Women with successful careers, happy families, and raising their own children have always been the object of my envy, and they have always been my role models. I heard a teacher say a sentence before: "A successful woman with children must be inseparable from the help of her family." Two years ago, I just listened to this sentence. Now that I have my own child, I suddenly remembered this sentence and felt that the summary was very in place.
As a working person, I still want to take care of my side job, and I have to take care of my children, and the content of today's private class is really timely rain for me. However, after listening to Heidi's 8 suggestions, I gained not only time management, but also felt that my cognition had upgraded.
Let me first share Heidi's 8 suggestions for using time:
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Heidi's 8 tips
1) If you're doing something effortless, you're wasting time
2, a person's character, determine the tone of a person's life
3, believe in the judgment of the heart, rather than the calculation in the head, your heart has more information than you have
4. Choosing a partner is the most important thing
5. The art of negotiation/communication lies in finding the best fit for the needs of both parties
6) Life is capricious, please imagine this thing as a mess and lower your expectations a little before anything starts
7. Make the most of your time
8, 20 ~40 ~60 rule:
At the age of 20, you are always worried about how others will see you;
At 40, you wake up, "I don't care what other people think."
When you're 60 years old, you realize that no one cares about you
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Sentiment
At first glance, this did not give any advice, did not tell me what to do? But compared with the above 8, each one is a reminder to cherish our time, help us avoid, and waste our own time.
It's effortless to make decisions, and if it's not a waste of time, there's no progress. As the old saying goes, "If you don't advance, you will retreat."
A person's character determines the tone of life, the tone of life circles the people in their own circle, there is no need to spend too much energy on people and things with different values, is it improving their time utilization efficiency?
Trust in the judgment of the heart, to give a very simple example, choose a partner, whether to choose the person you like or choose a person who you feel is suitable after weighing the pros and cons. Choose a job, whether it's a job you like or a job that weighs the pros and cons and compromises... There are many, many problems in life.
Choosing a partner, I have experienced the failure of the partnership business, and I sincerely warn with the experience of the people who have come over - it is very important to choose a partner.
Negotiation, communication and transaction, it is necessary to find the point of convergence between the two sides, in order to talk together, life problems can be solved, and business can be traded with customers.
When we lower expectations of a person about a thing, avoid more emotional problems and problems that are pulled out because of emotional problems, and so on.
The last rule is to make me firm in my original intention and firm in the life I want. Yes, when we are young, we care a lot about what others think of us. Starting a family, there are old people, there are small ones, life is ultimately your own, live your own life, no matter what others think. I'm not 60 years old, so I can plan ahead for my 60-year-old self, but I still have to live the present life.
And the 7th point, make full use of their own time, this point seems to be directly related to the theme, synthesize the other 7 points, make full use of their own time, that is, do not put time on unnecessary things, and do the other 7 points, their energy and attention will also invisibly improve to their own goals and pursuits, forming their own way of life. I think that the efficient use of their time is to put their energy on useful things, what is useful, to put it bluntly, is to put it on things that can give themselves a promotion and salary increase, can make their families feel happy, can improve themselves, and their quality of life continues to improve. And this goal is to form a virtuous circle through their own planning, and this way of life is to use their time efficiently.
