When it comes to the topic of exs, everyone will have a different attitude. This Saturday (August 7) "Do Not Disturb", a male guest was full of gratitude to his ex, "You invisibly let me change a lot of bad habits, really benefit for life, thank you!" Another male guest, referring to the criteria for mate selection, stressed: "I especially hope to find a partner who can lead me to growth." The three teachers unanimously said: Good love makes people grow. The best souvenir of love is the positive changes left by the other party on you, we should all be grateful, growth mentality to love, make ourselves more excellent, in order to harvest better love.
"Ex, thank you for making me better and better!"
Male guest Zhao Yang used to be a person with introverted and less confident personality, a relationship made him change a lot, "She is a very good person herself, she will ask me to be self-motivated, to go to graduate school; to learn to manage my emotions; tell me to treat girls with gentlemanly demeanor, eat to help girls pull chairs, walk to let girls go inside, get on the car to help girls pull the car door... It can be said that she gradually turned me into the perfect boyfriend in her mind, and more importantly, she invisibly changed many of my bad habits and benefited me for life. Later, because she studied abroad, the two had no choice but to break up. I want to say to her, really thank you for making me better and better! ”
The female guests also shared the changes brought to themselves by their predecessors, Feng Kunyang said: "I didn't eat fruit at all before, but my predecessor would buy fruit every Wednesday, and told me that Wednesday was fruit day. Even after the breakup, I still buy my own fruit every Wednesday. Zhao Yiming said: "I am a typical Northeast girl, who was a bit hot before, but I was grinded more and more gently by my predecessor." Compared with my past self, I still like my gentle self now, so sometimes we should thank our ex for some good changes. Wu Xuan also agreed: "In the past, my personality was a bit fragile, it was my predecessor who taught me how to be strong and independent, how to learn to regulate my emotions, and now I can regulate my emotions well when I encounter things, and I have become a particularly emotionally stable person in both work communication and love." ”
Male guest Zhao Yang also said that he is now confident and lively, and he is also brave in looking forward to his own beautiful love. In the end, will someone leave a lamp for him?
Only by growing into a better self can we harvest better love
Sun Yilun, a male guest with a star face, has won the favor of many female guests with his high appearance, although his appearance is fashionable, he has a retro heart, likes to listen to songs from the 80s and 90s, likes retro flower ties and flower shirts, likes to get away from the city to get along with nature... When it comes to mate selection criteria, he particularly emphasizes: "I hope that she is a person who can lead me to grow, many people mind that the other half is much better than themselves, but I will not at all, I think she should be more shining, can take me to become more excellent." 」 Two people together to influence each other, grow together, to harvest a better self, so that our respective future life is of positive significance. ”
For Sun Yilun's emotional view, the three teachers all agree: when it comes to the ex, some people will be more sad, but some people will be full of gratitude. The best souvenir of love is not a ring, necklace, or other gift, but a positive change left by the other party on you. There is no success or failure in love, we should all draw nourishment and improve ourselves in the process of love. It may not be that every relationship has a perfect ending, but it is important that every relationship has a meaning, and we should become better after regretting separation, and then embrace better feelings with better selves. Meng Fei also stressed that there is a very important point in love called "finding yourself", "We must clearly understand what we like and dislike in our hearts, what we really want in our hearts, good lovers, good love, in fact, in response to the needs we most desire in our hearts." Before falling in love, you must listen to your own inner voice and understand the real needs of your heart, rather than simply matching some external conditions such as appearance, family, and work, but to seriously understand each other's personality, three views, and thoughts, and see if two people are suitable or not. ”
Male guest Sun Yilun also said: "In the previous relationship, I thought of feelings too simplistic, maybe because of a moment of good feelings, I liked it, but the time together was particularly short. What I'm looking for now is a relationship that can have a positive impact together, that two people can go together and have a more stable relationship. "In the end, can he hold hands with the person he loves?"
Watching tips: Jiangsu Satellite TV's "Non-sincere Do Not Disturb" is brilliantly staged at 20:30 this Saturday (August 7) at night!