"The mouth is the root of trouble", there is no harm in controlling the mouth, and the "Disciple Rules" say "treacherous words, obscene words, city spirits, and cutting precepts". But now many people regard the love of talking as an advantage, thinking that such a person has high emotional intelligence and is easy to get along with, and the result is that they only see the sweetness on the knife head, but they do not see the risk of cutting their tongues. Often, when people are right and wrong, they feel very happy, noticeable, and praised, but his fatal point is that the evil will slowly ferment with the passage of time, and when the outbreak occurs, everything is irretrievable.
Ma Yuan, the "General of Fubo" of the Eastern Han Dynasty, attached great importance to virtue, and during his filial piety for his brother Ma Quan, every time he met his sister-in-law, he had to be neatly restrained and upright, and he was praised by the world.
At this time, people with hearts will have such a question, among all the virtues, which one does Ma Yuan pay the most attention to? This can be seen in a family letter written by Ma Yuan.
Red face is not a curse, can't control the mouth is
Ma Yuan wrote a family letter to his nephews Ma Yan and Ma Dun during his expedition to Jiao (present-day Hanoi, Vietnam), and as for the reason for the letter, he found that his two nephews were still angry and praised and degraded, which was enough to arouse Ma Yuan's high vigilance. Ma Yuan's position is highly powerful, and every word and deed is highly concerned by people, coupled with the fact that political enemies are surrounded by secret services, if they are not careful, they are easy to be taken advantage of by people with hearts, resulting in the defeat of the family and the death of people.
What else do you want me to say?
Yang Yun was the grandson of Sima Qian of Taishi Ling, and because he liked to expose people's privacy, he had a lot of grievances, and finally Emperor Xuan of Han beheaded him for his rebellious speech. Fang Xiaoru of the Ming Dynasty, because of his harsh speech, accused him of being sharp, and Ming Chengzu beheaded him and then cursed him of ten tribes.
No matter what era, careful speech is the most important virtue of self-cultivation, so Ma Yuan, in his letter, very severely criticized and admonished his nephews. This family letter was later returned to Liu Xiu's hands, and was highly affirmed by Liu Xiu, who said in the letter, "Good discussion on the length of people, this is the great evil of my own, I would rather die than hear that my descendants have this trip." ”
It is rare for Ma Yuan to teach his nephew to speak so harshly. But it is precisely because it is a family letter, not for the world to see, so he dares to be so bold, truthful, and gives the example of Du Jiliang, who is not virtuous, in the letter.
What Ma Yuan did not expect was that this family letter, which was originally a private word, was finally taken to show off by two unformed nephews and used by others, which also laid the root for future disasters.
Don't let you talk nonsense, you have to say, now stupid, right?
Liu Xiu relied heavily on Ma Yuan, and after seeing Ma Yuan's family letter, he immediately deposed Du Jiliang, who was then the Sima of Yue, and many people were implicated and resented. Ma Yuan's Erping Lingnan died of illness, and When Hao Hao waited for Geng Yi and others to take advantage of the trap of the institution, Liu Xiu took back Ma Yuan's new breath in anger, and Ma Yuan's body did not dare to bury the ancestral grave after being transported back, and relatives and friends did not dare to come to mourn.
Originally, he was admonishing others not to fly short and long, but he criticized the private virtues of others in his letters, which is really absurd!
Conclusion: If you are close to yourself, important words must not be said in public, let alone formed into words, and you cannot wait until the lesson of eating blood to think more, because by then, all the consequences will be irreparable.
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