Life is a mirror. You laugh at it, it laughs at you; You cry to it, and it cries at you.
There is a hot issue on Zhihu:
For the writer Cai Lan said: "Try to learn, try to experience, try to travel, try to eat good things, life is better." "Which one did you do?"
Some people say they have done it all, and some people say it is unrealistic to do it.
But I think what is revealed behind this is a person's living state, what kind of life you want, what kind of action you need to pay.
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Life is changeable, and you can't predict all the information.
Disaster and good luck, I don't know which one will come first.
And what you can do is "if it comes, it will be safe." "Rise to the challenge with a fuller spirit.
Ouyang Xiu was such a person. At the age of 36, he was caught up in the wave of innovation, and finally the New Deal failed, and he was demoted to Chuzhou Taishou.
In Chuzhou, he was too punctual, but Ouyang Xiu was at ease. Food, wine, beauty, the same is indispensable.
As long as he had time, he would meet his friends, take fine wine, walk six or seven miles along the mountain road, pass through the middle of two peaks, see the spring water flowing down, and then turn around, and see a pavilion.
Ouyang Xiu and his friends were there drinking, watching the sunset, and when the sun rose, wildflowers bloomed all over the mountainside, which was beautiful.
What he saw and felt this time was recorded by him in the immortal famous article "The Tale of the Drunken Pavilion", in which the sentence "The meaning of the drunken man is not in the wine, but also in the mountains and rivers." The joy of the landscape, the heart and the wine of the apartment. "It is the soul of the article."
It is perfectly normal that life has waves.
Children who are sick, who have conflicts with their families, who are dismissed, who are ridiculed by their neighbors, and so on, can't even count ten fingers.
But so what? Since it has happened, accept it and then go and fix it.
When the child is sick, he goes to the hospital to see a doctor, and when he has a conflict with his family, he strives to solve the estrangement as soon as possible, and when he is dismissed, he finds a job again, and is ridiculed by the neighbors, as long as it does not affect his mood, then what is there to worry about.
As Yi Shu wrote in "The Place where the Lights Are Dimmed": "Being a person should be like this, both come to peace, be happy, and enjoy the things at hand, because that's it, if you insist that what you can't get is the best, it is clear that you can't get it with yourself, which hinders health." Smart people don't do that. ”
If it comes, it is safe, it is the way of life of a wise man.
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It has been said that action does not necessarily bring happiness, and without action there is no happiness.
When you encounter something you want to do, but look ahead and look back, you delay in taking action, and you eventually miss the best opportunity.
Traveling to take photos and punch cards is a regular behavior of tourists, but there are also such tourists, it is difficult to find a good attraction, and the result is that a large number of people soon come. Then he felt that there were too many people, a little embarrassed, so he thought about coming back to this place next time to shoot.
Unexpectedly, when he went again, the attraction was long gone, and I heard that it was flooded earlier, which just washed away.
Zhihu has a high praise replied: "If you like it, you can have it, don't be afraid of the result." ”
Since you like it and want to take pictures and nostalgia, then actively take action, don't be afraid of the people around you, because everyone thinks the same, they all want to take a picture there, which is not something worth criticizing.
As the super classic sentence in the variety show "Please Answer 1988":
"What's funny is not the traffic lights, the timing, but my countless hesitations."
In life, we often waste a lot of time because of hesitation, not having fun in time, not doing things in time.
At the beginning, I felt that the movie was not interesting, but I still watched it there for more than 2 hours;
The original plan to go out to travel, procrastinated again and again, has not been completed;
I had planned to read a book a month, but it was almost the end of the month, and it seemed that I hadn't even opened a page of the book.
Liu Cixin wrote in "The Three-Body Problem": "In fact, the end is a very beautiful time, and it can even be said to be the most beautiful time. This is the only time in history that you can abandon all worries and burdens and belong completely to yourself. It was foolish to be like him, and the most responsible way to live was to have fun in time. ”
So, if there is really no way, you may wish to treat your every day as the end of the day, think about what you want to do most, and then act immediately.
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Don't cry because it's over, smile because you once had it.
At the end of the movie "Life Never Comes Again", there is such a sentence: "Life is only once, why not use everything you have to love it." ”
In the film, Arjun is a financial agent in London, successful and busy. The girlfriend left because of his indifference. The trip that was agreed upon with the two brothers was almost canceled because of work. But thanks to the persistence of the other two brothers, the three reunited in Spain.
During the journey, Arjun ignored the beauty in front of him and immersed himself in a blind conference call, when a brother threw the phone he was talking on out of the car, he was angry and confused, and had a fight with the one who lost his phone.
When they arrived at the villa, a few people packed up and went to the beach to have fun, but only Arjun was wearing business clothes and carrying a computer, which was incompatible with the bikinis by the sea.
Later, the three of them went to learn to dive together, and the instructor was a beautiful woman named Lyra. The other two were very excited, and only Arjun was hesitant because he had always had a deep fear of water.
He was unable to overcome his mental obstacles, but under Lyra's careful guidance, Arjun gradually overcame his fears and finally tried diving for the first time. Arjun completed his challenge, looking at the vast sea, his thoughts drifted away, and even tears were shed, and he did not notice it.
Finally they took part in the Spanish Bull Run, a carnival known for its dangers.
When death is infinitely approaching, the man finally overcomes his fear of other things in life and promises his brother that if he can return alive, Arjun will follow his beloved Lyra, and he will be dismissed.
All inner loneliness will be released with time, everyone's story has a little haze, everyone's life is also sunny, do not have to fill their eyes with tears, and start a new life every moment.
Everyone will have something to fear, and once overcome, they will also gain a certain degree of relief.
Learning to forget is to let go of the burden of the spirit, light load, and at the same time bid farewell to the psychological confinement, get out of the emotional trough, and face life with a sunny mood and ease.
If it comes, it will be safe.
Whether or not you can stay together in the future, just remember how it felt when you first saw it.
Confucius said: "Life is short, and it is timely to be happy." A hundred years is too long, and we are only fighting for the day. ”
Cherishing the present and living in the present is also excellent.
Life is a passerby, why a thousand knots, the best time on the road, the most beautiful self in the distance.
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