan urged the emperor to send troops to retake the Hetao region, and even did not hesitate to offend Yan Song, the right minister. If according to the military strength of the Ming Dynasty at that time, although recovering Hetao could expand the land area, it still required huge expenses, and the Jiajing Emperor was not willing to work hard and be undesirable. However, Xia Yan insisted again and again, and there was a great tendency not to give up until finally, at the instigation of Yan Song, the Jiajing Emperor had to order Xia Yan to be killed. Xia Yan's "Geng Zhi" is actually stubbornness, an untimely stubbornness, and it is reasonable to take advantage of itself.
Fan Duo, a hero of the Han Dynasty, was once the suffering brother of Liu Bang, the ancestor of Han Gaozu, but this person has always been reckless and straight, speaking regardless of the occasion, and repeatedly ordered Liu Bang not to come to the stage. Liu Bang was very annoyed by this, and fan was still Lü Yan's brother-in-law, which could be said to be in a big position of power, and once it was created, it would inevitably be very tricky, so he was ready to kill him to avoid the consequences. Fortunately, Chen Ping and Zhou Bo later "left a hand" in the process of arresting Fan Duo, otherwise, Fan Duo's head would have moved. There is no doubt that Fan Duo's Geng Zhi is also a false Geng Zhi, a manifestation of rudeness and arbitrariness, and it is not incomprehensible to lead to a catastrophe of killing.
What is true Gengzhi? True Geng Zhi is to be able to make reasonable suggestions to others, whether the other party is willing to listen, but also to do their duty, and will never give way to authority, as is the case with Wei Zheng, the famous minister of the Tang Dynasty. Wei Zheng's Geng Zhi is the real Geng Zhi, he serves the country and the people, there is never a little selfish distraction in his heart, but he tries to communicate with the monarch intimately, not rude, not stubborn, and guides the emperor in a good and seductive way, so that the other party will not dislike himself because of his own integrity, nor will he lose himself because of the flattery of others.
As the saying goes: "along with the delicious, horizontal is difficult to swallow", false Gengzhi is not advisable, nor is it used to prove that they have capital that is different from others, only the real Gengzhi is worthy of people's admiration, it is the perfect combination and embodiment of a person's emotional intelligence and IQ.
Wen xiucai, editor-in-chief of Wenlan Hairun Studio, written by: Special history writer: Changshan Zhao Zi worm