"Sweet talk" seems to be a derogatory term, but in the treatment of people and things, many local people are inseparable from sweet words, and it is difficult to surrender the hearts of others if they do not say what they cannot say. In fact, sweet talk is not just out of the intention of coaxing people to harm people, and it is not a speaking skill. From the perspective of thick black learning, to treat people and things, we must have the following four kinds of "mental tricks" to speak, and we must understand some sweet words to mix, otherwise, it will be difficult to mix.
"Mental strategy" one: grasp the scale of praise
Praise is perhaps the most commonly used "sweet word", basically no one does not like, because one of the needs of humanity is to be praised. However, praise should grasp the scale, to fit the actual situation, not too false, too exaggerated, space is empty, in the end, is to make your praise can be tested, appear real, detailed, appropriate, do not lift the stone to drop their feet. Otherwise, before the work is concluded, do not simply say words of approval, you can use words of wishes to replace, to avoid work failure, make jokes, and make each other embarrassed.
"Mental trick" two: say more good things about others
There was a bear who was seriously injured, came to the cabin of the old man who guarded the forest, and when he slept at night, because he only needed a bed and the climate was cold, the old man who guarded the forest kindly asked the bear to sleep in the same bed. As a result, because the smell on the bear's body was really too bad, the old man who guarded the forest really couldn't help it, so he complained bitterly: "God, this taste is so bad that it can almost smoke people to death!" Saying that, he also hid in disgust.
In response, the bear did not fight back at all, and after the far-fetched attack, honestly thanked the forest keepers, and then returned to the forest. A few months later, the old man of the forest met the bear again and asked whether its wounds had healed, and the bear replied, "My physical wounds have long since healed, but the damage you and I have done to my soul will never recover!" ”
This fable shows the great lethality of clear speech. Therefore, to treat people and things, we must root out words that hurt people, but we must try to say more good words about others, because good words are never too much, the so-called "good words and three winter warm", say more good words, even if it sounds like sweet words, no one does not like to listen.
"Trick" three: If you are flattered, you must say it
HouHeixue thinks that people more or less like others to flatter themselves, even if they clearly know that the other party is talking about a slap in the ass, it is inevitable that their hearts will flutter, perhaps smug, which is a shortcoming of humanity. In other words, when being questioned by others, as long as it is not overdone, it will be very useful and will never be bored.
In fact, in actual society, people who can speak flattery seem to be more mixed, and after people listen to the words, even if they are humble in their mouths, their hearts are happy and nourishing, and they think that you can speak. If you feel that flattery is a slap in the face, to the detriment of your decency or solemnity, then in many cases you are simply at a loss. Therefore, flattery should still be said.
"Scheming" FOUR: Compliments should be mentioned on the point
Compliments and flattery are simply thought to be a slap in the face, and they are indeed a very useful kind of "sweet talk". There is a joke that a certain Jun is good at complimenting people, is an expert in patting horses, and has a great reputation, even Yama Wangye knows him. Behind a certain jun, the king of Yama saw him and scolded angrily, "You horse ass spirit, I am most tired of people like you." The horse ass spirit quickly prostrated his head and complimented: "The king is right, because the world loves to be patted on the horse, unlike the great king you, the grand duke is selfless, just and honest, so he is most tired of the act of patting the horse's ass." When King Yama heard this, he couldn't help but allow it one after another, and after a while he turned from anger to joy.
It can be seen that the compliments are also what everyone is willing to listen to. However, if the compliment is to remember the effect, it must be mentioned on the point, not too flattering, nor exaggerated. Some people should sum up the compliments as follows: With regard to the young man, he is complimented with being young and promising, and courageous; with regard to the middle-aged man, he is complimented with being knowledgeable and experienced; with regard to intellectuals, he is complimented with being knowledgeable and insightful; with regard to businessmen, he is complimented with his flexible mind and rich fortune... These are all very useful compliments.