There is a sentence in the book "The Psychology of Marriage":
"Bad marriages turn people into lunatics, good marriages turn people into fools, and best marriages turn people into children."
Whether the relationship with the lover is good or not, you can see it by looking at the face.
Happy people, mention the lover full of smiles, full of hope for life, no matter how old, the mentality is always young;
Unfortunate people, mentioning life complaints, have no nostalgia for the world, regret the past, and become more and more hysterical every day.
Therefore, in marriage, it is very important to choose the right person.
When the world's definition of marriage becomes material and appropriate, and the door is right, the most important love is ignored.
If there is no love between two people, it is difficult to be happy no matter how suitable;
On the other hand, when love is full of heartland, even if it is not so appropriate, you can have a sweet day in the name of love.
Just like Feng Yuanzheng and Liang Dani.
As actors of the older generation, Feng Yuanzheng and Liang Danni, who are not active in film and television dramas, have not received much attention.
But the classic bridge they left behind has been talked about so far.
Liang Dani's "Who is the Third Party" and "The Jackal Project" were once called textbook-level acting skills.
Feng Yuanzheng's "Don't Talk to Strangers" has become a childhood shadow for many people, and also made the audience deeply aware of the seriousness of domestic violence;
How successful was Feng Yuanzheng in portraying Anjia and this character?
At that time, passers-by saw him, they would scold him, and even deliberately create trouble for him, and relatives and friends called Liang Dani to care about whether she had been abused by the family.
Because of Anjia and this role, Feng Yuanzheng has become a representative of domestic violence, living with such a person, sooner or later he will be beaten to death.
But the reality is that Feng Yuanzheng is very gentle, very delicate, serious and dedicated to intimate relationships, and is a rare good man.
In 1988, Feng Yuanzheng, who returned from studying in Germany, acted for the first time and starred in "Jackals Entering the House" with the popular actress Liang Dani.
At that time, Feng Yuanzheng, because of his poor appearance, was rejected by many crews, and it was not until he was 26 years old that he had this opportunity to perform.
At that time, Liang Dani had become a well-known star, because her father was a famous screenwriter, Liang Dani was active in the literary and art circles since she was a child, plus her own conditions were not bad, and naturally she did not worry about no drama.
When the two first met, Liang Dani was 34 years old and was in a marriage change in her first marriage.
At first, Liang Dani was not very optimistic about Feng Yuanzheng, because the seniors looked at the newcomers and inevitably looked down on the clumsy acting skills.
But Feng Yuanzheng is different, he is very serious in acting, he does not understand to ask, and he also has a personal opinion on role shaping;
Over time, Liang Dani looked at Feng Yuanzheng with surprise, and the two became more and more tacit about the play.
After the filming of "The Jackal Enters the House", Liang Dani took the initiative to introduce the film resource "General Feng Baiju" to Feng Yuanzheng, and then dragged him to the crew in Hainan to shoot a scene.
Because Feng Yuanzheng was on a business trip for the first time, plus he was a newcomer, it became a state of isolation to go there.
As a result, he followed Liang Dani all day, and in the process of getting along, he learned that Liang Dani was having a conflict with her husband.
At that time, Liang Dani never considered that the fledgling newcomer in front of her would be moved by her, and she did not expect that this sister-brother relationship with a difference of 8 years could be cultivated into a positive result.
One day, Liang Dani went home with the crew for a few days on leave, and when she came back, the divorce procedures had been completed, and she became a single woman.
After Liang Dani's divorce, her mood became very bad, she was depressed all day, and she fell into self-doubt, fortunately, Feng Yuanzheng asked for warmth, which gave her great comfort.
Gradually, Feng Yuanzheng had the urge to protect her, so he confessed, but was rejected by Liang Dani.
What she wanted was not compassion for sympathy, but a long-term reliable relationship, and it was obvious that Feng Yuanzheng at that time was not enough for Liang Dani to rely on.
But Feng Yuanzheng did not give up, continued to wait, continued to pursue.
After the two spent some time together, Liang Dani was also touched and held the mentality of trying.
When the love was deep, Feng Yuanzheng planned a marriage proposal, but was rejected by Liang Danni, because the man in front of her, who was 8 years younger, was still not enough to reassure her.
Feng Yuanzheng continued to wait.
A year later, Liang Dani agreed, still holding the mentality of trying, thinking about it, she did not want to miss Feng Yuanzheng, even if she changed her mind after three or five years, she would not regret it.
When the two finally took the step of marriage, the parents of both sides began to oppose it again.
Feng Yuanzheng's family did not agree to him marrying a second-married woman, and they could not accept the age gap between the two, after all, at that time, the sister-brother relationship was not yet accepted;
Liang Dani's family felt that Feng Yuanzheng's age was unreliable and did not want her to bear the hurt of the second marriage.
The worries in the homes of both sides are not unreasonable, but love is impulsive, and people who fall in love have no rationality to speak of.
Despite the parents' opposition, Feng Yuanzheng and Liang Dani still received a marriage license, no grand wedding, no large-scale banquet, and as soon as the two received the license, they lived an ordinary couple's life.
After marriage, the careers of the two were reversed, Feng Yuanzheng's acting career was hung all the way and became a representative of the acting school, while Liang Dani became a professional household of her mother.
But this does not affect the love of the two.
No matter who is good and who is bad, back home, the two are mutually respectful, together, and accompanied by each other.
This accompaniment is 28 years.
In 28 years of married life, the two are as loving as ever, still living a two-person world, with no children and no daughters under their knees.
Initially, it was Feng Yuanzheng who did not like children to be noisy, and after discussion between the two, they decided not to have children.
Later, Feng Yuanzheng had a slight yearning for the child, but considering that Liang Danni was old and hard to give birth, she could not accompany him to the crew, so she gave up again.
In this way, the two have been living in the world of two since they were married.
Although times have passed and both have entered old age, the sweetness has not diminished.
They recorded the daily life in Weibo, and Feng Yuanzheng remembered every anniversary, and every time he tirelessly prepared gifts and celebrated in a high profile.
Liang Dani enjoyed the care of Feng Yuanzheng and often took warm photos of the two.
On recent anniversaries, the two also kissed each other in a high-profile manner, and their eyes overflowed the screen with loving happiness.
With someone you love, pink bubbles bubble up every day.
Feng Yuanzheng and Liang Dani have been together for 28 years, 28 years, they have gone from not being favored to being recognized and blessed; from running into noisy to inclusive understanding, creating too many memories that belong only to the two of them.
They are husband and wife, but also friends, can achieve each other, can also accompany each other to old age.
As Mr. Yang Dai said:
"Husband and wife should be lifelong friends, the most important thing between husband and wife is the friendship relationship, even if it is not a close friend, at least it should be a partner who can be a partner or a partner who respects each other." 」
The love that goes from white to old is probably the kind of love that Feng Yuanzheng and Liang Danni have, not so suitable people, but they have become enviable.
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