What does a restless woman look like?
First, let's take a look at what a peaceful woman looks like.
There used to be a colleague in the company, and we had a good relationship and would often chat together. She lived with her cousin, who was such a peaceful person.
How safe is she? It can be said that whether it is her life or her love, she will completely obey her parents' arrangements, even if she has her own ideas, in the end, she still dares not go against her parents' opinions.
Originally, she had a boyfriend who had talked for more than two years, and then when she wanted to get married, her parents directly said that they did not agree, on the grounds that the man could not afford to buy a house, or a person from another province. Her parents told her to break up and return to the province, and also introduced her to a local object.
Although she was a little reluctant in her heart, she finally listened to her parents and soon returned to the province. Both parents agreed to their affairs and agreed to marry at the end of the year, which is equivalent to the fact that she has not yet met the object, the parents have arranged the marriage, and she has acquiesced to this matter.
Before the two were married, she lived in the man's house and lived with her in-laws. After getting married, life was not as comfortable as she thought, but she was picky by her mother-in-law everywhere, and often disliked her as a rural person. Her husband did not love her so much, but only to meet her parents' wishes to get married and have children as soon as possible.
Such a married life, you can imagine how wronged she is, but no matter how wronged she is, she still has to listen to her parents and live a good life.
Seeing such a marriage, people can't help but sigh: "Women, don't be too peaceful, at least you have to make decisions for your own life." ”
Otherwise, you have to accept a life arranged by others, a life that is not happy.
As Albert Einstein said, "Weakness in attitude becomes weakness in character." The so-called people with certain insight or cultivation are usually people who can pay attention to or master their own attitudes. ”
I hope that all women can become the latter, everything has their own attitude, have their own choices, such a life, is yours.
A restless woman usually likes to do these three things.
About love: have your own ideas and can make decisions for your own love.
Tagore said: "The great changes in women's temperament are often caused by love, while the great changes in men's temperament are often caused by professionalism." ”
Love can change a woman's temperament. Can make introverted women become enthusiastic, but also can make enthusiastic women become introverted; can make delicate women become independent, but also can make independent women become delicate; can make rational women humble, but also can make people lost in love find themselves.
Falling in love with someone, some women can become more excellent and more worthy of a man to love her. And some women, originally a very good woman, but because a man let them lose themselves, have no own thoughts, and become a woman who lives by clinging to men's joys and sorrows.
What kind of woman do you want to be? I guess every woman's answer is a good, worthy woman. It's just a pity that it's easy to understand a truth, but it's a very difficult thing to really do.
A restless woman knows how to be herself in love, has her own ideas, and makes decisions for her love.
About family affection: Filial piety to parents, but will not blindly obey the parents' arrangements.
Maforus once said: "The reason for a person's failure lies in the shortcomings of his own character, which has nothing to do with the environment." ”
Like my cousin, a colleague, can she blame her parents when she's unhappy? Sure, but it was just shirking her responsibility, and the real problem was herself.
Her misfortune was entirely due to her blind obedience to her parents' arrangements, and it was precisely because of this laziness in her thinking that she finally created her misfortune.
I think as her parents, I don't want to harm her, but to look at the problem from my own point of view, to find a straight path to happiness for her, but my parents have been ignoring her feelings.
If she could think of this and understand what she really wanted, I think as her parents would understand. But she chose silence, chose to compromise, chose to leave her life to her parents, which is the reason for the real misfortune.
Parents can refer to the choice of who to marry, but the final decision is in the hands of the woman.
A restless woman will not let her parents arrange her life, and she will not listen to her parents' arrangements to choose a marriage without feelings. They are filial to their parents, but they understand better that filial piety is not blindly following all the arrangements of their parents.
About career: being able to persevere, be confident and work hard.
In the eyes of many people, they will feel that a woman is going to get married and have children sooner or later, why should she be so desperate?
So some women will often care about the eyes of others, when their age reaches a certain stage, listen to others say that it is time to get married, they will find someone to marry; listen to others say that they want to have children early, they will give up their careers to have children and take care of the family.
But finally? Such a woman will slowly lose its value in the eyes of men, men can't see women's efforts, can't see women's hard work, and only see women are old, bloated, and have no income.
Women listen to the opinions of others and become at ease, but at the same time become the worthless woman in the eyes of others.
A restless woman, no matter when it comes, will not give up what she loves, will not give up her job. Even if the process is very bitter and tired, women will persevere and realize their own value.
It seems to me that a restless woman can be described by a phrase that Thackeray said: "Women not only like to conquer people, but also like to be conquered." ”
Only a woman who constantly conquers others will constantly change herself and change her life status.
A woman with a mind, an attitude, and an opinion will definitely live a prettier life than others.