Author: Shanjia
The outbreak of the new crown epidemic in 2020 seems to be in the inertia of the past, the "click" has been pressed the pause button, and the moon is not what it used to be. To this day, in and out of various public places, scanning the code has become a must, otherwise look at the door and sigh.
Recently, I watched the video of Xu Zhiyuan, the host of "Thirteen Invitations", interviewing Qian Liqun qian lao. Qian Lao, a famous professor at Peking University, was the scholar who proposed the concept of "exquisite egoism" and a disciple of the master Wang Yao, who was the same as Chen Pingyuan.
In response to the epidemic, Qian Lao mentioned that -
Now (under the epidemic), we are in an era without truth, consensus and certainty.
Q: "How do you respond at such a moment?" ”
Elder Qian said, "I have set three for myself, observe, and do not easily draw conclusions; wait, many things cannot be rushed now, you need to be patient; but you still have to stick to your own value judgment and cannot follow everyone in a mess." ”
A slight number of words, from a high position, also gives us an extra perspective on the problem.
It is said that the highest taste of a man is to look at his wife. So what kind of style is Mrs. Qian's wife?
01
Qian Liqun and his wife Cui Kexin, who met in Anshun, Guizhou, are said to be fallen people in the end of the world.
In the 1940s, there was a famous movie "Sanmao Wandering", and Qian Liqun played a rich young master in it, which was actually the background of his family situation.
Qian Liqun, born in Chongqing in 1939, attended primary and secondary school in Nanjing. Grandpa Xiang Lansheng, a well-known reformist, was the acting general office of the Qing Bank and the president of Zhejiang University; his mother Xiang Hao, who received English education from a young age; his father Qian Tianhe, an agronomist, who stayed in the United States to study at Cornell University, Hu Shi was his classmate, who served as director of the Department of Agriculture and Forestry of the Ministry of Economy of the National Government of Chongqing, and after 1949 he was the head of the agricultural group of the Taiwan Agricultural Revival Committee.
After 1949, there was a father in Taiwan, such a family background, it is conceivable that Qian Liqun was assigned to teach at the health school and normal school in Anshun, Guizhou after graduating from the department of Chinese in Peking University in 1960.
Cui Kexin graduated from Shanghai Zhongxi Girls' High School. When it comes to Chinese and Western women's middle schools, four words "noble women's middle school" are reflected in the brain, and the famous three sisters of the Song family, as well as Qianjin Daixi, the owner of Yong'an Company, are all studying there. In short, the girls there definitely have a certain economic strength in the family.
In 1960, Ke Xin graduated from Shanghai Medical College and was assigned to Anshun, Guizhou. From the bustling metropolis to the remote mountainous area, the gap between them can be imagined, that is, "from the sky, suddenly fell to the ground".
Perhaps fate is so strange, Qian Liqun and Ke Xin, married in Anshun, Guizhou, that was 1976. Yes, both are older youths.
In the words of Qian Liqun, I have a family background like that, a "dangerous element", and most people dare not take care of me. But Ke Xin was not afraid and dared to speak to me.
The most respectable thing is that when Qian Liqun was at a low point in politics, Ke Xin never lost his head and complained about himself, let alone immersed himself in the scene and felt empathy, but as if nothing had happened, the wind was light. N years later, her husband, Qian Liqun, directly called his beloved wife "particularly strong at heart".
Of course, many of Qian Liqun's disciples did not know why Teacher Qian, who was not tall and unassuming, had charmed Shanghai Miss Ke Xin and become the chief designer in his life?!
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In 1978, Qian Liqun was admitted to the department of Chinese of Peking University and studied as a graduate student. From 1960 to 1978, Qian Liqun had reached the age of 39 years old.
In Guizhou, the news that Qian Liqun was admitted to graduate school at Peking University was also in the newspaper, and people admired this talented little man.
Qian Liqun went to Beijing, while Ke Xin remained in Guizhou. The two are from a Dink family and have no children. It was not until 1984 that she was transferred to Beijing. In Ke Xin's eyes, if she comes, then she will be safe, and Guizhou is the most fulfilling place in her life, hanging pot to save the world, curing diseases and saving people, and sublimating her life moment here.
Although Qian Liqun has his advantages and strengths in professional achievements. But in life, he is weak. He needs his wife's big package and strong support. Since then, Ke Xin has held several positions, such as housekeeper, chef, secretary, cleaner, private doctor, pianist, financial planner, purchaser...
Once, a student saw with his own eyes that Master Cui in front of him walked with his head held high, and Teacher Qian in the back followed in a broken step, and his mouth was grinding over and over again: "I made a mistake, I made a mistake, you don't get angry, don't get angry, okay?" ”
Well, don't look at Qian Liqun is a well-known professor at Peking University, but in front of his wife, he is a full wife control, what is the use of face, and his wife's happiness is the king.
That's it, But Xin also hates being called "Lady Qian" the most, she has her personality, she has her independence, and she prefers people to call her "Dr. Cui".
03
Qian's husband and wife, lived in Liu Jiayao, Yanbei Garden, until they bought the house of Fontaine Lishe, but Xin was satisfied. After all, the house in front of her is either too far away or too old, and she can't afford to be born in Shanghai.
The joy of housewarming, loved ones and friends come to the door, the highlight is still to taste Ke Xin's craftsmanship. Like pearl balls that take time, Xin Xin will make them a day in advance, put them in the refrigerator, and steam them as soon as the guests arrive.
Seven or eight people, more than a dozen Shanghainese dishes, exquisite, exquisite, both the taste and vision of diners, let people eat fingers, it is really a feast of great professional standards.
Since then, every year friends have dinner, and Ke Xin is the one who designates the restaurant. Moreover, no matter who is in charge, she is the one in charge of ordering. Of course, Ke Xin always resigned while not giving in.
Looking at Ke Xin's demeanor of "great power in his hands and free wielding", Qian Liqun is two words "honorary wife" and four words "super honorary wife". My family can be Xin, the temperament is the most elegant, the dress is the most appropriate, the dishes ordered or the most eaten, this is the "perfect life"!
04
As they grew older, Ke Xin consulted with her husband Qian Liqun, and after breaking away, the two moved to the Taikang Nursing Home. This means disposing of all the properties and making the nursing home home.
It is hard to imagine how another person should face this cold world if one person takes the first step. Everything is predetermined, not predetermined, scrapped, said to do, this is Ke Xin's super execution.
When Ke Xin told many friends about this news, the friends did not feel surprised, because the affairs of the Qian family have always been responsible for her, and she is a big and small matter.
After staying in Taikang, Qian Liqun's masterpieces, one after another, the water flowed continuously. But Xin Xin is very calm, and sometimes he will deliberately Versailles and ridicule it: what is in the clouds and fog is in the clouds every day. You know, Qian Liqun is a well-known scholar, and the article is a lot of money!
Ke Xin loves to sing and dance, and as soon as she enters the nursing home, she becomes the backbone of the choir, an active member of the church, the core think tank of the organizers of the event, and the centripetal force of the new circle of friends. At the same time, she also introduced different friends for her husband and conducted friend interviews for him in order to have a better rest.
At this time, Ke Xin was no longer Mrs. Qian; and Qian Liqun had become Mr. Ke Xin. This has also become an active breakthrough for Ke Xin in his later years.
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It is said that the older people get, the more they fear death. But here in the Qian couple, all topics can be taken out and discussed.
No, in 2019, both of them were diagnosed with cancer, and both agreed not to undergo excessive treatment to ensure the quality of life. Qian Liqun still wrote his articles, but Xin still sang her songs.
On January 22, 2019, Ke Xin was found to be in advanced stages of pancreatic cancer. She suddenly decided to do a "farewell singing" at the community Spring Festival gala in six days.
Can this work? Qian Liqun was worried about his beloved wife. Sure enough, the next night, Ke Xin was in so much pain that he couldn't sleep. After that, I went to the infusion for two consecutive days until I had to be hospitalized.
Finally, on the day of the party, Ke Xin bid farewell to all the people she loved with a song "My Affection Waits for You", and her husband sat in the first row, using the camera to leave his wife's last time.
One day in March, Ke Xin told her husband, Qian Liqun, that she wanted to compile a collection of commemorative essays, including her own books, papers, and reminiscences, as well as "impression notes" of relatives, friends, and students, plus audio and video recordings.
Generally speaking, the commemorative anthology is a booklet after the person has left, and as for the protagonist, it is impossible to read. This time, Ke Xin went against the norm, and Qian Liqun was fully supportive. An editorial team of four students is formed to organize, edit, and contact for publication. In less than twenty days, the whole thing is done.
Every day, Ke Xin leaned back on the hospital bed and discussed the impressions of nearly forty friends with her husband, which was also the peak of her last time. Which one is well written, which one is wonderful, is the taste that can be taken out and savored.
Also, there are friends who can be associated with Xin for nearly forty or fifty years, and there are new friends who have only met new two or three months. To reminisce is to recall one's own history, and it is also the best time in life.
Here, I can't help but think of Mr. Yang Dai, and think of a book she wrote for her daughter Qian Zhen, "Our Qian Zhen". Inside, it is also a commemorative article written by many friends for Qian Yu. There are girlfriends in middle school, there are also peers who know each other well, and there are also students who are also teachers and friends.
Unfortunately, Qian Yan, the "reading seed of the Qian family", did not know the book behind her, which was a glimmer of light that her mother left in the human world for her...
And Ke Xin, without this regret, but after all, it is terminal cancer, and its life is forever fixed on August 4, 2019, and the life journey of more than 80 years ends here.
Before Xin Xin died, he also repeatedly told his husband: Don't hold a memorial service, just say goodbye. If any relatives, friends, or students want to see me, come to my house, look at the books I have left behind, the CDs I cherish, listen to the songs I sing, look at my videos, just like in the past when they came to my house as a guest for a small gathering, and relive the good times.
To this end, Ke Xin carefully chose a photo that she thought was the most beautiful and dignified, and she would always stare at her beloved friends with her clear eyes.
I like the kind of person who has experienced a lot of wind and waves, but still calmly like just stepping on the hem of his pants when it rains. There is a calm and unhurried strength in the personality of such a person, and he is also gentle and not in a hurry.
Today, on Ke Xin's piano, there are still blonde dolls wearing dresses and dresses, and her favorite dolls, sitting leisurely on the lid...