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What kind of thing is love, is it sweet or bitter, is it a lifelong commitment, or is each other a passer-by? There are thousands of kinds of people in this world, and there are thousands of kinds of love. Whether it is a long-term love affair, or a glance of ten thousand years, there are always not many who can uphold the original intention and go all the way.
One of Luo Dayou's songs says, "Ah, the lover who can't stop is not without going through the ice and snow that has not gone through the chaos, and the courage when he promises in youth is not as good as the cherishing that he can take on with a change of heart."
Most of the time it is far more difficult to insist on loving someone than to tell the other person about the love they have hidden in their hearts. The love between Luo Dayou and his ex-wife Li Lie is like this.
12 years of knowing each other
Luo Dayou and Li Lie were young acquaintances. At their best years, they knew each other. One is a talented music creator and the other is a well-known television actor. They go from knowing each other's names and appearances to knowing each other's personality preferences. At that time, they did not know that the other party would become their lovers who would be entangled for many years in their lives. The reason is also very simple, not long after they met, Li Lie got married.
For Li Lie, this is a love and marriage in which love slowly wears down. After two years of torturing each other, they divorced. Li Lie continued his work and spent his energy and time on his career. She invested most of her savings, but unfortunately these initiatives did not benefit her, but only made her penniless and destitute.
At this time, Li Lie was 30 years old. She has never encountered such a blow or setback in her life. Even when she was divorced, she had never felt so bad. It was at such a time of her greatest misfortune that she met Luo Dayou again.
That little teenager had become a capable and responsible man. Luo Dayou met Li Lie at his most difficult time, helped her, gave her a place to live, and gave her a dependency. Soon, the two people who lived together fell in love. They eat together, attend events together, make music together, walk together from early morning to dusk, from youth to middle age. In 1999, the two entered the palace of marriage.
But after more than ten years of staying together, we finally came to an end in the year after marriage. In 2000, two people went through divorce procedures.
A life of mutual companionship
People often don't believe in love at first sight, thinking it's superficial and insincere. In contrast, the feelings of long-term love are more reliable and stable. However, love is love, and it is not destined that two people will be together forever because it is a long-term love affair. Just like Luo Dayou and Li Lie, who have known each other for more than ten years, eventually became never to see each other.
Why break up after being together for so long? Why are you married or can't keep each other?
What is the most important thing for two people to be together? In my opinion, it is appropriate. The right personality, the right lifestyle habits, the right fit in all aspects. Of course, not all relationships or marriages are perfectly compatible from the beginning. It always has a run-in, adaptation process. What is a run-in? It is to face the unaccustomed, unaccustomed to the love of both parties to make corresponding changes, not one of the endless accommodation.
Li Lie once said in the program "Kangxi Is Coming" that Luo Dayou, as a music maker, must listen to the songs played outside to sleep when he sleeps. Li Lie was initially completely unsuitable. She gave Luo Dayou an opinion, but the other party did not pay attention to it, and even became angry later. Slowly, she stopped talking. Finally, she got used to this way of falling asleep.
But this is not a run-in, just a unilateral accommodation. From such a small detail, it can be seen that the grinding of two people was not successful.
However, it is reasonable to say that two people have been together for more than ten years, how can they feel that each other is not suitable in just one year?
In fact, everything is slowly developing, and the understanding of a person is also slowly changing. Some people may have been together for a lifetime without knowing what kind of person the other person is. Moreover, people who love each other will always tolerate each other. It's just that this tolerance is not infinite, and when negative emotions such as disappointment and sadness accumulate to a certain extent, such tolerance is over.
One is different and two wide, and each is happy
In fact, in a relationship, two people from love to not love, are experiencing countless times of loss and pain. When love has left each other, two people continue to be together, it is not called life, but just bound numbness forward. Therefore, it is better to say goodbye to each other, say goodbye to the past, and start a new life.
Two people after the divorce now have a new life of their own. Li Lie embarked on the path of a producer, and most of the movies and TV series she handled were talked about. Li Lie, who spent the first half of his life in ups and downs, finally understood that when he fell in love with others, he must not forget to love himself. Luo Dayou also met a new wife and had a lovely daughter. After the divorce, the two did not collapse because they left each other, but more clearly realized the meaning of happiness.
Although Luo Dayou and Li Lie could not go to the end of their lives together, they were both lucky. After leaving, you can still live with a smile. Most people envy unswerving love to the death, but behind the long-term love is the precious mutual "accommodation".
Reference: Luo Dayou's ex-wife Li Lie: Our wedding is just a drama - Guangzhou Daily
Wikipedia entries "Li Lie", "Luo Dayou"