Respect for each other, respect for virtue, and fellowship between people, friendship for love.
When we face illness, there is always a lot of helplessness. It doesn't vary by age, it doesn't differentiate between genders, it doesn't differentiate whether you have status or whether you have money or not.
Illness is always cold and merciless, and now we can only do our best to face it. In the face of illness, everyone's different attitudes also play a crucial role, generally we will choose to confess to our families and work together to fight the disease.
But there are also options to bear alone, such as the artist Li Ting. After she developed cancer, she did not choose to tell her family, but instead held on alone for nine years, and finally regretted it when her family knew.
Before the illness, Li Ting and Zhang Zijian's life was very happy. She and her husband Zhang Zijian met in college, which was the same window, but at that time, she only wanted to study, and did not be together. The two chose to confirm their relationship after working together on "White Brow Man" and "Winter Solstice".
The first love affair was sweet, and they also wanted to get along day and night, from black hair to whitehead. After the two got married, they also chased each other in their careers.
However, at this time, Zhang Zijian's development was not very good, but Li Ting did not abandon it at all, but resolutely decided to marry this poor boy who was looked down upon by many people at that time. In this way, the two got married, and after marriage, the two people were also happy and loving, and there was a cute little girl.
I thought that life was developing in a good direction, but I didn't expect that 2003 was a turning point in Li Ting's happiness.
Because at that time, Li Ting was detected to have breast cancer, which was already advanced. Such news once made her eyes lose its light.
This disease is also because of her long-term work, irregular diet, rest time and night upside down, long-term high-intensity work, so that Li Ting's body has a lot of problems.
Meanwhile, her husband is at the height of his career. Because "Detective Di Renjie" makes him deeply loved by many people, and after many years, Li Yuanfang, who he plays, has also caught fire on the Internet.
Seeing her husband in the ascending period, Li Ting could not bear to delay her husband's future development, and after a long ideological struggle, she still decided to bear the disease alone.
Li Ting's last thought was divorce, and she chose to attribute all the faults to herself, so that her husband and daughter could feel better.
Therefore, after two years, the two chose to divorce, and the daughter was also awarded to her husband. At that time, the news of the divorce of the two triggered a lot of speculation, but the two never came out to explain.
She didn't even tell her parents the news, because she felt that her parents were too old, and if they knew, they were worried that Li Ting might affect their own physical health.
A loving couple parted ways, and after the divorce, Li Ting did not actively fight the disease, but instead starred in works one after another. She shoots TV series and movies, and behaves like ordinary people, so although everyone lives around her, they don't know about her illness.
Originally, the intensity of such work was very large, and she was still plagued by illness, so the pressure in her heart could be imagined. What people could not imagine was that she had lived such a life for nine years.
Nine years ago, Li Ting could not hide from her family after all, so she informed her parents that she had cancer. Finally, accompanied by his parents, he died in a hospital bed.
When the news of Li Ting's death reached her ex-husband's ears, he learned that he had cancer, and the abnormalities that li Ting had before were linked to him made him regret it even more. So Zhang Zijian endured the pain to organize the funeral for her, and cried until she was unconscious.
Maybe they were both in love with each other at the time, and they loved in different ways. Li Ting's way of loving Zhang Zijian is that even if she is tormented by illness, she is not willing to tell Zhang Zijian, for fear that he will not feel good in his heart.
After Zhang Zijian knew the truth of the matter, he could only regret it silently, because he now had his own marriage and family.
After Li Ting's death, there were more problems that we did not expect. The younger brother of one of her mother's siblings and her own biological daughter competed for her inheritance.
Not long after Li Ting's death, her brother had already begun to want to divide her property, and even shamelessly said that he was kind, but just wanted to keep his sister's property for his niece and niece.
This practice is really chilling. Such behavior has not only been criticized by many people, but also made it difficult for his sister under the Nine Springs to feel at ease!
At first, Li Ting was afraid that her family would worry about herself, and she fought cancer alone for nine years without pain, but she did not expect that after Li Ting's death, her brother had already begun to think about her property.
Fortunately, Li Ting's parents understood their daughter's situation and finally let his brother take the lead in losing the battle. But even so, just such a thing, I can already see my brother's attitude.
This regrettable experience alone makes people think of another aspect, that is, in the husband and wife, do you need to be honest with your lover?
In fact, the most taboo thing about love is deception, and lovers need to be honest, especially on some major issues. When the other party knows that they have been deceived, they will feel very uncomfortable in their hearts, and they will be unable to accept it, so in the long run, it will greatly affect the trust between husband and wife. Love without words is what everyone should yearn for most.
Although we always feel that not telling him is for his own good, it is out of our deepest innermost thoughts. Like Li Ting thinks I don't tell you I have cancer because I think it's a better way for you, but we always impose our own ideas on others.
Just imagine, if Li Ting told her husband about her illness, would the two of them spend the best decade together? Isn't this a little better than regret later? After all, a good relationship is never a one-man show, but a big play that two people have to star together.
In the face of difficulties, we must be in the same boat to reach the other side of happiness. So we hope that in marriage, both parties should give each other a little more trust. Also believe that he is willing to accompany you when you are down.