When it comes to Liang Qichao, we all know that he is a famous politician, thinker, and writer, and in fact, he is still a very remarkable father after fading these auras.
Liang Qichao has 9 children, each outstanding, is a national pillar, so he is called "one door, three academicians, nine sons are talented", which can be described as a miracle of family education.
Liang Qichao personally did his own work in teaching his children and paid a lot of effort. From his parenting style, we also found four parenting directions worth learning!
<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" >, interesting parents, is a blessing for children</h1>
Liang Qichao once proudly said: Having a father like me is also a rare happiness in life.
At that time, the father was the absolute authority in the family, they did not smile, they were very strict with the children, many children and the father maintained a certain distance, but Liang Qichao was a different father.
Liang Qichao advocates fun life, he gives three children nicknames, plays cards with children, organizes children to fish together, even if the children fail the exam, he will not be angry, but ridicule "Zhuang Zhuang this year's exam, even if it fails, it doesn't matter, don't worry, because he barely entered the university." ”
Liang Sizhong wrote to his father and told him to pay attention to his body. Liang Qichao wrote back: "A good and long-winded child, who manages the grandfather and the mother, is stricter than the husband who manages the students, and hates it." But I have received his filial piety, and I have practiced it seven or eight times in a week. ”
Liang Qichao once said: If someone asks me, "What doctrine do you believe in?" I replied, "I believe in fun." For example, someone asked me, "What is the root of your outlook on life?" I replied, "Take the fun as the root." ”
The more interesting the parents, the happier the children!
Teacher Luo Ling, an expert in child education, said that an interesting parent is an excellent and efficient parent.
Interesting parents are the best playmates in children's early childhood, he will bring children a happy and pleasant life experience, and children's sense of happiness is very strong.
Interesting parents are willing to accompany their children to grow, more tolerant, more aware of the advantages of others, their sense of family responsibility is stronger, the family atmosphere is warmer and more harmonious, children in such an environment, the heart is always full of happiness and open-mindedness, with a full sense of security.
Funny parents are humorous and optimistic, full of positive energy, and these subtly become part of the child's personality.
<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" > second, one of the most important things in homeschooling is influence</h1>
Liang Qichao once wrote in his family letter: "At least I must be worthy of being a model for your sisters and brothers." ”
Liang Qichao is well aware of the principle of teaching by example, so he will live as a role model for his children, and also educate his eldest daughter Sishun into an example, influencing younger brothers and sisters and forming a good family style.
Liu Xuan, the son of the famous writer Liu Yong, was asked in an interview, "What influence did your father have on you?" ”
Liu Xuan replied: "He has greatly influenced my life and shaped my spiritual world. I was used to my father's sense of security at home, and I learned from him that a person can do different careers in different environments. ”
The writer Baldwin said: "Children will never obediently listen to adults, but they will imitate adults." ”
When complaining that children are obsessed with mobile phones, first see if they hold their mobile phones every day and do not let go;
When complaining that children do not like to learn to read, first see if they are a person who likes to read;
When complaining that the child is lazy and unmotivated, first see if you are an effort-oriented person...
Excellent parents understand the principle of "parenting first to raise themselves", parents' words and deeds are the benchmark for children's growth, parents set a good example, will let children continue to approach their parents, which is a kind of internal force drive, more effective than reasoning, always supervising
<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" > third, face learning correctly, do not stick to grades</h1>
Liang Qichao said to his daughter Liang Sishun, "Zhuang Zhuang failed the exam this year, it doesn't matter, don't worry, because he was barely able to enter the university." You brothers and sisters can all study diligently, and I will never blame you for your homework, but it is because you are too busy with the class and get sick, which makes me uneasy. ”
He believes: "As for not being able to enter the university, what is the point of this, seeking learning is not seeking a diploma, always building a thicker foundation, the better." ”
His son Liang Sicheng was not in good health since childhood, and liang Qichao often wrote to advise him to take good care of his body and not to overwork. They also often admonish their children to "stay up late less and work less, play more games and exercise more."
Liang Qichao opposes cramming education, and he rarely proposes specific learning goals for children. He pays attention to learning, really uses knowledge for me, and he hopes that children will not neglect their physical health because of learning, and do not put the cart before the horse!
In the modern family, "achievements are greater than everything" is the principle that parents adhere to.
We see sick children crying and begging their mothers to give themselves a break;
We see countless children who can only eat a cold meal in the car in order to catch up with extracurricular classes;
We see children wearing small glasses and having no power to tie their hands...
Grades are greater than everything else, everything else is not important, such an education is deformed!
Without health, everything is in vain, only for the purpose of learning for the purpose of achievement, the child will only become a wooden person without thought.
When we are cultivating, we should pay more attention to the cultivation of ability, the health of the child's body, the health of the mind, and the peace of mind!
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Liang Qichao has always emphasized that "first learn to be a person, and then learn to do things".
He warned his children many times in his family letter: "If you become a person, the more intellect you naturally have, the better; if you can't be a person, the more your intellect is, the worse your intellect is." ”
Mr. Nan Huaijin also said: "Don't think that taking a university diploma and having a doctorate is great." You know, the purpose of education is to be a successful person. ”
A few days ago, Zheng Shuang's big melon made people really realize what is called "parents who collapse in three views can't raise normal children"! Two living lives are more important than money, the daughter's mental health is more important than fame and fortune, and finally the distorted family education has been reversed!
"Don't be afraid of wisdom, lest you not cultivate morality"!
A person's academic performance can determine how high you stand, and a person's personality morality can determine how far you can go in the future.
The French philosopher Rousseau said that the perception that a person receives in a period of innocence and purity will have an indelible impact on his life.
Why there are more and more extreme cases of middle school students now, killing their mothers, committing suicide, and running away from home, the most fundamental reason is that there is a problem in the direction of education.
Too much attention to achievements, so that children's personality growth, mental health are ignored, children's three views are broken, people are rotten!
Do not blindly pursue achievements and ignore the cultivation of moral conduct and personality. Children's grades are important, but people are social animals after all, dead reading, and ignoring the cultivation of personality and social cultivation, children ultimately achieve nothing.
Family education is the first place in education, and the growth of children is the hope of a family. And what kind of education parents pay, what kind of child will be harvested!
Li Ka-shing once said that the success of any career cannot make up for the failure of children's education!
Liang Qichao is busy, he has not given up the education of 9 children, as one child, two children's parents, what excuse do we have to escape education?
Education is actually not difficult, the difficulty is that as a parent, whether you are willing to see the child's heart, care about the child's feelings, and whether you are willing to accompany him to grow up!