Some people say that the difficulty of marriage is that we are in love with each other's strengths, but live with his shortcomings.
Stephen Chow's "Great Inner Secret Agent Zero Zero Hair" may be a very wonderful movie in many love movies that describes and expresses this topic.
Countless viewers will sincerely sigh: Liu Jialing's wife, which husband will not take good care of it? Chow Xingchi plays zero zero hair, which wife will not worship and admire?
Indeed, In this film, Liu Jialing and Zhou Xingchi not only resolved this fatal difficulty without a trace, but also moved the audience to tears.
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Zero zero shots from the Great Inner Secret Agent
In real society, comedy and love have one thing in common, that is, nonsense, there is no order to follow but poke people's hearts.
The small characters played by Zhou Xingchi are always inseparable from the theme of love in the world, but there is always only one type of heroine, that is, people with beautiful hearts and good temperament, just like angels in the human world.
We don't have to think about it to know that these same type of heroines are actually Zhou Xingchi's deep-seated cognition of good women and the appearance of his dream lover.
Of course, there is no need to ask why Stephen Chow's films will conquer many audiences with his unique charm, because his concept of love and marriage is an important reason.
Among the 49 films starring Stephen Chow, the transparent interpretation of love and marriage in "The Great Inner Secret Agent Zero Zero Hair" should be deservedly ranked first.
Although the Douban score is not very high, when watching this comedy movie, almost all the audience will see it in tears and marvel at the beauty of love and marriage.
Indeed, a woman's life is at best to find a man who loves and cares for herself; and a man just wants a woman who understands that you love you.
The film tells the story of a "little person", from depressed to soaring, and the opportunity to grow is in the marriage of nourishing people.
The secret agent played by Stephen Chow is not reused and is often ignored; he usually likes to make a little invention by himself, hoping to attract everyone's attention, but the manufacturing process is unexpected.
As a result, when the emperor personally evaluated the performance, he was not only useless, but also had a mess and was demoted back to become Langzhong.
At first glance, Ah Fa is a man who has no ambition and no ability, but this small person who does not look very good finally completes the task and becomes famous.
And all this thanks to Ah Fa's wife, who has created a man in the most simple and simple way of a woman.
She is not material, unpretentious, not compared, full of life; she looks silly and sweet, but she has true wisdom in her bones.
Simply admiring and adoring everything about her husband, enjoying a plain but real little life, please ask such a wife, which husband does not cherish it?
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Encourage each other and appreciate each other
Everyone has the right to pursue the good, but when two people are together, it is easy to become asking for each other, especially wanting to change each other, and they have to achieve the effect they want.
In many of the cases we have counseled, many excellent, capable, and strong wives have the hardest time winning the kind of hatred that faces the "no" husband.
These excellent wives always feel that their husbands are not good, have no mobility, no sense of responsibility, cannot earn money back, and cannot take care of their families.
They look down on their husbands' domineering looks, and we are really frightened to see them, but no matter how much persuasion they try, these excellent wives just won't.
And obviously, Ah Fa in the film is a very lucky person, because he has a real helper.
Ah Fa doesn't seem to be so good compared to others, and there is no sense of existence, but the wife played by Liu Jialing has always supported him, and there is no accusation but only comfort.
No matter what people on the outside evaluate him, no matter what setbacks he suffers outside, no matter how sarcastic he is ridiculed.
She always believed that her husband was the best, no matter how childish the other person was, it was beautiful in her eyes; no matter how unreliable the other person seemed, she chose to believe in a surprising way.
Pretending to be stupid sets off the wisdom of her husband, when her husband is frustrated, do not complain or accuse, learn to praise, and gently help her husband to be self-motivated.
Do not hesitate to praise the work of the husband, affirm that he is the best person in the world, give him confidence, give him courage, where to find such a wife?
And Ah Fa is also very caring for his wife, and he has made a lot of tools for his wife in the days of being relegated to home, which can be used to cook dishes and can also be used to do housework.
When he completed his goal, when he was flying yellow, Ah Fa also thought of his wife and gave her the night pearl.
I think that if couples all over the world are willing to follow suit, there will be more and more happy marriages and families, and the surging tide of divorce will be stopped.
Encouraging each other, appreciating each other, asking less, and being more grateful should be what all happy marriages look like.
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The wisdom of quarrelling
Where there are people, there are rivers and lakes, where there are people, there are contradictions, and where there is marriage, there will be quarrels.
It is very normal for husband and wife to quarrel, because we are all human beings, and we all have times when we are not convinced and refuse to give in; there are also times when we are arrogant and unreasonable, misunderstand and hurt each other.
Although Ah Fa, who was relegated to home, carefully developed a lot of equipment for his wife, the manhood nestled in the house was not smooth, and he would "deliberately" find stubble and quarrel.
Anger without a cause at all, an inexplicable temper, is often the most ferocious killer in marriage, and if there is no love and wisdom at this time, it will definitely hurt the feelings of two people very deeply.
The detail that makes people laugh and cry is that every time there is a quarrel, Ah Fa's wife will hide under the table, and Ah Fa will say that his wife has no novelty, how can she only hide in the same place.
And when the wife said, "I'm afraid I've changed places, and you won't find me." "The audience was almost all poked in the tears, and the tears flowed.
On the surface, Ah Fa was indeed angry with his wife, and his wife did not evade or give in, and really quarreled with him, telling the other party that this was very hurtful.
But she deeply knows that the reason for her husband's evil fire is not aimed at herself, but hates herself, and if she does not "argue" with him, the other party will be spoiled to the point of arbitrariness.
But if it is just "noisy" will not solve any problems, so she is particularly wise to prepare a step for the other party to help this balloon that puts herself in the sky.
People who know how to lower their self-esteem, resolve contradictions in time, and be as good as ever are people with real life and wisdom, but they are extremely rare.
In fact, it is easy for us to leave the worst side to the people closest to us, and the people who love you will let go of the pride in their hearts after calming down, and consider your feelings to come to you.
Bowing to a lover is not a loss of dignity, not a disgrace, but because you care about the other person. I want to repair the relationship between two people in this way.
Obviously, this requires not only wisdom but also courage, but also complete trust and acceptance of the other party.
If there is no sacrifice and self-denial, but living in the darkness of self-centeredness, the trivialities and misunderstandings in the marriage are enough to make the marriage collapse in an instant.
I really don't know how many marriages, in the construction of all kinds of selfishness and self-denial, hurt each other, and hurt themselves, becoming a resentful man and a resentful woman.
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Defend marriage
Perhaps the biggest challenge in marriage is not whether the other person is mature and responsible, but the ubiquitous temptation and weakness.
The appearance of Liu Jialing's wife is not only refreshing, but also unforgettable, that is, the doctor goblin who seduces her husband.
Seeing that someone seduced her husband, she did not sprinkle bitterness, but hurt people invisibly with seemingly novelty and innocence and seemingly irrelevant.
She said to her husband: "The doctor's parents are heartbroken, people are coming from afar, if you can help, help!" ”
He said to the fox spirit, "Girl, I suggest you buy a solo life, live alone, don't do so much."
Reasonable but not overbearing, evidenced and not arbitrary, disciplined without retreating, angry without being cunning, everything is dissolved at the snap of a finger.
The foxes of the general wild road are easy to deal with, but the traps they have deliberately planned are difficult to prevent, and Ah Fa is moved in a moment when facing the cold and moving piano exercises.
Although it was a play-within-a-play, although she fully understood and trusted her husband, she still understood that her husband had a crooked mind.
But what is particularly precious is that she still chooses to pretend not to know, and even when the other party humiliates herself in front of her, she is still willing to use the most humble way to resolve.
When Ah Fa heard his wife say: "Are you hungry, I will give you a bowl of noodles to eat", the circles of his eyes were red, and the audience had already cried.
Love is secular, but it is also more sacred, exclusive, cannot be shared, and those who truly love each other will inevitably have life to protect.
She looked so stupid that people wanted to love and protect, but she wanted her husband to know that she was the one who loved him the most.
Actually, she really wasn't stupid at all! It's all out of kindness, out of deep love for your husband.
This is a life of great wisdom and foolishness, a transparency of clear laws, and it is also a way for all couples to learn to get along.
Is there a better wife than the wife played by Liu Jialing?
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The mystery of life
You are depressed, she suffers with you; you lose confidence, she comforts you and encourages you; you use her as a pump, scolding her to drive her away, and she just says, "Are you hungry, I cook bowls of noodles for you to eat?"
You suffer, he hurts for you; you pay the price, he thanks you for caring for you; you also have a small nature, you will get angry and run away, he is still obsessed with loving you for a lifetime.
Although this is only a movie, it reveals the secrets of love and marriage transparently, making people sigh and envy and look forward to it.
The real reason is that the director found the law of love and marriage, and Zhou Xingchi and Liu Jialing interpreted it with their lives.
But the sad reality is that many people understand the truth, but these truths are difficult to really live out in daily life, which is why we need to watch movies.
What we need is not truth, but truth; for truth is theory, but truth is life.
Men really confirm their responsibilities in life, are willing to use their lives to complete this entrustment, and will naturally care for and comfort their wives.
Women are clear about their mission in the destiny, willing to use their lives to obey this destiny, and naturally respect and understand their husbands.
Isn't that the best thing in the world?
The good news is that this truth has been fulfilled in God's redemption! As long as we truly believe, these truths will become our lives.
When you see this, if you are a little touched, if you have the urge to think about it, that can contact us, maybe this is an opportunity.
The grace of the God who loves you beckons to you not far away!