As the saying goes: the authorities are fans.
When something big happens at home, it's often messed up and overwhelmed... It will bring some small regrets to things, and it will also accidentally offend some people and leave some shadows on the heart...
It was the first day of the first lunar month in 1996, and on that afternoon, my father suddenly stopped breathing... He walked peacefully and clearly. I remember when he said to me a little uncomfortable, and then he couldn't speak, as if he was asleep.
At that time, it happened that the old watch was in my house. He came to see, said that the person had died, came out and asked the family to take out the firecrackers on the spot, crackling... I ran out immediately. Blame him - who told you to let go, no one stopped breathing, you set off the firecrackers.
At that time, the old watch was standing there stupidly... After a while, he eased up and explained that people had long since run out of gas.
In fact, I knew in my heart that it was just difficult to accept this reality.
It was the New Year's Day, and such a thing happened, originally according to rural customs, should not let people know, after the fifth day of the first lunar calendar, can be reported to the funeral. This is good, the old watch put the firecrackers, the regiment is surrounded by neighbors, and the village and the outside of the village all know it...
There is no way, I know it, and I can only prepare for the aftermath.
In that era, when the New Year was auspicious, people were often taboo, especially those who went to ask for help... This makes the entire funeral process more difficult and costs more financially than usual.
After the guidance of the old people - first of all, you have to ask someone who can make old shoes and old hats (shou shoes shou hat, made of paper), shou clothes are prepared in advance... Put it on after doing it, so as not to pass away and be barefoot. At that time, the people on the production team did not share dividends and white happy events, they were all helpful, and people did not want to give money... However, when you go to invite people, you have to seal a red envelope, which contains a piece of two cents, which represents the meaning of "getting rich in the month and the month".
Taking the red envelope out for a walk, I met four or five people, only one person was willing, and the rest of the people all said that there was something wrong... Moreover, no one is willing to receive red envelopes. This is not right, the big New Year's Day, the salary is not wanted, but the red envelope has no reason not to, because the figure is auspicious, the past is collected...
Go home to the third uncle and say, the old man thought about it, and then looked at the red packet... Found the red envelope mouth sealed. Saying that the red envelope of the New Year of the New Year cannot be sealed, and the sealing of the mouth is the "dead red packet", of course, no one receives it... In this way, all red envelopes were unsealed... And when asking people, don't wear filial piety cloth to go...
Therefore, according to the instructions of the third uncle and his old man, he went to invite someone from the new... Sure enough, this time the invitation was very smooth, people were full of admission, and happily accepted the red envelope...
Everything is going smoothly according to rural customs... But on the morning of the burial on the mountain, for some reason? Offend the master who carried the coffin.
For the New Year's auspicious white affairs, in order to be auspicious, not only should there be more "red packets", but also for the people who went to help, especially the "master of lifting" each to pull a red cloth strip to show that "everything is auspicious"... I learned about it later.
The people carrying the coffin, carried to the road, because the bundle was too loose, cut the ground uphill and down, there was a place where the coffin fell to the ground underneath... I didn't dare to bind it a second time. When the clear-eyed people see it, they all know that this is a "joke" made by the master...
At that time, listening to the old people, the coffin touched the ground on the way, and the legend said that the ghost would kneel there for three years...
In this way, the old father finally sent the mountain to be buried, and in this auspicious day of the New Year, it is really not easy to do white things... Especially the legend that "the coffin touches the ground". During that time, I dreamed every night, as if I saw his old man really kneeling there... There was always a shadow of guilt in my heart, until I forgot it for a long time.