"Love" is a very beautiful word, without it, there will be a lot of desire to have it, after having it, there will be a lot of subtle chemical reactions, will make a person sweet, but also make a person annoyed. This is love! I don't know if you have ever felt this way, when you see a character in the book or a character in the TV series, you will fantasize: if this so-and-so is my boyfriend, if this so-and-so is my girlfriend. It's as if with this perfect boyfriend/girlfriend, life can go to the top. However, in general, this kind of plot can only happen on the basis that the perfect boyfriend/girlfriend is not an earthling. The movie that Yu Meng recommends to you today is about a writer and the perfect girlfriend he created, which may make everyone reflect on their love relationship at the same time.
The setting of the movie "People in the Love Book" is very unusual, so that a group of otaku like the male protagonist in the movie seem to have found an outlet, if this kind of thing happens to themselves, it would be good, have a girlfriend of their own creation, the appearance, body, personality and hobbies of the girlfriend, all of her can be created by herself, he can live according to his own requirements. But everyone still wake up, this can only happen in the movie plot. The key is, from this film, what shadows can you see about yourself?
Kevin (Paul. Dano) is a genius novelist who once became one of the famous writers in the country with his debut novel, but when it came to the second work, he encountered a bottleneck. At the same time, his life has not seemed satisfactory, and kevin has been alone since his first girlfriend left him, even calling himself "the type that is not suitable for dating". So Kevin began to fictionalize his ideal Type Ruby (Zoe. Kazan), and records Ruby in his dream to prepare for the theme of his new book. In this way, Kevin spent a few nights dreaming of daytime writing days. Until one day, Kevin woke up to find that the Rubi in his dream had actually appeared in his life, and what was even more incredible was that Kevin could change the real-life Ruby by writing the fictional Ruby. Love comes for no reason, the two are completely immersed in it, and when the passion slowly recedes, there are many contradictions between Kevin and Ruby, and finally the distance between the two is getting farther and farther. Fortunately, in the end, Kevin finally understood how to love in the pain.
"People in the Love Book" is a small and fresh style of love film, and gloom is destined not to be the theme. When the clouds clear and the farce subsides, it can be described as a modern cinematic interpretation of the Pygmalion myth.
One
Kevin, a best-selling otaku author, is withdrawn and possessive, with only two friends, his brother and the psychiatrist. First of all, Kevin is not a perfect person, except that he is a young writer who became famous early, and there seems to be no shining place. He is like many ordinary men in our lives, ordinary, perhaps in some areas of their own outstanding achievements, but not perfect, personality, way of doing things and so on. It's normal for him to have a failed relationship because of his personality. And the screenwriter let such a person suddenly have an ability, that is, his characters appear in life, you can give her any family background, any personality hobbies, any language talent. Perhaps, many people will say that such a girlfriend who fully meets their expectations, and can change her and manipulate her at will, this relationship should have a beginning and an end! However, this is not the case.
Two
Ruby, the goddess of Kay's book, is also his fantasy girlfriend. Suddenly, one day, she walked out of the book and began an unusual life with a male writer. At first, this couple was like a couple in love, talking a lot of meaty love words, traveling around, going crazy together, and doing a lot of exciting things together. At this time, they see that each other is good, and the most important thing they want to do is to get tired of being together all day long. However, the period of love will eventually pass.
Three
After the love affair has passed, Ruby discovers that Kevin is cold to his own family and has no sympathy for his mother and stepfather. Kevin has no friends, life is very monotonous, the only thing she loves to do is to read, which makes the lively and cheerful Ruby feel very lonely, she feels lost herself. So Ruby offered to go to art class, live separately once a week, and they all needed to have their own space. This is a very good change for Ruby, because Ruby loves the outside world, and Kevin has set her exactly that kind of personality. But it didn't take long for Kevin to stand it, his world was not big, only Ruby and the dog named Scotty. Kevin began to take out the long-sealed manuscript again, and began to change Ruby, so that Ruby everything developed according to his wishes. The beginning was to let Ruby stick to herself all the time, so that at first it was good, eating together, watching dramas together, watching movies together, and dragging her hands together all the time. However, this practice also greatly makes Ruby insecure. Separated for a while, Ruby would feel extremely sad. Kevin took out the manuscript again and wrote down a statement that Ruby would be very happy. However, when Ruby is happy, this makes Kevin begin to feel that it is not his actions that make Ruby really happy, it is just the function of the words. Everything returned to square one, and Ruby began to be herself.
After Ruby began to be herself, their contradictions still existed. Ruby longs for freedom, for her own social circle, for doing a lot of novel things. But Kevin's desire for control was so strong that when Ruby took off her clothes and was ready to swim with the others, everything exploded. Kevin wrote a lot of torturous sentences, imprisoned her in the house, made her speak French, made her sing while undressing, made her bark and walk like a dog, made her say "I love you...", and so on. However, these are no longer true, and when Ruby says these words, she is hysterical, changing the affection of the past.
Sure enough, everything did not go according to the audience's imagination. There is no perfect other half in the world, and even if there is, if you are not good enough, you will lose her. Kevin's shortcomings are isolation and control, but his ideal woman is so free and has her own opinions on everything. You are not excellent, even if the other party is excellent, the relationship will not last long. This returns to an old topic, how to manage a relationship?
The first is the intention. Treat each other with heart, such as remembering each other's preferences, and spending special days such as each other's birthdays, Valentine's Day and anniversaries with care.
The second is that there is tacit understanding. Do not do things that make the other party feel bad, such as taking the initiative to maintain an appropriate distance from the opposite sex, not staying up at night, and if you encounter something that needs to be returned late or not, you also take the initiative to be frank and honest, and take the initiative to strengthen each other's trust with actions.
Finally, listen. If there is a contradiction between the two people, how to better resolve it? For example, not cold and violent, not refusing to communicate, respecting each other's wishes and taking care of each other's feelings, and not imposing their will on each other.
After reading "People in the Book of Love", I think a very important factor in maintaining a good relationship is that everyone in love must have an independent consciousness, not overly dependent on each other, and do not try to control each other. Without the other half, you can live very well. Two people in love must be 1+1=2, not 1+1=1.
Expect everyone to meet their own 100% boys or 100% girls, and do it and cherish it.