"Marry a wife and deserve to be yin lihua".
This sentence seems ordinary, but there is a beautiful love story behind it, and the protagonist of the story is: Liu Xiu, the Guangwu Emperor of the Eastern Han Dynasty, and his second empress Yin Lihua.
Yin Lihua, known in history as the "Empress Guanglie", was Liu Xiu's hair-tied wife and the biological mother of Emperor Ming of Han, and her status was naturally different.
Her glory and fame came not only from her beauty and talent, but also from her virtuous and generous benevolence.
And her two "lets" are even more recorded in history and have become a classic story that everyone praises.
01.
The first "let": give the position of empress to Guo Shengtong.
In fact, in Liu Xiu's heart, he naturally treated Yin Lihua's feelings more than he did for Guo Shengtong, because Yin Lihua was Liu Xiu's first love.
When Liu Xiu was still dormant, he learned of Yin Lihua's virtuousness, and when he went with his brother-in-law to visit Yin Lihua's brother, Yin Zhi, he saw the rumored girl and fell in love at first sight.
Yin Lihua is full of curiosity and good feelings for this big brother who pays attention to herself, but the difference between the two is ten years old, and Yin Lihua, who has not yet reached the marriageable age, cannot rub any spark with Liu Xiu, but this does not affect Liu Xiu's unrequited love for her in the slightest.
The turning point of fate between the two came from the killing of Liu Xiu's brother: after Liu Xiu endured humiliation and burdens to save Liu Jiajun, he gained the admiration of Yin Lihua's brother, so he gave Yin Lihua Xu to Liu Xiu.
When Yin Lihua was 19 years old, the two were married, and in March of the new marriage, Liu Xiu had to be separated from Yin Lihua because of the war.
Therefore, in order to win over Liu Yang and obtain the 100,000 troops in his hands, Liu Xiu married Liu Yang's niece, Guo Shengtong, and gave birth to a son.
As for the scene of Liu Xiu and Yin Lihua reuniting again, it can really be described as: time has passed, and things are not human.
Faced with his wife who has a crush on him and Guo Shi, who has made great contributions to his career, Liu Xiu has a dilemma, so he would rather canonize the two as nobles than make a decision easily.
It was not until Guo's uncle Liu Yang rebelled that Liu Xiu advocated using this crime to praise Yin Lihua to power, but was rejected by Yin Lihua.
She said to Liu Xiu:
"The friendship during the tribulations must not be forgotten, not to mention that Guo Guiren has already given birth to a child for you."
Liu Xiu admired her, and then loved Yin Lihua more and more, and also felt sorry for her.
I think that Yin Lihua is not only a magnanimous and extraordinary woman, she is also a wise and wise woman.
On the surface, she lost the position of empress, but she won a place in Liu Xiu's heart, and she thought about Liu Xiu everywhere, in addition to her love for Liu Xiu, more from her wisdom.
She understands that instead of letting her husband get into a dilemma, no matter which decision he makes, it will deeply hurt another woman, then take the initiative to pay! Such a gesture, which is both magnanimous, decent, and smarter, makes Liu Xiu feel more sorry for her, and makes the scale in his heart more inclined to his own side.
No one does not like to be empathetic, not to mention that the harem is such a place that is often calculated, and it is stingy to take the initiative to fight, and it is the atmosphere to give up actively.
And such an atmospheric demeanor is much more noble than the hook-and-heart fight for power and profit!
Sometimes, not to fight or grab, is to retreat into the future!
02.
The second "let": Liu Xiu wanted to make the Yin brothers a marquis, but Was rejected by Yin Lihua again.
Liu Xiu wanted to make the Liyin brothers a marquis as a compensation for Yin Lihua, but was rejected by Yin Lihua.
She considered her status to be only a concubine, and her brothers were not qualified to be marquises.
Such peace and self-preservation, such an informed understanding, made Liu Xiu feel good and touched by her again: it turned out that she was always thinking about his interests, and her refusal was precisely the way to maintain peace and happiness in the harem.
Therefore, after investigating this point, Liu Xiu can naturally have more admiration for his wife and more affection.
In contrast, Empress Guo, she would only complain and accuse Liu Xiu, but she could not share a little sorrow for him, so Liu Xiu, who was tired of such a life, eventually deposed her.
This time of "let", on the contrary, let me admire Yin Lihua's heart, she is not the kind of woman who is sharp and coincidental, and she naturally has more feelings of family and country in her heart, so she would rather swallow her anger than let the harem appear discordant, she is tough and great.
Although Yin Lihua's Jean seems to have lost the glory and wealth in front of her, in the long run, her Jean, with the philosophy of life, is also full of wisdom and vision.
She is not anxious for a moment of honor and disgrace, but wants the emperor's long-term admiration and respect, she is not not asking, but she is not willing to lose the emperor's position in the heart for a moment's strength, she wants that unique.
Therefore, she is very indifferent to honor and status, and the temptation of money is particularly calm, and the only difference between her and Empress Guo is that Empress Guo wants temporary honor and ignores long-term competitiveness; but Yin Lihua wants unique feelings, which is a reward that needs to be hidden for a long time.
Therefore, women with two different beliefs eventually have two completely different lives - one is deposed, and the other is elected to the throne.
summary:
Yin Lihua is indeed a rare woman, she is not inflammatory, nor arrogant, she is intelligent and calm, seemingly silent, but in fact, she has already seen through the overall situation, so she does not argue, do not grab, but in the end these scrambles, will eventually fall into her hands.
It can be seen that she is intelligent and resourceful.
But I am not saying here that she is scheming and deliberately plotting, but these are the great wisdom of her being a person and managing her marriage, and she is willing to use the way of silent cultivation to get the most sincere love from her husband, so she thinks of Liu Xiu everything, shares his worries, does not give him trouble, lets him handle the government with peace of mind, and she is willing to be the woman behind his success.
This is the power of love!
Therefore, the phrase "marry a wife should be yin lihua" is no longer just a beautiful love story, it is more of a wise and open mind, and an unforgettable feeling!
Material from the Complete Biography of the Chinese Empress
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