Me and my uncle

My uncle

When I was a child, every time I went to my grandmother's house, I liked to look at the pictures hanging in the picture frames on the wall. Those photos were all black and white, and there were no color photographs of that era. Most of them were pictures of my mother, and there was a family portrait that I didn't know the person on the top, so I asked my mother, and my mother whispered, "Don't ask, your grandmother will be unhappy when she hears it", and I don't ask anymore. But curiosity made me not give up, and when I got home, I asked my mother: "Who is in that picture?" "My mother said that it was the second uncle's family, they were all in the northeast, because there had been no news for many years, and grandma thought that my uncle was a filial son, and completely forgot about the eighty-year-old mother in the family, so she was very angry, saying that it was only when there was no such a son. Since then, no one has ever mentioned the second uncle's family in the northeast, and we have never seen my uncle's face. My mother told me that the reason why my second uncle did not come back was probably because of one thing, which only my mother knew. That was after the death of the uncle, the second uncle's family came back from the northeast, living with my grandmother and uncle, how to live in only one room? The second uncle wants to let the uncle and aunt remarry, because when the uncle and the uncle were married, they were married for the second time, and they also brought a child over, and the uncle did not have children, and now that the uncle is gone, the uncle should leave the family. However, the mother did not agree with the uncle's point of view, said a lot of good things about the uncle and the mother, said that the uncle was very filial to the grandmother, the second uncle was not happy, and returned to the northeast with the family, and there was no news from this trip.

In 81 years, my mother unfortunately left us with esophageal cancer, and the next year my grandmother also left, all of which my uncle in the northeast did not know. In 1987, when the Liaohe River in the northeast was flooded, the houses of the cousin's family were flooded, and the cousin and cousin-in-law came to their hometown in Guanli. The cousin found the second aunt's house with her childhood memories, and in the second aunt's house, she also knew about the changes in her hometown over the years. In the spring festival of the same year, my uncle returned, he was more than sixty years old at the time, and when he came back, he first went to the second aunt's house, and the second aunt was his sister. Listening to the second aunt said that the grandmother until her death was living with the great uncle, under the careful care of the great uncle, the grandmother lived to the age of ninety-one, the second uncle felt ashamed, sorry for the great uncle, naturally must go to the great uncle to apologize and express gratitude, the great uncle is a person with a particularly kind heart, needless to say, I forgive the second uncle! The second uncle came to visit our sisters and brothers at our house, heard that my academic performance is very good, due to various reasons did not go to college feel very sorry, said that he left the hospital, now the hospital is more and more formal, urgently need a large number of nursing staff, their local health school to find nursing professional self-funded students, asked me if I would like to go, I think the current situation at home does not allow me to have any more ideas, take care of the two younger brothers, let them start a family is what I should do. My brother, who had just graduated from graduate school in Beijing, heard that there was such a good opportunity, so he persuaded me with his uncle, saying: "There will be no more such opportunities in the future, this is the only opportunity you can change your destiny, you must seize it." "Selfishly, I longed for knowledge to change my destiny, and I finally wavered, so on April 1, 188 I stepped on the train to the northeast, which was the first time I went out by train alone, and after three days and two nights, I finally arrived at my uncle's place, who was waiting for me at the station early. In the next two months, I spent two months reviewing all the courses in the junior high school, took the registration exam for the health school, and became a self-funded student of the health school nursing major. It is precisely because of these three years of health school life that my uncle and my uncle's family have changed from strange to familiar, and my uncle is a noble person in my life, which has changed my destiny since then, and also made me feel the family affection that blood is thicker than water!

When the uncle was young, he followed his grandfather and uncle from Guanli to Guanwai, and the uncle and grandfather later returned to their hometown in Guanli, and the second uncle stayed because he found a stable job. Later, he married his aunt who was a fellow countryman and started a family, and gave birth to a cousin and a cousin. During the Cultural Revolution, my uncle organized criticism and self-criticism in the unit, and my uncle was a real person, he said: "Now I join the party and sneak, not open and unjust." Within a few days, my uncle was beaten to the right, left the unit to sweep the street to sweep the toilets, and then was sent down to Tunli, more than 30 miles away from the county seat, and the family moved from the county seat to the countryside. My uncle worked in the fields during the day, had to sweep the streets in the tun at night, and from time to time accepted the criticism of the poor and lower-middle peasants! The whole family could not lift their heads in the village and swallowed their breath to live. My uncle told me that it was precisely because he was afraid of the Nine Tribes that he broke off contact with the relatives of guanli's hometown! Until 79 years, the uncle was able to rehabilitate Zhaoxue and take off the hat of the rightist, and the family returned to the county seat. However, from 79 to 87 years, my uncle did not contact the people in Guanli's hometown, he said that it was because he was afraid that his grandmother had died long ago, and he did not know where my mother had married, and the contact information at that time was only to write letters, and my second aunt could not read, so there was no contact for various reasons.

In 1990, I graduated from the health school, a military hospital in Beijing recruited contract nurses, I was lucky to apply successfully, to Beijing is thousands of miles away from my uncle, I often write to my uncle to greet him and report safety. In the spring of 1991, my uncle's cousin wrote a letter saying that my uncle was sick and was going to beijing hospital to see a doctor, and I felt a pang of heartache when I heard it, it would not be cancer! I clearly remember that my brother went from the train station to my uncle and cousin and cousin, I arranged for hospitalization in the hospital, when I first saw my uncle, the tears flowed involuntarily, the uncle who was not fat was already skinny, lying on the stretcher, my uncle took my hand and said: "This time it is my turn." I understood what my uncle meant, because my aunt and my mother both died of esophageal cancer, and they had this family history. My uncle was not esophageal cancer, he was a colon cancer, and he had metastasized all over his body. When I was in the northeast, I remembered that my uncle was always constipated, and when he had a bowel movement, it was very painful, and every time it caused rectal prolapse. Long-term constipation for many years is also a cause of colon cancer. When my uncle was hospitalized in Beijing, I went to guard him during the day when I went to the night shift and the night shift, and I went to guard him at night when I went to the day shift. Uncle pain is so bad that general painkillers don't work, playing Durandine can't last long and start to hurt so much that he can't stand it, the nurse gave him 654-2 (scopolamine), I lied to him that it was Durandine, he felt that it didn't play a pain-relieving role at all, and said: "You girl lied to me." The hospital in Beijing can only alleviate the pain as much as possible, and the uncle's physical condition is getting worse and worse, after everyone's consultation, it is better to go back to the northeast. My brother and I sent my uncle to the train at Beijing Station, my brother bought them a sleeper ticket, my uncle was lying on the bunk below, I looked at my uncle who didn't know what to say, it was a strong tear, my uncle said to me: "Don't cry, it's okay." After a while, I received a letter from my cousin saying that after my uncle went back, he left after five or six days and left us forever!

How many times have I dreamed in my dreams that my uncle had returned to his hometown in Guanli, and I saw my uncle walking on the road, and I shouted vigorously, "Uncle... Uncle", but he didn't pay any attention to me, and every time he woke up from the dream crying. Uncle, let me thank you from the bottom of my heart, you made me an angel in white, saving lives and helping the injured! Thank you, Uncle, can you hear me? Uncle, I miss you!