My uncle Zhao Jincai, from snacks to hard work, preferring sons to daughters, but was scolded by his daughter-in-law every day

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There is such a man, his father died early, grew up in poverty, was lucky to meet the right person, married a couple, and gave birth to two women and a man. However, he is born to favor sons and daughters, and he has a low opinion of his two daughters, and the daughters who marry out are like water spilled. Seeing the Son, rejoicing, loving in every way, all of it is a Son.

The two daughters got married, gave nothing, and hid on the day of the wedding, and later often said: "The son-in-law and nephew have a big table, and they are humiliated when they see it." It turned out that I was afraid of losing people that day, so I didn't dare to meet. On the day of his son's wedding, he jumped up happily and said, "I am also happy to be scolded to death by my daughter-in-law." However, he eventually died of esophageal cancer, his daughter-in-law scolded him every day, and finally when he was dying, whether he regretted it, seeing a doctor and guarding two daughters, the daughter-in-law would only scold. Who is he? He is my uncle Zhao Jincai, and the story about him is today to talk to you.

First, poverty, hard-working

My uncle Zhao Jincai was born in 1940, three brothers and sisters, my aunt was born in 1947, and my mother was born in 1954. Uncle was born in the period of the War of Resistance Against Japan, when most of China was occupied by Japan, the Japanese did nothing wrong, the implementation of the three light policy, Henan at that time was poor and poor, at that time there were leaves, wild vegetables to eat that is also a kind of happiness, uncle is in that situation gradually grew up.

The children of poor families have long been in charge, and the uncle has been diligent since childhood, the home is cleaned cleanly, things are neatly arranged, and wild vegetables are dug every day. In those difficult years, my uncle actually went to graduate from elementary school, which was very difficult at that time, my aunt did not go to school for a day, and my mother graduated from junior high school.

In 1952, after graduating from elementary school, my uncle never went to school again, because his grandfather was not in good health and did not have the conditions to support him to go to school. The uncle is responsible for taking care of the family every day, and all the big and small things in the family are the responsibility of the uncle. My grandfather died two years later, my mother had not yet been born, and my uncle was under more pressure. Soon my uncle went to work in the city and became a coal miner. My uncle was only 14 years old at the time, digging coal like adult men, often half-dead from exhaustion. As he grew older, his uncle's physique strengthened and he slowly adapted to the intensity of his work. Money was sent to the family every three months until he left the coal mine in 2000.

The coal mine is very unsafe below, and it is very dangerous for the gas to explode and the coal block above to fall down. At that time, people with conditions would not go to the coal mine, and going to the coal mine was like going to the battlefield, and they would lose their lives at any time. The family's expenses all depend on the uncle to earn money, no matter how tired and dangerous it is. Once, my uncle was digging coal, and the coal on it collapsed and fell, smashing my uncle to the ground, and he was slightly injured. Although dangerous, it is worth it to live well at home. It can be said that without my uncle digging coal in the coal mine to fight for money, my mother could not go to school, let alone go to junior high school.

2. Get married and have children

Uncle has been in the coal mine for many years, rarely goes home, and introduces many women, and uncle always looks down. The uncle is medium-sized, a pair of large eyes are bright and energetic, and he looks white, which can be said to be a white-faced student. Plus I'm a worker, so my vision is a bit high.

The uncle asked the girl to be beautiful and virtuous. Someone in the mine introduced a few to his uncle, but after talking a few times, there was no news, maybe it was fate. In the blink of an eye, his uncle was thirty years old, his aunt was already married, and his grandmother jumped in a hurry, asking him to come on a blind date. In the spring of 1972, my uncle returned to his hometown and went to meet him the next day.

The next day, after breakfast, he headed to the east of the village, and in the distance, a matchmaker and a young girl were waiting for their uncle. Only to see the girl standing tall, willow eyebrows and thin waist, a pair of Dan phoenix eyes, skin shengxue, let the uncle's heart blossom. But the uncle pretended to be calm, the clouds were light and the wind was light, and he didn't care, and the matchmaker motioned for the two to walk around and talk.

The uncle walked in front, and the girl followed closely behind. It was late spring, there were no clouds, and the warm wind was blowing, which made people feel relaxed. Birds chirp in the distance, fish swim around in the roadside stream, and rapeseed flowers bloom in the distance, and there are bursts of fragrance and refreshing spleen. At this time, my uncle said: "Today is a good day, the scenery is better, and as soon as you come, the beautiful scenery is eclipsed." In a word, let the girl laugh happily, let the girl can not extricate herself from now on, unless the uncle does not marry, the girl naturally became an aunt. They lived together for 42 years until the death of his uncle.

At this point, they were officially engaged. Thereafter, the uncle wrote a letter to the aunt every ten days until marriage, which became a monthly letter after marriage. In the blink of an eye, it was almost the Spring Festival, and on the twenty-sixth day of the waxing moon of this year, my uncle got married, and there were many people. After the banquet, the uncle directly held the aunt on the bed, and then began to loosen his clothes and taste the joy of fish and water until the east shone.

Happy days, it feels like they pass very quickly. Five years have passed, and cousin Hailing, cousin Haiju and cousin Baoping have been born one after another, which has made the family full of infinite vitality and full of laughter.

Uncle is a very patriarchal person, boys are heirlooms, there is no boy to earn money and what is the use, money is for boys to spend. Girls grow up to marry, married women are like women who spill out, have a child with the surname of male, and start a business for the man, so giving birth to a girl is a loss-making business.

Due to the uncle's preference for sons and daughters, the cousin was kind and good-tempered and did not say anything, and the cousin often quarreled with the uncle with a big temper, and the uncle jumped violently in return. Since then, when we meet, we have quarreled, and it is really not speculative for more than half a sentence. The cousin was naturally kind and honest, and the uncle said whatever he said and never resisted. It can be said that the family, that is, the uncle alone has the final say, and when the uncle is not at home, the aunt has the final say.

Third, the children are filial piety, and the daughter-in-law is scolded

Time flies like a flash. Cousins and cousins married one after another. When the cousin got married, the cousin brother-in-law was from the village, the uncle hid early and did not meet, in front of outsiders often said that it was humiliating, how can the daughter get married? When the cousin got married, the two quarreled even more, and the uncle avoided it.

Although the uncle is not too good to the daughter, the two daughters are still filial piety, the family planting and harvesting crops is all done by the daughter and son-in-law, and any problems in the family are the daughters and sons-in-law running before and after. Even so, my uncle still looked at them with colored glasses, which was still unfriendly.

Finally the cousin married his daughter-in-law, and on the day of the wedding, the uncle smiled and smiled, his spirit was vibrant, and he said to his aunt and mother: "The son is married well, and a family has come." The daughter married is gone, no one. The aunt said, "My daughter-in-law argues with you every day, and I see if you are still happy." The uncle said, "Even if you are scolded to death, you are comfortable, willing, and happy to die."

Since the cousin and sister gave birth to a child, they scolded Sang Every day, and the uncle and aunt pretended not to hear it, and the cousin was afraid of his wife's death. The wife told her to go east, she did not dare to go west, and listened to her wife in everything, or just knelt on the washboard. The cousin saw that the mulberry scolding was ineffective, and directly scolded. Anyway, everything was scolded, and the uncle had no choice but to hide and cheekily go to the son-in-law's house to eat. At this time, he did not know how to feel.

The uncle came back from dinner, and the next morning, at dawn, the cousin began to scold, scolding for ten minutes and then resting. After eating breakfast, he began to scold, and if he had not reacted, then a brick smashed against the pot, only to touch a large hole in the iron pot. The cousin vented successfully and left arrogantly.

What to do? Buy a pot, in order to prevent the pot from being smashed again, stay with your cousin's house for a few days. This is a disgrace, and the cousin sees her uncle coming from afar and knows what is going on. The cousin immediately bought vegetables and cut meat to entertain the uncle, at this time the uncle's face was red, saying some panicked words, and the cousin did not expose it. Fast forward more than ten years, and the uncle spent time with his cousin in the quarrel between the daughter-in-law and the cousin.

4. My uncle died of illness

One day the uncle was eating, suddenly felt that he could not eat, the aunt was scared, immediately called the cousin, the cousin brother-in-law drove with the uncle a check, esophageal cancer advanced. The family was stunned, how could they get this disease. I think my uncle has a lot to do with my cousin and sister, and I get angry every day, so how can I not get sick?

Go home and get an injection and take your medicine, it's only been a month. This month, the cousin and the cousin rotated for twenty-four hours, and the cousin never came to see it. Whether my uncle regretted it before his death is unknown. In the autumn of 2014, his uncle died of illness at the age of 74.