What is anxiety, anxiety is when you rest, thinking about how to improve your ability to work, and when you are working, you are thinking about how to relax well.
Anxiety is a "sense of anxiety" that is full of fear, anxious but has nowhere to focus, and it is like a shadow and is endless. This "sense of worry" stems from our inner unsettled, uncertain future.
It can be said that in the process of writing this book, the whole thing is anxious, from receiving the book, to the deadline, every day is anxious, when to finish, will not write badly.
In the process of reading, I was still wondering whether such a framework did not conform to the author's intentions, and whether such a theme violated the author's original intention.
The book "Anxiety is an Elephant, How to Eat It In One Bite" gives us an analysis of the various mentalities and actions of anxiety in today's Internet age, guiding readers to accept anxiety little by little, healing the mind, and helping us overcome anxiety and gain independent personality and belief.
The author, Zhang Xinyue, is a graduate student of educational psychology at Beijing Normal University, she is committed to the practical research of alleviating anxiety and promoting the development of mental intelligence, through this book, she teaches us how to use writing to slowly drive anxiety out.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="7" > whether the so-called lifelong growth can eliminate anxiety</h1>
There is a sentence in "The Siege":
The people who are surrounded by the city want to escape, the people outside the city want to rush in, whether it is marriage, career, or the desire of life.
Many people feel anxious because they are not good enough, do not understand enough, need a lot of learning and growth, the previous self missed the university, missed the school, then now must not miss the complex various study classes.
There was a time when I was addicted to all kinds of punch cards, signed up for three courses a month, needed to study, digested after learning, digested and went to the designated place to "punch in".
Punching card has become the main theme of this year's various training camps, there is a training camp, in order to get a 30-day U-card, I convert the course content into a verbatim draft every day, and then add my own feelings and thoughts, every day until after twelve o'clock in the evening.
The kung fu paid off, and I finally got all the Yoka for the whole course, and I was also rated as "Excellent Student" and "Excellent Class Committee".
After a busy and fulfilling month, I suddenly found that the original passion was slowly fading, and I got the so-called Yoka, but I did not get the comfort of the soul, but I had to start a new round of punching.
Growing up, in the final analysis, is to obtain such an inner state that constantly makes you feel "full", feel "worthy", and feel "meaningful".
If you just take the punch card as a form and do not really integrate into your own life, then the so-called learning, the so-called growth, is just touching yourself in a hypocritical way.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="17" > eliminate anxiety, just settle the mind</h1>
In order to complete the work, in addition to the daily early rise alarm clock, some people deliberately set a work alarm clock, and some people make a list of things that need to be done in order to complete the task, and repeat the to-do items that can never be completed every day.
We always think, when I finish these things, I can relax, I will no longer be anxious, I can spend time with my family, is this the case?
We found that the contents of the list can not be completed, the alarm clock still has to sound every day, and the favorite coffee is no longer joy, but a must-do in the gap between the lists.
It is precisely because our hearts are always elsewhere that we almost never live where we really are, paying little attention to everything that is unfolding in the moment. We are in a hurry to get rid of this "task" instead of opening our arms to the "now" and fully engaged.
How to live in the present, when eating, no longer look at the mobile phone, see the child wolfing down, after eating, do not rush into the study, play games with the child, tutor the child to write homework, no longer complain, how such a simple problem will not, ask the child whether he has encountered any difficulties.
Slow down, sink your heart, focus your attention on the present, where your time is spent, where the sense of value is, where the sense of achievement is.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="24" > find your true self and realize your true ideals</h1>
"What is your dream?"
"I want to be a normal person."
In this era of various ideals flying in the sky, the answer of this ordinary person once caused an uproar, people can not imagine, to be an ordinary person, still need to pursue?
Some people once complained that the end of my life is only the starting point of people's birth, some people are born to stand on the ceiling, and some people have been struggling and suffering all their lives.
A person's true ideals do not need to be maintained by the eyes of others, nor do they need to be "certified" by others.
Compared with luxury goods, the lack of ideals of stars, the real ideal, must be a delicate goal, the end of the ticket is not ideal, the mood during the journey, the change of emotion, the impact of the environment on us, the real feeling is what we need to slowly experience in the flow of time.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="31" > the growth of the mind is not a shortcut, it is precisely the most difficult road</h1>
What does a happy person look like?
They have an inner sense of security and are easy to find their spiritual home;
They believe in their own worth and are confident in life;
They are positive and optimistic and trust others;
They know better how to regulate their emotions;
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We will envy such people, they are a hundred times more energetic at all times, encounter any problems, do not panic, methodical arrangement, in our hearts, they are powerful people, able to face any ups and downs, see him feel at ease.
Such a person is a person with a full heart, a person with a calm heart, and also a person who is anxious about life, the peace of mind we want to pursue, and the growth of the soul.
The richness of the inner world is the real wealth, give up the expectation of love, start inward, learn to love yourself, give yourself enough patience, accept your imperfections, take care of yourself, and slowly become stronger, that is, the process of our growth.
I have to say that this book has a significant difference from other books, the empty lines between each paragraph, the color change of the subtitle, and the color coverage of the key sentences all make it more convenient for us to read this book.
The author is to change anxiety through writing, but also at the end of each chapter, there is a meaning of writing, the process of writing, if you also want to change yourself through writing, you can start writing little by little according to the guidance of Teacher Zhang Xinyue, after reading this book, I believe you can also comb through simple words to sort out your life.
No anxiety is not life, we are not giving up anxiety, but using anxiety, just like all setbacks, anxiety will eventually become your stepping stone to a better life.