The recent hit TV series "Lady Hu Zhu" has made the lead actors Yang Mi and Chen Weiting have been at the top of the hot search list.
The original novel of this play was favored by a very large number of readers.
Coupled with the blessing of the traffic password Yang Mi and Chen Weiting, the attention of this film continues to increase.
Chen Xiaolun, who plays a supporting actress in the play, also attracted a large number of comments from the audience because of her fairy style and the "stand-in love" entangled with the emperor.
Just when everyone was praising her beauty, Chen Xiaolun relied on his "Gengzhi" message.
Once again let a large number of drama fans turn black, and single-handedly let the netizens who pass by have a decreasing liking for her.
Princess Tilan, played by Chen Xiaohong in the play, is stoic, sensible and cautious.
As a princess who was kind and close, on the one hand, she could not offend the emperor, and on the other hand, she had to endure the emperor's excessive insults again and again.
In the TV series, everyone is attracted by Chen Xiaoxuan's pitiful acting skills and fairy-like style.
A netizen also commented specifically on Chen Xiaolun's Weibo: "You are the only highlight of this drama, so who is embarrassed to see it." ”
Since the launch of this drama, there have been many critics of Yang Mi.
It is not that Yang Mi's female dress as a man is actually not corseted, or it is a comment on Yang Mi's poor acting skills.
Clear-eyed people look at it, they all know who the fans refer to sang scolding, and the name is not said to save face for everyone.
Smart people will quietly avoid such a pulling step when they see it, and it is too late to hide such trouble!
And Chen Xiaolun actually replied against the wind, and the remarks of the reply were also excellent:
"Thank you for liking, Mi Jie is my idol, but also a very dedicated artist who is willing to endure hardships, it is my honor to be able to star in a play with her."
Netizens themselves did not name names, and so many people in the crew said that anyone is possible.
And Chen Xiaolun's reply is good, and the meaning of the comment becomes that Chen Xiaolun's acting skills have become better than Yang Mi.
With this pull-on comment, Chen Xiaolun successfully created a hot search topic for himself, but the following comments are not very friendly.
This kind of behavior in the professional field refers to mulberry scolding, and the comments under the hot search are:
"She's also too teay."
"Deliberately stepping on Yang Mi, I want to create a black and red effect."
"The acting skills are not too obvious, and the means of offending people are first-class."
To this end, netizens on a social platform have also specially established a collection appreciation of the tea in Chen Xiaohong's tea.
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Is it low emotional intelligence or green tea?
On the surface, Chen Xiaolun called Yang Mi an idol, and he was fortunate to be able to shoot with such a hard-working predecessor, which expressed his admiration for his predecessors.
Some people may think that this sentence alone may be a loss of no intention, but there are many unintentional losses, and the speaker has no intention, and the listener has a heart.
If this sentence is placed in the workplace or when you are with relatives and friends in your life, change your position and think about how uncomfortable the person being said is.
Being pulled out for no reason is compared, and you have to become a bad party.
This kind of discourse in other situations is also a manifestation of low emotional intelligence, and this low emotional intelligence in expression is mainly because of the inability to recognize the self.
No matter what field of work, as a junior, we must respect the powerful and capable predecessors, and this respect is not just the superficial "I respect you".
Instead, they left room and face for their predecessors in public, and there was no incident in themselves, but because of their many explanations, the two people fell into embarrassment.
The main reason for making such inappropriate remarks is that they do not recognize the position of the self.
If you don't say more and say something wrong, the other party may not remember your good, but will only remember your fault.
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The obnoxious "weakling"
In addition to stepping on Yang Mi to attract black, Chen Xiaolun's most criticized thing is the classic scene that forced Joey Yung to blame himself in the variety show "Sister Riding the Wind and Waves 2".
As the captain, Joey Yung chose a very difficult track - Li Zongsheng's "Song for Myself".
Its difficulty lies in the fact that there is a low chant in the front and a high song in the back, with high and low ups and downs, and the emotions are full of changes.
Chen Xiaolun thinks that he is not a professional singer, so he wants to sing the opening low chant.
But Chen Zitong, a professional singer, suggested that the low chant at the beginning is the top priority, and if it is not handled well by non-professionals, it will lose everything.
When the professional singer spoke, Chen Xiaohong knew that it was difficult for him to get the part he wanted, and then he began to cry that he was forced to sing a high note.
Everyone present was very nervous, until Joey Yung cried and said "I'm sorry" in grievance.
After this video was broadcast, Chen Xiaolun's tea was completely solidified.
Comments have been upset about Joey Yung, and Chen Xiaolun behaves in public as if he has been wronged.
It is difficult for Joey Yung, as the captain, to ride the tiger, and if he does not cry together, he will be put on the hat of hugging and bullying.
Chen Xiaolun seems to be aggrieved, but in fact, it increases the difficulty of the entire team.
Neither a professional singer nor listening to the opinions of others, crying and crying when they can't do what they want to do, and the pear blossoms bring rain.
Afterwards, some netizens commented on Chen Xiaohong's Weibo that they were not accustomed to her style and were angered by Chen Xiaohong.
When the media interviewed Joey Yung again, Joey Yung only said that he was not good at socializing and was full of self-blame.
It can be seen that the impact of this incident on Joey Yung is also profound.
This is a great burden in the workplace, no matter which team it is.
The whole team must take care of the emotions of the "weak", but also complete the heavy burden on the body, internal pressure and external pressure, which really makes people's heads bigger.
In any case, divergent divisions of labour are commonplace.
Groups are groups because everyone needs to be together in order to exert their strength.
Valuing yourself more than the effectiveness of the team will only make people who have worked together feel hard and add black spots.
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Too many wrong things to say, laborious and unflattering
Some people, whether in the workplace or with relatives and friends, always feel a lot of resistance.
I obviously feel that I have done everything perfectly, but I always feel the guard and resistance of others.
This is actually an illusion of thinking, thinking that being good to others will actually make others very uncomfortable.
Just like some people who think they are smart, they like to show their strengths more.
Sometimes it may be that their hearts are not so bad, but the more annoying words they say, the more they will naturally make people feel alienated.
To know if you have low emotional intelligence, you must learn to perceive other people's emotional changes in addition to speech.
If the other person doesn't show anger, understand that even silence or frowning is a sign of offense.
The right wording, the right words to say in the right place, the right organization of your own language, the most correct expression of your own.
Improving your emotional intelligence not only makes the people around you feel comfortable with you, but also allows your emotions to be reasonably released.
Emotional intelligence is not innate, and everyone has their own unconscious side to more or less emotional processing.
But the more you experience, summarize more, reflect more, perceive the emotional changes of the people around you, and reasonably control your emotions, the emotional intelligence will also increase.
Author | Yu Bing graduated from Beijing Normal University majoring in finance, has been engaged in the financial industry, and then transferred to the media industry for 3 years, a domestic and foreign film and television analysis researcher, good at thinking about life from watching dramas, as well as exploring realistic emotional values from the current situation of women's existence at home and abroad, deeply inspiring many women to marry and self-improvement.