Recently, Jin Ming's speech on a variety show has aroused heated discussion among netizens.
During the discussion, the staff of the program put forward a point of view - "Love is the most equal part of human beings." ”
But it was opposed by Jin Ming, because in her view, love has never been equal.
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Judging from the two emotional experiences that Jin Ming talked about in the show, it is not surprising that she will have such thoughts.
I have to say that Jin Ming's emotional experience is indeed a bit bumpy, and there are really many scumbags he has met.
The boyfriend that Jin Ming first introduced was a "mother treasure man", who only knew how to let others take care of him, but did not care about his girlfriend's feelings at all.
For example, this ma bao man came to Jin Ming's house and complained unceremoniously as soon as he opened his mouth: "Why don't you have my exclusive slippers and towels at home?" ”
Jin Ming also wondered, I don't know, I think my girlfriend's home is a five-star hotel, everything has to serve you well?
Jin Ming took good care of him here, while ma Baonan over there didn't know how to take care of his girlfriend's feelings.
Jin Ming once finished his work abroad and flew for fourteen hours before returning to China.
As a result, as soon as the plane landed, the mother treasure man forced her to accompany him to play billiards.
Jin Ming rejects Ma Baonan and explains to him that he is too tired and wants to go home and sleep.
As a result, this mother BaoNan actually replied with a shocked face: "The plane has flown for fourteen hours, haven't you slept enough?" I slept enough for eight hours at home. ”
To confuse rest on the plane with rest at home, I can only say that this mommy boy is probably not so simple as emotional intelligence, and may even have some problems with IQ.
And Jin Ming's final summary of this relationship is also very funny-
"It's okay for you to let me be a mother to take care of you, but they all say that the mother is kind and filial, but I am a mother, and you have no filial piety!"
If the feeling is only one party giving in one direction, and the other party will only enjoy it with peace of mind, it will not be far from fragmentation.
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The second man mentioned by Jin Ming is a drama man.
The main daily performance project of this drama elf man is to show how good he is to Jin Ming in front of others, as long as there are outsiders, he is like a changed person.
For example, when he came to the guest, he would say in particular contrivedly: "Oh, how did you come, I didn't notice, because my attention was on our family's big baby Jin Ming." ”
These exaggerations and language and actions made Jin Ming feel particularly hypocritical.
The drama man also especially enjoys the praise of others.
When someone tells him that you're so nice to your girlfriend, he always pesters others and asks them to tell them the details.
In Jin Ming's view, although this man is superficially good to her, he actually wants to kidnap her.
Because he has a strong desire for control, he does not allow Jin Ming to have any contact with other members of the opposite sex.
What's more, he once carried Jin Ming behind his back and sent her a small text message to keep him away from Jin Ming.
This also caused Jin Ming's hair to become more and more estranged from her.
It's hard to imagine that these two men are still insiders.
But fortunately, in the end, these scumbags were also simply dumped by Jin Ming.
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Jin Ming's attitude towards the scumbag is also very similar to her attitude towards her own life, which is quite rational and neat.
Now many young people may not know Jin Ming's name, but in fact, Jin Ming was also a popular child star many years ago.
It was even redder than the Yang Zi and Guan Xiaotong we know now.
Jin Ming was just 8 years old, and he became famous overnight by relying on the "Little Wanjun" in the TV series "Wanjun".
"Little Wanjun" has a round face, and her two big eyes are tearful when she cries, which can make people have to sigh that it is too cute at the same time.
After "Xiao Wanjun", Jin Ming also became the small protagonist of Qiong Yao's royal use.
In those years, she successively took over several QiongYao dramas such as "Xueke", "Wangfu Cliff", "Qingqing Riverside Grass" and "Plum Blossom Branding", which can be said to be a promising future.
Even Sabine liked the little Wanjun of that year.
He recalled on a show that when he was a child, he once told his parents that he would marry her when he grew up.
Everyone thought that after Jin Ming grew up, he would continue to walk on this road and become an excellent actor.
But Jin Ming chose another direction unexpectedly by everyone -
Instead of going to the Drama Academy, she studied hard and was admitted to the School of International Relations at Peking University.
During his college years, Jin Ming refused many film and television invitations and devoted himself to his studies.
But when she wanted to return to show business again, she found that the world had changed.
The entertainment industry is very cruel, even if Jin Ming is a child star who is well known to many people, as long as he does not appear in front of the public for a period of time, he will be forgotten, that is, what others say has been angry.
It is even more difficult for a deflated child star to become popular.
But Jin Ming was not anxious because of these things, in her opinion—
Since I said that I am a child star, before the red, now not red, the answer I gave is, spend no hundred days red, everyone is the same, why worry about this matter.
In the eyes of many people, child stars do not grow up as they imagine, it is "ruined childhood", there will always be someone to say, how are you different from when you were a child?
In this regard, Jin Ming's attitude is: "I'm sorry, I didn't grow up to be what everyone hoped, but I lived as I liked." ”
Indeed, Jin Ming can live well on his own ability even if he is not popular, and people have worked hard to study and have been admitted to Peking University, and they have acted well.
You will know by looking at her big house in Beijing.
In his career, Jin Ming everything according to his own ideas, want to go to college, want to come back to acting.
In marriage, Jin Ming is even more adhering to his own set of love concepts.
She will always be asked: Why aren't you married? You don't have a boyfriend yet? It's time for you to have a baby!
Some people will be anxious about these problems, but Jin Ming will not, in her opinion, people should not be imprisoned in "how should you be".
- Small like a conclusion
Two people walking together, not only to love each other and agree, but more importantly, the three views are consistent.
If you force yourself into a marriage for the sake of what you should do at this age, it is not too irresponsible to yourself.
What about not getting married at the age of 41, you can enjoy life alone, as long as you are comfortable.
Life is such a once, happiness is already so difficult, why should you look at the eyes of others and live?