These two days I read a copy of Stephen Gass's "How to Be An Imperfectist", and at first glance the title of the book startled me.
Because we have been indoctrinated from an early age to pursue perfection and strive for excellence, how can this book make us imperfectists?
It was out of curiosity that I read it carefully, and it didn't matter, it opened up a new world for me.
It turns out that the "pursuit of perfection" that we have always regarded as the concept is actually a wish that can never be realized.
Without going into detail about how to be an imperfector, let's take a look at what a perfectionist is.
The greatest characteristic of perfectionists is the pursuit of perfection, and their desire is based on the belief that everything is not satisfied and imperfect, so they fall into contradiction.
There is no perfect thing in this world, anyone who wants to be perfect, it is simply difficult to ascend to the heavens, there is an old Chinese saying, called ten things and nine weeks, which means that you plan ten things, basically nine things will not be satisfactory.
Because everyone is an independent individual, has his own thoughts, and everything has its own inherent characteristics.
If a perfectionist wants to change it according to his own vision, but no matter how impulsive, how hard you try, no matter how much you enjoy it, you will give up halfway.
It is not that he himself does not work hard, but that his requirements are too harsh, too perfect, and in fact imperfection rises and falls, in every detail, leading to the final failure, can only admit defeat.
The pursuit of perfection is a beautiful and attractive thing, but the world is not perfect, how do you pursue perfection?
The author is a natural slacker, and in order to change his habits, he began to study various habit-making strategies.
After years of hard work, he found that people's micro-habits can change lives.
So, he created the "Micro Habits" series, which sold more than 300,000 copies, and this "How to Be An Imperfectist" is one of them.
Perfectionists mostly have procrastination and inferiority complexes, and sometimes they have obsessive-compulsive, entangled and flattering personalities, and they always think very well and be prepared for everything, but they delay acting. I always feel that if there is anything that has not been taken into account, I must prepare enough to do it.
In this way, good opportunities are wasted.
There is a small story in ancient China that many people have read.
"When the Western Shu goes to the South China Sea, I don't know how many thousands of miles it is", which shows that it is quite difficult to go to the South China Sea.
The rich man wants to buy a boat to go, but he has been thinking about it, and it is naturally easy to buy a boat, but this is just his idea, it is just a perfect plan, he only stays in thinking, and does not implement.
In this way, it becomes very difficult not to do the simplest things.
In his mind, he just takes suffering for granted, has no subjective initiative, does not do it himself, and laughs at others.
The poor man began a long journey with only a bottle and a bowl, and although there were many difficulties, he was ambitious, determined, overcame difficulties, and finally returned.
And the rich man was shocked when he heard the news of his return, how is this possible?
This story tells us that the rich man's pursuit of perfection and his desire to go to the South China Sea must be prepared to set off, while the poor man's direct action has returned from the South China Sea, and he is not ready.
For procrastination, inferiority complex, obsessive-compulsive disorder, tangled hearts, flattering personality... No matter how good the idea is, no matter how well planned, it is useless for you not to do it.
Only by improving your mobility can you easily find the strength to do things in the case of your poor state.
In fact, in our daily life, we often make such mistakes.
For example, sometimes I want to write an article, but I don't bother to write because some materials have not been found, and I miss the opportunity to win.
For example, when it is time to work, we suddenly feel a little hungry, and we will think of satisfying the desire of the tongue first.
For example, we meet the person we like, but we are ashamed to express it, regardless of chasing, and we lose touch with the person we love.
So, this excuse, procrastination, and self-consolation, they all have a common name, called perfectionism.
If a person wants to succeed without taking the first step, he will never see the dawn of victory. No matter how perfect you think, no matter how well you plan, but if you don't act, everything is in vain.
In The Book How to Be Imperfect, we are told that even in poor shape, we can easily find the power to do things.
In the book, twenty-two countermeasures are proposed for the five major manifestations of perfectionism, using micro-habit strategies to make meaningful progress by using imperfect thinking.
To be honest, perfectionism actually gives you a reason not to do it, but imperfection can make you more actionable.
In this book, Gass gives his own point of view, analyzes the definition and harm of perfectionism, and distinguishes the detached mentality and changes of perfectionists.
If we want to become happier, healthier, and more efficient, we must be imperfectists, imperfectors are not not pursuing a perfect life, but do not force themselves to be perfect, to improve their mobility, bravely face failure, the result is easy to progress faster than perfectionists, and the odds of success increase exponentially.
Perfectionism represents limitation, while imperfection foreshadows infinite possibilities.
And pure "perfectionists" are actually completely incapable in the real world, because they are too much for perfection and often do nothing, because perfection will make them lose a lot.
So, we want to be an imperfectionist, if so much is said, you don't know how to do it, then I suggest you look at this "Imperfection", it will definitely inspire you, make your life more fulfilling, more likely to reap success.
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