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There is a topic on Douban that is very interesting to discuss: seeing the end, who do you most want to choose from the three men?
As I thought, whether it was "being a husband" or "being a boyfriend", Zhang He was the one with the lowest approval rating.
What's going on, wasn't Zhang He the most pleasing of the three male guests at the beginning? How instead, after the end of "Fanwai", KK and Wang Qiuyu were scolded, and Zhang He was the one who was the most scolded. You may say that there are too few such books, only more than two hundred people running, which does not explain any problems, but I dare to say that even if there are more samples, Zhang He is still the one with the lowest approval rate.
After you finish watching the "Goodbye Lover", you will have no doubts, and you will be very "down" to Zhang He.
Of course, I write an article or to be objective, Zhang He people set collapse is not only because he did not compound with Guo Keyu, I said before, compound is not important, mainly from the overall point of view, you carefully analyze, you will find that Zhang He is really quite hypocritical. Whether in love or marriage, I hope you can stay away from a man like Zhang He, who is not a treasure man.
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Why are even KK and Wang Qiuyu better than Zhang He?
Let's talk about KK first, in fact, his biggest problem is nothing more than drinking, easy to be emotional, lazy, a little childish. But in addition to the two aspects of drinking and emotionalization, KK is still quite good, as a friend, KK is a good choice; as a partner, KK is the one who understands romance and understands the mood between the sexes.
I said before that I don't understand why Tong Chenjie is so sober in the world, how can I be confused and can't do without the giant baby KK. Now I understand, because KK can give Tong Chenjie a lot of warm positive energy in life, KK is a very warm person, just like a "small stove". Tong Chenjie's marriage with Xie Hui did not have any temperature, so after meeting KK, she felt the warmth of what love was.
Tong Chenjie's original family is loveless, and to some extent, KK healed Tong Chenjie.
So in the show, KK became very emotional because of drinking, but Tong Chenjie was more determined not to divorce, because this trip made Tong Chenjie feel how much she loved KK, and how much she needed a positive energy like KK. Fortunately, after this trip, KK realized his shortcomings, he began to quit drinking, and he worked out. I dare say that if he continues to change like this, Tong Chenjie may soon have a child.
After watching the "Goodbye Lover" outside, we will find that KK is still quite handsome, he now drinks less frequently, he can also listen to Tong Chenjie's voice, and start cooking, he is really determined to change himself, it is still very exciting. In addition, KK's hosting skills are also quite strong, he is a very optimistic person who will warm people. Now KK is perfect, and I hope he can make himself better.
After 18 days of travel, the KK has really changed the most.
Let's talk about Wang Qiuyu.
Wang Qiuyu obviously has some interest in life in "Fanwai", and he did not find him interesting in the past, but he found that he was still quite stalked in Fanwai. Wang Qiuyu is quite real. Wang Qiuyu's reliability lies in the fact that he is very generous to his partner, and in his marriage with Ya Qiong in those years, Wang Qiuyu is definitely the one who bears more responsibility in life. Although Wang Qiuyu is not romantic, he will take care of people, and he is quite responsible, and he can be relied on, otherwise Zhu Yaqiong would not have so much attachment after the divorce.
I now understand that Guo Keyu said Zhu Yaqiong's "you don't do it" because she felt that Wang Qiuyu was a very good person, at least she would take care of people, and she also knew how to give you warmth, and these Guo Keyu may not have felt it in marriage.
Wang Qiuyu is a more down-to-earth and reliable one, a mind to earn money, the mind is all on the family and children, he is too busy, may not be able to take care of your inner feelings, but there should still be in life. Therefore, Guo Keyu said that Zhu Yaqiong may find that Wang Qiuyu is still good when she goes out for a spin, because when Zhu Yaqiong experiences a man like "Zhang He", she will find out how good Wang Qiuyu is.
People are always like this, in it and do not know the taste, when you go out and have a comparison, you know who is right for you and who is a better partner.
Let's talk about Zhang He again.
In his ten-year marriage with Guo Keyu, Zhang He also did not buy a ring or even do a wedding, but Zhang He never felt ashamed of Guo Keyu, he felt nothing, no wedding and no ring did not matter. Guo Keyu didn't say it, and he rightfully felt nothing. He also said that Guo Keyu was not materialistic, he was a person with a very low materialistic desire, he had been married for ten years, and he had not even bought a bag for Teacher Guo. He also admitted it himself, saying that I hadn't bought you anything in ten years. Then Guo Keyu joked that if you make up one now.
Zhang He is really quite stingy, which you can see through some details in the show. Talking to the big aunt of the market about the price of the dish, as well as arguing with the employees in the parking lot because of the parking fee, and feeling that they are very right, etc., this series of details can show that Zhang He is a very picky man.
Zhang He has been complaining about the ten-year marriage, complaining that Guo Keyu does not say that he loves him, complaining that Guo Keyu does not recognize his acting skills, complaining that Guo Keyu does not watch the films he plays, complaining that Guo Keyu does not know how to talk about love, and complaining that Guo Keyu does not take the initiative to contact him. What I want to ask is, what did you do for a ten-year marriage? Even if Guo Keyu didn't say his dissatisfaction with you to your face, do you really narcissistically think that you have no problem? Guo Keyu has given you enough dignity and not tore your marriage too much, but as a big man, can you be a little self-aware.
Obviously, Guo Keyu is the most aggrieved one!
The former film queen, so talented a woman, no wedding without a ring under married to an unknown little actor. Soon after getting married, I had children, and then I was devoted to taking the children at home and busy with the affairs of the family as a good wife, but the man who went out could not see your efforts, he could not understand your dedication to the family, and always felt that he had raised you very greatly. When you read books and watch movies at home, he is caught in the eye, and people will come to say, "You are very pampered, how leisurely and relaxed you are to watch the films."
Why that ten-year marriage was an internal friction for Guo Keyu, because her inner voice was not heard, and her efforts were not seen. She doesn't like to say, she won't cater to people, and if she has grievances, she would rather consume herself than say that the man feels good about himself and does a good job.
Zhang He, it is very easy for children to raise, right, do you think that children can bring up when they eat food? The children are all taken care of by Guo Keyu. Yes, Guo Keyu can't cook, but even if she doesn't cook much, there are aunts at home who can help her, but this does not mean that she is relaxed at home.
In that decade, Guo Keyu gave up her favorite career, she said that she did not regret it, but Zhang He still felt that she was quite aggrieved, please ask, what do you have to be wronged.
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Including their divorce, it was Guo Keyu who moved out with his son, and Zhang He lived alone in a large villa. Guo Keyu was busy moving and moving, busy with his son's transfer of school, and Zhang He did not help during this period. These are not my nonsense, but in the show they said themselves, Guo Keyu said that when he moved alone and his son transferred to another school, he felt that sense of loss and suddenly felt helpless.
There are also three years when Guo Keyu was ill, she often got up early in the morning to register for medical treatment, Guo Keyu did not say on the show, I don't know why Zhang He was not there in those three years. If it is really a good man, your wife has suffered so much physical trauma, you should push off all your work to accompany it.
Guo Keyu said the most love words, "What time is the plane", in Zhang He's eyes is strange, Zhang He's attitude, Guo Keyu can have something to say. A woman's heart is a little bit cold in marriage, and a woman's love for men is also a little less in marriage. I can especially understand Guo Keyu's statement that "there may be no love between us", which is a disappointment in the past marriage.
She has made it very clear that she has no regrets about the past ten years, she has given up her favorite career for herself, and as a result, you have to be aggressive and ask people whether they love you or not. Interesting? Zhanghe. I really felt that Guo Keyu was not worth it, Zhang He's unintentional eyebrows and the corners of his mouth rose, how proud he was, did he think he had won? It's ridiculous.
Look at the micro-expressions of Guo Caijie and Huang Zhizhong when Zhang He speaks in "Fan Wai", I want to laugh.
Among the three male guests in "Goodbye Lover", Zhang He is the one who cannot marry and stay away from.
If you still think Zhang He is good, I can only say that you are still too young.
Today's topic: Among the three male guests, why is Zhang He the most unreliable, and the contrast is so great? Welcome to leave a message to discuss.
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★ Author: YIBAO; emotional original author, writing about the warm emotional affairs of this world.