After Minglan got married, Qi Heng held his breath, he thought he had obtained a meritorious name, he thought he had returned to singleness, he thought he had asked for marriage again, he thought he had removed all obstacles.
Unfortunately, he still missed Minglan, or rather Minglan gave up on him.
Minglan married Gu Tingye willingly, and even full of joy.
This man who even uses the "Art of War of Sun Tzu", creates obstacles, uses all the people and things that can be used, and is full of eyes to ask to marry Minglan, his love is real and urgent.
Fortunately, he still caught Minglan, or rather Minglan rushing to him.
I once thought that these two men who were circling in Minglan's life obviously loved Minglan to the bone, but why did they have different endings?
Especially Qi Heng, he and Minglan are obviously in love in both directions, but they miss it again and again, abandon it again and again, maybe it is too sweet to fall in love, and it is most difficult to endure a little bitterness.
Speaking of Gu Tingye, who has turned his life around several times, but he has experienced bitterness and sweetness in each other, he has only re-emerged together, and perhaps the marriage that has suffered hardships can best withstand the wind and rain.
Writing "Knowing or Not" again, I know what the emotional entanglement between Minglan and Qi Heng and Gu Tingye represents, it turns out that we love to let go, and we also say that we do not clean up the gap between love and marriage.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="25" > the sweetest thing is love, and the most bitter is love. </h1>
If you can, people should talk about love once in their lives, no matter where they are born.
Remember how Qi Heng swore an oath to his parents?
He said, "I want her one in my life, I will never take a second one, I will definitely be on the list." ”
Seriously, whoever listens to it is not moved, and who listens to it does not pounce on it?
This is love, the purest love, he is the only one in his love, and his future is also related to her.
A man who dares to make such a promise to his parents, I have reason to believe that he is really in love, and there is no reason to refute it.
And in this love of disparity in status and unequal status, the response given by Minglan is also firm.
To this day, I remember Minglan saying three times " I do, I do, I do, Grandmother!" ”
This should be the best response to love and the best experience.
This two-way love is absolutely beautiful.
It's just that the most beautiful love, the ending is mostly miserable.
As the only son of the Qi family, he shouldered the honor and disgrace of the family, the face of the heir, and the glory of the lintel, and none of them allowed him any opportunity to be arrogant.
Even in modern times, aren't most of the marriages of those who are rich and powerful and powerful all kinds of marriages?
Perhaps, Qi Heng did not swear to his parents so confidently, pushing his parents to the opposite side, and Minglan still had the opportunity to fight overnight.
After all, every parent loves his child and hopes that he can marry his favorite wife.
But "parents love their children, they have far-reaching plans for them", which is love and non-love.
Qi Heng to Minglan, not love and can not, is not able to love enough love, because in this simple love, can not withstand any storm, so the end can only be whether he gives up on her, or she gives up on him.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="155" > the most valuable thing in a couple's life is sincerity, trust and thoughtfulness. </h1>
If you can, people should find a marriage in their lives that can shelter themselves from the wind and rain, protect themselves thoroughly, and live a comfortable life.
I believe that any woman who listens to Gu Tingye's confession will be crazy about it, this is not a simple love, but a lifelong trust.
He said, "I have admired Ru for a long time, may Youru be a woman, entrusted with the middle of the feeding, and the heirs will continue, I am the oldest in the pile of men, and you are the oldest in the pile of women."
This is marriage, the most ideal marriage, throwing out one's own wealth and giving absolute trust and security.
A man who is willing to put himself and his mind out without reservation, who is willing to entrust himself to another person, I believe this is the love of the white head hand in hand.
His conditions were not as good as Qi Heng, and the reputation in front of him and the bad debts behind him were not excellent candidates, and he Hongwen had not even been chosen easily.
But the only thing he has the biggest advantage is that he understands Minglan and is willing to give Minglan enough space to let her live her own wanton life.
In fact, in marriage, we will always unconsciously make a lot of demands on our lovers, and we will also ask our other half to do our best, and in this radical process, we have scattered many people.
It is also the reason why we often feel that the other half has two faces before and after marriage.
Mr. Yang Dai once said, "Not everyone is suitable for growing up with you, some people are suitable for growing up; some people are suitable for living together, and some people are suitable for a lifetime of nostalgia." You have to believe that there is always an encounter, it is mutual liking, mutual appreciation, and coming across the vast sea of people. ”
Obviously, for Minglan, he is the kind of person who likes each other, appreciates each other, and achieves each other; while Qi Heng is the person who misses in his dreams.
After all, no one who lives in reality can escape the ravages and devastation of reality, as well as the achievements and growth of reality.
Gu Tingye's love for Minglan is the most realistic and understandable of each other, in the days of their hand in hand, any wind and rain, any wild storm, will become the foreshadowing of their firm each other again and again, and the love is naturally accumulated and thicker.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="159" > the gap between ideal love and real marriage</h1>
The gap between ideal and reality is that there is more if, because reality does not allow it, and there will be no word if.
The relationship between ideal love and real marriage is that there is only love in love, ignoring reality; and there is only love left in marriage, and the more realistic it is, the more it can test love.
In fact, we all know that love and marriage complement each other, because with a marriage based on love, we can be more happy.
But between the ideal and reality, it is because there are too many relatives and friends mixed in the middle, social status, gold and silver wealth, mixed with inseparable interests.
Otherwise, there will be countless good stories in the world.
This is the most interesting part of life, there are so many helplessness, there are so many choices, in the end you have to follow reality and live according to the most unavoidable way.
For Qi Heng, I have always been willing to retain a little understanding, because he has given Minglan the first throbbing of love and has also composed the purest first love.
For Gu Tingye, I am also willing to have twelve points of trust, because he is breaking through the darkness and stepping through the mountains and rivers, and his decision to love is eternal.
I believe more than one person has asked, if Minglan marries Qi Heng, what will be the outcome?
I'm sure it must be very happy, after all, they have experienced a lot of suffering, but they will not stop asking each other, or building each other.
Because Qi Heng is not a big hero in Minglan's mind, Minglan is not a gentle little woman in Qi Heng's mind.
Different origins determine different expectations, and as long as the expectations are not frequent, contradictions will naturally appear.
Living a life of chagrin and contradiction is common in reality.
Similarly, Gu Tingye and Minglan, they have their own blank memories, and this memory is their own and other people's memories, so they can only look forward to the future.
And work hard to create a story that belongs to two people, so that there will be a lot of sweetness in the days to be remembered later.
There is a gap between ideal love and real marriage, which is insurmountable, but it is contradictory and unified. Paradoxically, the gap between the ideal and reality itself, the unity is that both want to develop in a good direction.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="161" > talk about an ideal love and a real marriage</h1>
This is the best and hardest wish in life to fulfill.
If I can, I hope that I can meet "Qi Heng" in my life who is only willing to talk about love, because the real world really needs a lot of sugar to not let myself live in sorrow.
Of course, I hope that I can meet the trusting and considerate "Gu Tingye" in my life, because starting and settling down are all very realistic things.
Life, go to work in order to leave work, leave work for the next day to work, day after day, panic, but also for the sake of breaking silver a few or two.
Especially women, have to go through the most embarrassing pregnancy, fertility period, from you began to prepare for pregnancy, pregnancy, lactation, for the health of the child, began not makeup, no nail art, no hair coloring, no perm, do not eat cold drinks spicy stimulating food, body deformation, social circle shrinkage and shrinkage, live to become a yellow-faced woman.
Therefore, when you can still talk about love, you must indulge yourself in a headless and brainless love, and when you get married, you must polish your eyes and find a man who loves himself miserably.
I know it's probably just a wish, but the wish still has to be had, what if it comes true?
A particular favorite sentence: Every woman, when she is young, should be full and determined to love.
Someone once said that if you can accept that there is no one for you, then you can not get married; but if the meaning of marriage is from Lancôme to Dabao, from Armani to Pinduoduo, from Haidilao to roadside stalls, then you will not tie the knot for a lifetime.
Life is really difficult, there are no laws and fixed numbers to speak of, some are just their own hearts that are not willing to be ordinary and struggle to move forward.
So let's move on with this unstable heart, and figure out what ideal love and real marriage are, and there's nothing to be afraid of.
May your love meet the ideal, and the marriage meet the reality!