Controlling emotions can control life, Confucius's emotional management wisdom

Confucius spoke highly of the Book of Poetry, and Confucius's perception of the Book of Poetry appeared many times in the Analects, such as the following chapters:

Zi Yue: "Guan Ju", happy but not obscene, mournful but not hurtful.

First of all, let's talk about the "Book of Poetry", which is the earliest collection of poetry in China, different from the famous poetry and song of the Tang and Song Dynasties, the "Book of Poetry" records the lives and voices of ordinary people, covering all aspects of people's lives such as love, customs, war, labor, etc., is an extremely valuable Confucian classic, and is also listed as one of the "Four Books and Five Classics".

"Guan Ju" is derived from the first part of the "Book of Poetry ZhouNan", "Guan Guan Ju Dove, in the River Continent, a lady, a gentleman and a good gentleman" is very widely spread, "Guan Ju" describes the romantic story of a man pursuing his crush.

Confucius believed that the love in "Guan Ju" is the most beautiful appearance of love, and what is the reason?

When we are in love, the emotions of happiness and sadness always switch back and forth, and it is important to be happy with each other in the relationship, in addition to this, it is very important to have the "beauty of neutralization": the happiness and sadness in love will not exceed the scale, men are polite, women are generous, and do not easily amplify emotions.

In this era of encouraging personal expression, in the face of emotional ups and downs, if you can't grasp the bottom line and measure, whether it is excessive revelry or sadness, it will eventually be an overdraft of your own body and mind.

Confucius drew a clear line for us, the boundary of "happiness" is "fornication", can not turn happiness into indulgence; the boundary of "mourning" is "hurt", there may be disappointment or frustration in the heart, but do not be discouraged by all thoughts.

We are not cold machines, it is inevitable to produce emotions, and one of the important indicators of a person's maturity is whether we can control emotions within the boundaries of reason, and only in this way can we truly feel the beauty of life.