All the confessions of the world
It's all a long time
All the breakups in the world
It's all planned for a long time
【Look and say】
Early in the morning, I saw a post that said," "You confessed, you broke up, you were never mine." ”
In the world of feelings, the active party seems to always be active, both beginning and ending.
Some people say that after the boyfriend broke up with him for three days, he found out that he was with his girlfriend; others said that the other party said a lot of reasons, but finally found that it was because of splitting other people's legs...
It seems that all breakups have been planned for a long time.
But looking back, why not confess?
We are still willing to believe that when we first confessed, all the promises were sincere, all the vows were absurd, and at that moment, the person who said it was like that, wanting to hold hands with you;
Before the breakup, he must have made the most adequate preparations, thought for a long time, and even found the next home, in order to decisively announce the breakup.
The difference is only the psychological feelings of the passive party.
In fact, we are stronger than we think;
The so-called dependence, just psychologically, is an inflated leather ball;
If you don't love, forget all the efforts you have to give
Love yourself more and spend the rest of your life enjoying yourself...
▼
Thought there was no end
>>>01<<<
She was a former colleague of Yi's, and I still don't know the name, so I call her "Sunflower".
I remember the summer of 2014, when we first met.
The first time I saw her, I thought she was so sunny. Very casual ponytail, very bright smile, very happy conversation, very optimistic attitude. I was infected by this beautiful woman.
At the time, she was preparing for a divorce.
Before that, Yi kept mentioning her, her strength, her marriage, her dedication and her eventual preparation.
I never imagined that a woman who was about to be divorced would be as bright as a sunflower, not only would she not have a pitiful appearance of being abandoned with rain, but she would also be able to transmit positive emotions to others.
But some people can do this. For them, all experiences are equal, divorce is the same as getting up to go to school, since it can not be avoided, be brave to face. If life is full of wars, then they can cope with all the unexpected situations and maintain enough calm to win one battle after another.
They used to be the most perfect lovers, the most compatible couples, the most tacit partners.
She is a woman who goes up to the hall and the kitchen, handles the work on the one hand, takes care of the family on the other hand, and fully supports her husband's advancement.
He walked upwards wholeheartedly, with her help, without a trace of interference, without the slightest worry.
In graduate school, the graduation thesis was that she collected information, sorted out and wrote a manuscript; decorating the house, she was 8 months pregnant and still drove a cargo card to buy materials from her own; work, she worked hard to support him step by step, until she sent him to Beijing; on the days of separation between the two places, she could drive a high-speed car by herself overnight, just so that she could meet him in the morning...
Even, in the days when he had filed for divorce, she was still preparing her doctoral dissertation for him, only because after all, the formalities had not yet been completed, and the marriage was still alive...
She didn't feel how capable and great she was when she did this, she felt that everything was taken for granted. Even when she finally parted ways, she did not feel that she was wronged, because there was no regret, so there was no complaint.
She did her best, every role, enough.
What others do is someone else's business. One person can never control another person, both physically and mentally.
Beautiful conspiracy
>>>02<<<
But she was still shocked, when he filed for divorce.
She was in Zhengzhou, he was in the capital, and the two of them gathered less and left more. But she never felt that her feelings were diluted, but instead believed that "if the two feelings are long, they will be in the twilight of the dynasty."
But once twilight is not possible, the distance may create a sense of freedom.
He did not really divorce, he said that because of the business problems in Beijing, the creditors were pressing tightly, so they were afraid of tiring her and her children, pretending to go through divorce procedures and transferring their property to her name. When the limelight passes, remarry.
Seeing her stunned, he comforted her and said, "Can't our feelings stand the test of form?" Fake divorce, it's because I love you. ”
She was speechless. Listening to some men with all kinds of excuses, fake drama really doing, she couldn't believe his reasons. She would rather suffer with him than be alone.
She didn't believe it.
But she didn't cry or complain.
She did not hide this fact, but told the leader colleague friend. Let's help her figure out a way.
So she began to look for the phone number of the private investigator from the small advertisement on the street, and after being deceived by the money remitted many times but never heard from her, one of them finally accepted her commission.
Regardless of whether it was legal or not, she obtained evidence of his betrayal.
Not only did he have an affair with an elderly single female leader of an administrative unit, but the two of them also had a child, and the child was already half a year old.
She must have felt dizzy and dark too.
But she remained silent. He urged, she said that she was thinking, always under the pretext of traveling in the field.
In fact, she did not want to divorce, until the last moment, she still hoped that the child could have a father around.
But she prepared for the worst.
So she went to someone to find out his financial status and registered his hidden property.
Until then, she still hoped that he would change his mind.
Women are strange animals. Before it happens, they will think that cheating is intolerable fault, but the other party really cheated on it, but still wants to keep it.
But repeatedly lowering one's own limits will not be able to reverse the mental changes that have already occurred.
In fact, before this, the sensible daughter once told a friend that her father asked her to call an aunt Mommy, and she said: "Daddy is really stupid, I have Mommy, why do you want to call someone else Mommy?" ”
But often the parties are the last to know.
Jet lag, is it deliberately pulled apart?
>>>03<<<
In the end, it was divorced. The man is out of the house.
A wife is not as good as a concubine, and a concubine is not as good as stealing.
Obviously, for his future, the one that stole, was more appropriate.
Perhaps from the beginning he had taken a fancy to her ability to help him improve; and one day when her strength ran out, he would choose another branch.
A person has a person's philosophy and cannot judge right from wrong.
The harsher reality is that at the time of the divorce, the in-laws only said one sentence: "We listen to our sons." ”
A faint word obliterated all her filial piety and all her love.
No one was on her side.
Now, divorced, her life is still like a spring of tinkling water.
At work, at the end of each project, let the body and mind take a vacation, see the scenery of the world; in life, her energy always seems to be too exuberant, her own, her parents' house, her friends' house, she helped design and decorate eight or nine sets, happy to do so; economically, because of the good financial management and vision, the many sets of small apartments bought before are successfully rented, with the acceleration of the transformation of the urban village, the rent is rising day by day, only if the landlord can also let her maintain a rich life...
She even plans to study abroad and see a different world.
Without him, it seems that she can save more time and mood to enjoy life instead of getting tired of running.
Sometimes, a person's long-distance walk allows you to learn to meditate and enjoy.
Should we thank him and thank him for leaving?
One day I discussed marriage with a friend and thought that civilization was a process of suppressing human nature. In the name of protecting the rights of the parties, marriage regulates the emotions that may change at any time in the name of the law, which is itself a contradiction. Feelings cannot be determined by the body, so marriage can only be imprisoned by the body and not the mind. Having two people who are no longer in love live together in the name of marriage is essentially a devastation.
So emotionally, it doesn't matter whether there is betrayal or betrayal. Coming together is wishful thinking, how can it be betrayed? Betrayal, because the promise is too long, the heart becomes too cruel. You can love other people, but you shouldn't hide it from me, because if you hide it, it will bring betrayal.
Marriage and love are doomed to be insoluble because they are not synchronized.
Our hearts are so far away that we are not in a time zone, but you forgot to inform me that the jet lag is reversed.
In fact, in the end, it is still necessary to thank you for the long-planned, at least not to stay at random. Those tangled times are also because of the consideration of what they once had, right?