"Lang Xianping on Love" - Lang Xianping

It's popular to talk about love economics, such as analyzing feelings from stocks, but as an economist, I don't think so. What is love? Love itself is a feeling, and in the end you will find that you love a man for no reason. Men are rational, women are emotional, this is a contradiction that is never reconciled. That's why marrying anyone has a problem – that is, you're risky looking for junk stocks, potential stocks, and high-performing men. There are too few chances of junk stocks succeeding. There are too many people competing for high-performing stocks. Most of the potential stocks are unsuccessful, only 5%-10% can become excellent stocks, and 90% will still become junk stocks. Therefore, if you look at it from the perspective of economics, it is very difficult to choose no matter how you choose.

You develop a good product today, and when you start making money, you inevitably face competition. If you find a good man today, it's the same as you developing a good product, you may make a lot of money, but you are more likely to attract more competitors, the same reason. So you must not think that finding a long-term meal ticket can be kept for a long time, it is very difficult. Find a good man, this lifetime of competition is unimaginable, and you may not be able to touch it. Women nowadays are usually smarter, but very few have wisdom. When you encounter an opportunity, you can only grasp it with a high degree of wisdom. Because you have to know that your youth and beauty are constantly depreciating, and the wealth and status of the other party are constantly appreciating.

We play Rubik's Cube, and if you put it together in ten minutes, it's smarter, five minutes is smarter, and ten seconds to get it done is the smartest. You can judge a person's IQ quantitatively in this way, but the really intelligent person does not play this thing, because it has rules to follow, it follows a certain logic. The same goes for love. We can use economics to make many classifications, but the highest state of love is love itself, which is a feeling. A thorough understanding of economics will reveal that our society often wants to quantify emotional things because we have not studied economics in place. Once you've learned it, you'll find that economics simply can't help you judge or get love or marriage, because it's not right.

Some people think that the cost of sunking in love with someone who doesn't give promises is too high, and I think you still rely on feelings. If you really love him, it doesn't matter, don't count too carefully. You have experienced a vigorous love with him, your heart is still in him, he does not want to get married, will it be better for you to cut off the result? Will you be happier? Not necessarily.

There are many people who think that it is more cost-effective to spend money, in fact, the person who spends heart will not be happy because he himself has not really encountered love. You know how many people love drives crazy about it, even at war for love. The essence of love is that feeling, the feeling of the moment you touch him. If you think it through, you will find that those who spend their hearts are not worthy of envy. People in temperament are slowly cultivated after reaching a realm.

When I was younger, if I wanted to be with a woman, I might first consider her family background and education, but now when I look at a woman, it is completely based on feelings, because I don't need her money or her family background, I don't need anything. So the only thing I care about now is whether I want to be with her from the bottom of my heart. When I got rid of all the shackles of the world, and judged to associate with a woman by my own intuition and feelings, I really found myself. This is the essence of love.

I myself am not a successful person in marriage, but as a person who came over, I once said to my eldest son: I hope you love your wife for the rest of your life. I also said to my daughter-in-law: If you still keep this marriage, you must give him a moderate amount of freedom. I think that's the essence of marriage. If I could do it again in my life, I would like to be like them.

Fight together for each other, for the sake of the children – this is husband and wife, this is marriage. I had thought about it as a teenager, and I had been overthrown many times by myself, but when I was in my fifties, I realized that it should be like this. The history of each person cannot be repeated. I have never regretted my past marriage, every relationship, good or bad, is an accumulation, the more accumulation, you will slowly touch the essence, is a kind of awakening, but also a kind of return.