How to use this "master key" to compliment well

Compliments are a good lubricant in life, and many embarrassing things can be solved one by one. Of course, we must also pay attention to "what songs are sung in what mountains" and what keys are used to open what locks.

1. Heterosexual entanglement.

This is a problem that plagues a lot of women. In today's society, young women are exposed to more and more men in their lives and work, which naturally makes some men move their hearts and have non-divided thoughts. How to make men give up their ideas without affecting the relationship is a difficult problem for young women. We can compliment each other first in conversation, so that it is difficult for the other party to act in the name of their own fame. As the saying goes, "Everyone has a heart for beauty." You are young and beautiful, and others want to be close to you, so you cannot be dismissed as a "lustful person". You might as well put a top hat on him and force him to dispel evil thoughts. There is a good-looking woman who is in charge of product sales planning at a company. After consulting with the manager of a certain company, the manager quietly took the initiative to invite her: "Miss, would you like to have dinner with me in the evening?" She had to be on time for the appointment. After the meeting, the manager was overjoyed and affectionate. The two ate and talked. The woman tried her best to persuade the manager to drink, constantly introduced the company's development plan to him, and praised the manager from time to time, saying that he was a cultivated, temperamental, trustworthy and respected entrepreneur. The manager was quite proud and pretended to be modest: "You have passed the prize." Finally, they danced together and it was over. approach

a) Other times, the manager shook the woman's hand and said solemnly, "You are a woman with self-respect and self-love, and I will always remember that you are a perfect girl in my heart."

2. Self-elimination.

After saying the wrong thing, you can subtly compliment the other party and achieve the purpose of self-liberation. Anyone will dislike ugly words and will never refuse praise. Moderate praise can not only warm the other person's heart, but also get rid of the dilemma of saying the wrong thing. Why not?

A tall, thin lady bought a new shirt and excitedly invited her girlfriend to comment. Seeing that her girlfriend was getting thinner and thinner in her new clothes, she blurted out: "This dress is not for you." Suddenly his face was as heavy as water. Seeing that her girlfriend blamed herself, she said happily: "Slim and slender figure like you, if you wear loose and fat knee-length clothes, you will become more and more elegant and elegant." Those who are short and fat can't wear this temperament. The young lady immediately became angry with pleasure.

The girlfriend's words not only subtly implied that the dress was not suitable for her own body, but also sincerely pointed out the criteria for choosing clothes. At the same time, he euphemistically pointed out the characteristics of his body with such a beautiful word as slender and slender, and compared it with short and fat people to take care of each other's self-esteem. A seemingly flattering sentence actually contains an infinite sense of mystery, making it appear euphemistic and subtle, and cleverly solving the problem for itself.

3. Stop arguing.

People get along with each other, quarrels are inevitable, and couples are no exception. Once there is an argument, even if you think you're right, avoid too much criticism and blame. At this time, the best way is to use ridicule and humorous words to extinguish the anger of the other party, so as to achieve the effect of making big things small. A woman is vain. When she and her husband discussed attending a friend's wedding, she pestered him to buy an expensive flower hat. At this time, the husband and wife are in an "economic crisis", and the husband naturally refuses to agree to spend the money. During the quarrel, the wife said angrily: "Xiao Xi and Xiao Jin's lovers are too generous, and have bought this kind of flower hat for their wives, unlike you, stingy!" The husband did not want to argue, deliberately exaggerating: "But are they as beautiful as you?" I dare say that if they were as pretty as you are, they wouldn't have to buy a hat at all, would they? When his wife listened to the humorous compliments, she turned her anger into laughter, and an argument ceased.

4. Deal with arrogant people.

Proud people value self-image and feel good about themselves. In dealing with them, we may wish to satisfy their honor and self-esteem by celebrating their achievements, knowledge and talents in a realistic way in the way they like. This can psychologically shorten the distance with them and also play a role in influencing their attitudes. For example, there is a director who is naturally proud and it is difficult for strangers to approach him. His blunt, indifferent face was often discouraging. A clerk in the field knew his temper, and when they met, he smiled and handed over a cigarette and said: "Director, as soon as I entered the door, someone told me that the director was a cheerful person, conscientious, compassionate, and especially took care of outsiders." I was overjoyed to hear this. I love working with such a leader, so happy! The director's face immediately showed a smile, and then he returned to the truth, which was really rewarding.

The success of this staff member is attributed to the first few compliments. In this way, the other party is embarrassed to treat a person who compliments himself and respects himself coldly. Nature will become amiable under the psychological control of maintaining self-image. There are two things to pay attention to when using compliments: First, be realistic. Praise is not out of thin air, but real, so that the other person will feel happy. If you engage in disgusting flattery, sober and arrogant people will treat him as a villain and look down on him even more. Two flower hats. At this time, the husband and wife are in an "economic crisis", and the husband naturally refuses to agree to spend the money. During the quarrel, the wife said angrily: "Xiao Xi and Xiao Jin's lovers are too generous, and have bought this kind of flower hat for their wives, unlike you, stingy!" The husband did not want to argue, deliberately exaggerating: "But are they as beautiful as you?" I dare say that if they were as pretty as you are, they wouldn't have to buy a hat at all, would they? When his wife listened to the humorous compliments, she turned her anger into laughter, and an argument ceased.

The success of this staff member is attributed to the first few compliments. In this way, the other party is embarrassed to treat a person who compliments himself and respects himself coldly. Nature will become amiable under the psychological control of maintaining self-image. There are two things to pay attention to when using compliments: First, be realistic. Praise is not out of thin air, but real, so that the other person will feel happy. If you engage in disgusting flattery, sober and arrogant people will treat him as a villain and look down on him even more. Second, praise should be enough. Praise here is just a means of changing the attitude of the arrogant, a prelude to communication. If you don't get into the right topic in time to praise, it loses its meaning.

5. Ingenious accusations.

At the fashion counter of a department store, for a while, customers complained and accused the saleswoman of having a poor service attitude. The counter director's solution is really different, and the effect is amazing. Instead of blaming the saleswomen, he praised them. He told the ladies who named the guests: "Some guests have greatly appreciated your kind service and hope to continue to work hard in the future." "Some guests say you're polite." As a result, their hospitality has changed a lot, their smiles are full of smiles, and their business has gradually improved and become prosperous.

It is an educational method that is proficient in female psychology. In general, women are accused of saying, "What flaws do you want to fix?" They even feel that all their personalities have been denied and are prone to resist or cry. But with a little praise, they will be radiant and become very active. If you want to correct a woman's flaws, it's important to praise her strengths rather than point them outright. In this way, they can give full play to their strengths while getting rid of their own shortcomings.

It can be said that the compliment is a fully modeled master key, which is very useful and extremely effective.

The compliment is a fully-fledged master key that is versatile and effective.

Stop. Praise here is just a means of changing the attitude of the arrogant, a prelude to communication. If you don't get into the right topic in time to praise, it loses its meaning.

Remember, use the master key well.