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When anxiety strikes, it is like an elephant in front of us, so that we can only see this anxious giant elephant and not see anywhere else. Because the "line of sight" is blocked, fear and worry follow, allowing us to rehearse the "terrible future" in our minds over and over again.
To break the "terrible imagination" of the future, we need to give ourselves the ability to press the "pause button". When the timing is appropriate, we pause, and when the stimulus of the outside world arrives, we set a pause between generating imagination and putting it into action to make room for ourselves.
The "Consumption Festival" is coming soon, and the discount signs in the streets and alleys, and the dazzling promotional activities on the major apps always make us think that if we don't empty the shopping cart at this time, we will lose a lot. So we even have to buy it even if we "consume ahead".
This is where the merchant catches our anxiety point, the more anxious we are, the more we will spend money, at this time we have to press the "pause button". Eat this anxious elephant slowly! So how do you eat it in one bite? Teacher Zhang Xinyue's new book "Anxiety is an elephant, how to eat it in one bite" gives us the answer.
Writing can help us solve problems of anxiety.
When you are anxious inside, don't make decisions and don't spend money! Appeal to the tip of your pen and present it on paper. Writing in the least costly and convenient way allows us to start conversations with ourselves anytime, anywhere.
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After I gave birth to my second child, there was a time when I was deeply anxious and depressed.
At that time, the term "lifelong growth" was particularly popular, and I was in a "period of growth stagnation", so anxiety hovered in my heart and mind like a behemoth.
I began to seek "self-growth", the more anxious people are at a loss, the louder the voice of wanting to be themselves, so I bought a lot of knowledge paid courses, as long as I see the cursive writing is good, straight to my heart, I will place an order to buy the class.
For example, seeing the grass article "Women can't even control their own weight, how to control their own lives", I directly pulled to the end of the article to buy weight loss courses.
For example, when I saw the grass text of "Must See Course for Second-Born Mothers", I immediately placed an order to buy a lesson.
Paid courses for knowledge bought quite a bit, but did not learn !!!
I always feel that I paid for this course, and then I "lost weight successfully" and "both brothers can be well raised", just like the knowledge of payment ran into my head in an instant.
This form of growth, self-motivated "effort", did not bring any positive changes to my life, but only increased anxiety and increased the financial burden.
Later I realized that I could not go on like this, the bookworm medicine. I began to read and write notes, and slowly came out of my state of anxiety.
In the book "Anxiety is an elephant, how to eat it in one bite", the author Zhang Xinyue teacher showed us a detailed way of writing, we can not only resolve anxiety through writing, but also embark on the road of self-development.
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No anxiety, no life. Almost everyone's life is anxious and growing at the same time.
Anxiety is an unpleasant and complex emotional state of tension, uneasiness, anxiety, and annoyance that arises from imminent dangers or threats. The objective purpose of anxiety is to guide people to take rapid measures and mobilize resources to effectively prevent the emergence of worsening trends and make things develop in a positive direction.
So anxiety has a positive meaning. In the face of anxiety, we must first stabilize our hearts, press the pause button on the unreasonable and dangerous expectations of the future, use the way of writing to alleviate, to talk to our hearts, to see the complete self.
In the book "Anxiety is an elephant, how to eat it in one bite", Teacher Zhang Xinyue made a detailed description and classification of the performance and source of anxiety, and each sentence hit my heart directly, just like sitting opposite me and talking to me, it turned out that there was a person in the world who knew my heart so well.
Keep a paper distance from life, use the way of writing to appeal to the tip of the pen, jump on the paper, talk to yourself, find the real needs of the heart, and find the direction of life.