01 Preface
In a marriage, if two people are right, then they are often able to go longer and the relationship will be more stable.
It is said that the most important thing in marriage is love, and when you choose to enter marriage with this person, you must have enough love to support the ups and downs in the future.
But when you actually step into marriage and form a family, you will find that two people are very important to each other.
Not only are the family conditions on the same level, but they must also have the same three views and similar interests and hobbies, so that you will have common topics and can talk together more.
Life is not so vigorous in the end, more than just trivial. If two people can't talk together in their daily lives, how do they look at each other and how unpleasant is it, how can this marriage be happy? Even if there is love as a support, there will be a day when feelings will gradually wither.
The door is right, not only the embodiment of material, but also requires two people from the inside to the outside, from the body to the soul, must be highly compatible, is the best partner.
At the same time, economic ability can always reflect a person's social level. Like people with an annual salary of one million and an annual salary of one hundred thousand, their circles are basically without any intersection. Hard to pull these two kinds of people together, their lifestyles are also very different, how can a twisted melon be sweet?
02 "My son is a college student, do you deserve him?"
Once a female reader Sweetie told me her story. Sweetie is a very strong and independent girl, although she is not yet 30 years old, she has achieved management in the company where she works.
She also put in a lot of time and energy to this, once did not have a day off for two consecutive months, and overtime until late at night is also commonplace. Although the pressure is very high, But Sweet also enjoys it, she likes to play her talents in the workplace, thinking that this will be able to find her own value.
Later, a new employee came to Tiantian's department, named Zhang Lu. Zhang Lu was two years younger than Tiantian, not very tall, and his appearance was ordinary, but his mouth was very able to speak.
At first, Tiantian did not put Zhang Lu in his heart, because his work ability was really average, and there was nothing outstanding. But with the several gatherings organized by the department, everyone became familiar with each other, and he began to offer his courtesy to Sweetie.
Zhang Lu said to Tiantian: Although you are a little older than me and your position is higher than mine, I am still sincere to you, and I will not let this feeling affect our work with each other.
Although Tiantian is a strong woman who says one thing and one thing in the workplace, her feelings are like a blank piece of paper, because she is very busy at work, she has not been in love for many years, and in the face of Zhang Lu's repeated overtures, Tiantian still slowly moved her heart to him.
There was a small episode in the middle, just before the two people had officially established a relationship, one day Zhang Lu suddenly found Tiantian with embarrassment and wanted to borrow some money from her.
Zhang Lu said that he had a crush on an Audi car. However, the deposit on hand is still a little worse, and I want to borrow 100,000 yuan from Tiantian.
Sweet didn't ask much, and lent him without saying a word. Since then, Zhang Lu has been better for Tiantian, and it didn't take long for the two people to officially come together.
During the Mid-Autumn Festival, Tiantian and Zhang Lu returned to his hometown and met Zhang Lu's parents. Zhang Lu's father is an honest middle-aged man, who seems to be very satisfied with Sweet, but Zhang Lu's mother seems to be a little unhappy.
At first, Sweetie didn't pay attention to it, because the two people had just established a relationship not long ago, and there was still a distance to get married. Only after the meal, Zhang Lu's mother suddenly called Tiantian aside and said something to her with a serious look.
She said: I heard Zhang Lu talk about you, you are two years older than him, right? A little girl like you who is not yet married at your age is not very good at first glance.
His mother also said that my family Zhang Luke is a college student, graduated from a famous school, and now can earn more than 5,000 a month. You still weigh it yourself, can you be worthy of my family Zhang Lu.
Tiantian listened to her talk was not quite right, and after asking Zhang Lu afterwards, he learned that he did not tell his parents the real situation at all, and they did not know that they were Zhang Lu's boss at all.
And as soon as he returned to his hometown, Zhang Lu was busy shouting at various friends and driving a new Audi car out for a ride. Tiantian looked in his eyes and did not say anything, but on the last day of leaving his home, he directly pointed out to Zhang Lu's parents that Zhang Lu's car purchase funds had 100,000 yuan borrowed from himself, and you told him to tell him to let him return it to me as soon as possible.
Tiantian really paid her heart to this relationship from the beginning, but as time progressed, she found that Zhang Lu was not as good as she initially seemed.
He has some admiration for vanity and some good looks, which can be seen from the fact that he still insists on borrowing money from Tiantian to buy a car because he can't afford it, and when he comes home, he shows off everywhere.
To his parents, about his girlfriend, Zhang Lu did not tell the truth, but also to satisfy his vanity.
After Tiantian saw Zhang Lu's personality, she was also completely chilled and planned to let go of this relationship.
Zhang Lu's mother originally thought that Tiantian was not worthy of her son, but what she did not expect was that the conditions of the two people were indeed very different, but Zhang Lu was not worthy of Tiantian.
03 Qiongdi said
The feelings of the door to the door can often go out of the distance, the family conditions of two people, personal ability, and three views of personality, there must be a little reciprocity, otherwise they cannot really understand each other even if they are together.
Just like Tiantian and Zhang Lu, Zhang Lu is actually a man who loves vanity, and he is not able to give Tiantian the life he wants. In terms of work ability, it is far less sweet.
If we are with a partner who is not as good as ourselves, or who is much better than ourselves, it is difficult to understand his ideas and his life, and no matter how much sincerity we pay, it is difficult to get good results.
Therefore, whether it is in marriage or in the relationship, two people must be at least suitable, and this relationship will be truly happy. Because of a momentary heartbeat, or just because he is good to you, he will give away his true heart and foolishness, and in the end, it is still us who suffer and are injured.